peeing on the floor?

[4HisGlory]

My son is 4 1/2, he has been potty trained with no issues including at night since he was about 3. For the past few weeks, every couple days I find him peeing on the floor or my couch We have been spanking his butt for doing this because he has no reason and is doing it to see his pee come out ect. I have no reason to think it is a medical issue, but feel it is simply foolishness. Have any of you ever experienced anything like this or have any advise for me?

also my dh says it seems to only be when I am home with him on my days off. we work opposite days and nothing has really changed with my work

[GenLovesDen4ever]

Thats interesting Becky. My son did that sort of thing at that age. It was funny actually, bc instead of peeing in the potty, he once ran to the front door opened it and peed out the front door. I think its actually just curiosity. He's only 4 really. If spanking isnt working, maybe just patient persistance in gently but firmly reminding him that he's supposed to pee in the toilet, not on the furnature, taking him to the toilet. I suspect its just a 4yo curiosity thing, he doesnt see pee as a dirty or bad thing, its just something that comes out of his bert and it looks cool and stuff. Its like kids that age will just pour water or some other liquid onto the floor, not always to be naughty, but just because it looks SO COOL how it splashes onto the floor. Their little brains do not have the capacity to think beyond the fact that it is just SO COOL to see his pee splash onto the fabric and the cool patterns it makes.

It is obviously a habit you want to break, but Id do it in a patient and persistant sort of way.

Thats me tho...

[melloyellochelle]

That is interesting. He must love to see it come out, or something? Grace, only 2 1/2 though, was going anywhere and everywhere for awhile. I was getting so frustrated. I told her until she went to the potty every time, she was going to be back in diapers. We did that for a very short time and she is back to going potty in the potty every.single.time. I don't remember her last accident, actually. YAY! But I don't know if putting him diapers would help so much. Might be more embarassing than anything else.

[4HisGlory]

Originally Posted by GenLovesDen4ever

Thats interesting Becky. My son did that sort of thing at that age. It was funny actually, bc instead of peeing in the potty, he once ran to the front door opened it and peed out the front door. I think its actually just curiosity. He's only 4 really. If spanking isnt working, maybe just patient persistance in gently but firmly reminding him that he's supposed to pee in the toilet, not on the furnature, taking him to the toilet. I suspect its just a 4yo curiosity thing, he doesnt see pee as a dirty or bad thing, its just something that comes out of his bert and it looks cool and stuff. Its like kids that age will just pour water or some other liquid onto the floor, not always to be naughty, but just because it looks SO COOL how it splashes onto the floor. Their little brains do not have the capacity to think beyond the fact that it is just SO COOL to see his pee splash onto the fabric and the cool patterns it makes.

It is obviously a habit you want to break, but Id do it in a patient and persistant sort of way.

Thats me tho...

I'm thinking it might be just that too. he gets into trouble with water a lot. Lately it's been pouring water in the hall and making it a slip and slide. praise God for cement foundation and lanolium that is old and needs to be replaced already. I have been spanking and explaining, he tells me he won't do it but then a few days later he does it again. I'm glad to know this seems to be a "normal" thing.

[GenLovesDen4ever]

Becky, we got to the point where spanking for things like this just didnt work, it did more damage than good actually. It created an aura of fear from my kids towards dh and I that took a very long time to undo, iygwim. We actually stopped spanking altogether for a long long time until we could get to the point where we found other ways of dealing with behaviours.. and lets face it, our own frustration, bc I found that dh and I almost always ended up spanking out of frustration. In the end we discovered there were very few things that needed spanking. I did NOT mean to make this about spanking, but since it came up I wanted to share my experience since I did the same with mine and now they are older, I learned a lot the hard way unfortunately.

[4HisGlory]

Originally Posted by GenLovesDen4ever

Becky, we got to the point where spanking for things like this just didnt work, it did more damage than good actually. It created an aura of fear from my kids towards dh and I that took a very long time to undo, iygwim. We actually stopped spanking altogether for a long long time until we could get to the point where we found other ways of dealing with behaviours.. and lets face it, our own frustration, bc I found that dh and I almost always ended up spanking out of frustration. In the end we discovered there were very few things that needed spanking. I did NOT mean to make this about spanking, but since it came up I wanted to share my experience since I did the same with mine and now they are older, I learned a lot the hard way unfortunately.

I remember when you were going through this. I have been thinking about this a lot lately, especially now that he is older. I have been doing time outs and "punishments that fits the crime" more as well. Thank you for your wisdom. This is something I will explore more.

[jen1981]

Spanking didn't do much for our son once he reached that age, either. He would just get mad and stubborn. So, I started fining him for bad behaviour. His money was very important to him and I told him that when he was naughty (specific things that he was having trouble with-I think it was talking back/arguing at that time) that I would make him give me a penny. He had to go take it out of his bank and bring it to me. I only had to do it twice. With the girls, there were other things that worked equally as well. We still spank the youngest (2 1/2), esp. for tantrums, defiance, and disobedience, but I have found that as they got older other things were much more effective based on their personality and what was important to them. Every child will be different and for each of our 4 we had to pray a LOT and come up with what was most effective for that child. The Lord is good at opening our eyes and giving us the wisdom we need. After all, He wants our children to glorify Him, too.

[Gracy47]

my son, when he was 3 years old he start to pee not only in the floor but in bed also...lol but as he grow up his physical activities and manners changed.. and now he didn't pee in the floor cause he knew now what bathroom is for?

[melinda]

I never had this issue with my boys, but knew someone that did but it was because they had a dog that I guess would mark his territory in the house and I guess the little boy wanted to too lol after they worked harder on the dog about peeing in the house and got that fixed the boy stopped lol have tried asking him why he is peeing on your furniture? We are spankers but I also have a one on one conversations with them to make sure they know why or understand why they are getting a spanking, and then I would remind them throughout the day, like in your situation "now remember if you need to pee we use the potty and not on my couch" I hope you get it figured out soon