By Patricia Morgan
How to gain family cooperation and harmony
By Patricia Morgan
“For the last time, will you do what I ask?” Does this sound familiar? Many of us walking the halls of our homes, workplaces or shopping malls feel weary, helpless, frustrated, stressed, used, abused and resentful in our relationships. Yet, more improved connections and cooperation can be learned and put into action. I know this because, not only was I once a first rate nagger, but for over fifteen years I have facilitated people in turning their nags into clearer and more effective messages. In that time I have collected over 600 real, live nags. Here is a small sample:
Nagging our children, our spouse or anyone, for that matter can create brick walls and damage trust. Embedded in nags are demoralizing messages--“I believe you are incompetent without me nattering in your ear,” or “I see you as irresponsible and that is why I take over what is your responsibility.” If nothing else nagging teaches others how to grab our attention. When they goof off we reward them with our undivided focus. Nags can be harmful to us, as well. We can feel less and less competent and effective in our roles as we continue to be caught in useless efforts to achieve our goals. Of course, we need to and have a right to express our wants and desires. Suggestions on how to better communicate follow:
Change your Own Behaviour:
If this list looks familiar and you are asking, “What the heck is left for me to say or do?” you are a smart cookie for reading this articles. Here we go in answering that question.
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