Mommy, how does the baby come out?

[mumof3boyz]

I've found this really helpful in teaching the boys about the birthing process... and it's not graphic really since it's an animation, not video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xath6kOf0NE

I also have the book "Baby on the Way" by William Sears, Martha Sears and Christie Watts Kelly. Blake has just poured over this book now that he can read... and he informed me very matter-of-factly today that "Mommy, the baby comes out of your bum." It didn't concern him at all! Until now if the subject came up, I just told them that the doctor cut mommy's tummy open and took the baby out... but with a VBAC looming (hopefully!) I'm gonna have to change my story! Another cool thing about this book is it gives your kids ideas of how to get more involved when Mommy's pregnant and is just so informative on a 5-9 year old level.

Just thought I'd share what's working for us! What are you guys using?

[kim]

We've not needed to be specific about it before now with the kids having been so young when Fiona and then Callum were born. Dh's standard answer prior to now has been "It comes out the same way it got in!" Believe it or not, that has been a satisfactory answer as far as they have been concerned. I know the questions will come, though. From both Liam and Fiona who are now old enough to start thinking about it.

[ChamomileFriend]

Thanks! I will def. show this to my oldest who is still very curious as to how his sister got out of my tummy. I told him I had to push her out but he has been trying to figure out out of where or what so I need to quit stalling with the answer! He also thinks it is so unusual that his sister does not have a penis - he saw her during a diaper change and was like, "it has a hole in it! why doesn't she have a penis?" oh dh and I got a good laugh out of that.

[JRBL]

Thanks gal! That's awesome! I've told my five and seven year old that it comes out of your pee-pee... as they have NO clue what a vagina is. Ya know? Emma, my oldest, saw the video of the twins being born, but it was taken from my back, so she saw that they came out of my "bottom". ::snort:: So, all this time she thought I pooped babies out. ::snort:: kids are soooooooooo funny.

Cham- I imagine I'm going to get quite a bit of that after Wyatt comes... "What's that on him? He has a weird, pee-pee!" I haven't even tried to prepare them for it, I just want it to happen and then explain and it *not* be a big deal... ya know? "Well, that's what little boys have... he's a little boy. The girls *know* boys and girls are different, but up until this they haven't known exactly how. So it'll be very educational.

[mumof3boyz]

It's amazing what they can learn at such a young age! And I'm finding that 4 and 6 year olds learn & accept and put it out of their mind... the younger they are the less of a Big Deal it is. So for what it's worth, I'd encourage other moms to explain in simple terms when they're young! My own mom told me at about age 3-4, I remember standing in the kitchen and her telling me, but it was only a few years later that I actually started remembering details... I'd rather they hear it from me than the other kids at school!!!

[JRBL]

Originally Posted by mumof2boyz

It's amazing what they can learn at such a young age! And I'm finding that 4 and 6 year olds learn & accept and put it out of their mind... the younger they are the less of a Big Deal it is. So for what it's worth, I'd encourage other moms to explain in simple terms when they're young! My own mom told me at about age 3-4, I remember standing in the kitchen and her telling me, but it was only a few years later that I actually started remembering details... I'd rather they hear it from me than the other kids at school!!!

My mom is SUPER prudish, so I never learned anything from her... not even that my period was coming. I love my mother dearly and consider her one of *THE* most perfect women on the planet... but holy moly she's just too much of a prude to have THREE daughters! I had NO idea where babies came from or what caused pregnancy or what sex was... even at 14 years old. Can you believe that? I found out by losing my virginity. Ugh.

Anyway.... all that to say, that's why I tend to be a bit more blunt than I maybe should be... I don't want my girls (well, and boy now) being "curious" and learning through experience... ASK AWAY! Let's *talk* about it!

[mumof3boyz]

Jen, I totally get that! My mom was pretty prudish but the reason she was so forthcoming with us was that *her* mom never told her a THING! She thought she was dying when she got her period so she made sure us girls (there's 5 in my family) knew what was going on with our bodies! And so much better to be armed with the facts (even the less romantic ones!) than to stumble upon them by experience....

[BlessedMommy]

Originally Posted by JRBL

Cham- I imagine I'm going to get quite a bit of that after Wyatt comes... "What's that on him? He has a weird, pee-pee!" I haven't even tried to prepare them for it, I just want it to happen and then explain and it *not* be a big deal... ya know? "Well, that's what little boys have... he's a little boy. The girls *know* boys and girls are different, but up until this they haven't known exactly how. So it'll be very educational.

Yeah, it's very educational! Just be prepared to guard him from his sisters. LOL. My oldest tries to grab her brother's boy parts sometimes if he's diaperless.

[Jessy]

Haha, I have to laugh at this as I've never thought much about it. We are pretty open about things though so I'm sure when our kids ask we'll just tell them age-appropriately that it comes out of the womans pee-pee. I've known of women telling their kids all sorts of strange things and I find that disheartening because they are going to learn eventually, I mean, as said before, I'd rather them hear the truth from me than to hear some false part truth from other sources.

[plaid]

Ha ha a funny along these lines - The other day Ds and Dd were talking about who was better boys or girls. Ds was saying he thought boys could bike and run better than girls so Dd piped up and said well girls can have babies and boys can't. So Ds was thinking about that and said Momma my wife is going to have two jobs.
1. To have babies all the days of her life.
2. To take care of the babies.
Then he had a puzzled look on his face and asked " Mom am I going to have enough sperm for that?"