Frustrating day with my 5 yr old :(

[Katielady]

We have dealt with lying from Braiden a lot lately. None of the boys thus far have been bad about taking things they aren't suppose to, but when something gets accidentally broken...oh boy...we have definitely had some issues there with Braiden lying. Specifically blaming Hayden or Cash when it was obvious he was the only one who could have done it. (being taller, bigger - only one able to reach items in question, and also one situation where we actually saw him do it then turn around and bold face lie to us)

I hate to say it but the only thing that finally seems to have nipped it in the bud for us is a sound spanking from Harold and a solid hour in the corner. We tired removal of toys, games, privileges (*such as dessert with meals*). We tried light spankings. But the last incident where we witnessed him breaking a bunch of crayons and then coming and telling us Hayden did it (the crayons were in the shelf on a cabinet Hayden could have no way reached, but Braiden easily could have, not to mention me seeing him do it). That ws the last time he lied to us. Harold and I sat down with him, told him why he was getting spanked and how the consequences could be very bad (exampled how his dad had lied and been in jail) and then he got a spanking with a belt and was sent to the corner of the living room where he could hear everyone playing on the playstation but couldnt participate himself.

Each kid is different. Praying for you. This age is so tough to figure out.

[irishmum2boys]

How are things going?

[ChamomileFriend]

Ack! I had typed a long message responding to everyone but I guess I took too long writing it bec I had to log back in and now it is gone I will try to recapture it!

Jayne, thank you for asking how things were going. Went into labor Sat morning so I didn't get to try some of the things we talked about last. A. was good for my parents over the weekend and has been without incident since Sun afternoon/evening when we got home, so that is good.
I still do want to try drawing things out with him as well as looking into some things just to help him with his impulse control.

Esther, I do think he lies bec he is scared of getting in trouble and that maybe I need to focus more on the touching/taking w/o asking (still addressing the lying too, of course, but not as if it is the heart of the issue). He gets curious about things and then just does not stop and ask, he will just do whatever comes to mind first and that is where he gets in trouble.

Madre, while his dumping the pail could have been retaliatory I don't think that it was. When he is mad at us he will tell us he is not our friend anymore or that we are not allowed to play a certain game with him for a certain amount of time, but never anything else.


Thank you for all the hugs and advice and prayers!
Becky, I do pray that God keeps my babies close to him always no matter what. I know as a human parent I will never be perfect, but their father in heaven always will be, which is comforting.

[Madre]

Originally Posted by ChamomileFriend

Madre, while his dumping the pail could have been retaliatory I don't think that it was. When he is mad at us he will tell us he is not our friend anymore or that we are not allowed to play a certain game with him for a certain amount of time, but never anything else.

Well, at least he's up front about it, right?

[ChamomileFriend]

Originally Posted by Madre

Well, at least he's up front about it, right?

LOL he certainly is. Now if only he learned to be that up front about everything. Ah well, in time and with practice it will come.

[Timmys mom]

Originally Posted by ChamomileFriend

When he is mad at us he will tell us he is not our friend anymore or that we are not allowed to play a certain game with him for a certain amount of time, but never anything else.

LOL! Timmy does those same things! He's even tried to tell me to go to time out before or give me a spanking. It's funny how they want to be in charge even at a young age. I think the chart is a good idea. I was just talking to Timmy last night that every decision he made had consequences. (He was acting up instead of settling down in bed so I told him we wouldn't play the night night game. (which is usually in the dark us going back and forth saying silly things). He was so upset about it, but then I said "you chose to use up too much time complaining and fighting, so now we don't have any time left for the game." I've always stressed when he's in trouble, that it was his choice and he made the wrong one, so now he'll have to live with the consequences.