poop training troubles

[lovemydior]

Okay so I am trying to deal with Rhiana pooping in her panties. I believe that she know that she has to poop on the potty but is not doing it. We tried doing minor disipline but she regressed a tiny bit. We tried rinsing her off with cold water (I am not proud of trying that one, but didn't know what else to do) but it didn't work. We are now trying to motivate her by telling her if she poops on the potty she gets certian toys that she really likes. If she poops in her panties she has them taken away. Well she hasn't played with them for a while and we keep telling her if she poops on the potty she can play with them. I thought that it was working but to my dismay, it is not. Now I know that some kids just take longer to potty train for poop. So, I was wondering if some one could give me some ideas to help motivate Rhiana and help her start pooping on the potty. she is going to starting going to a homeday care next week and I feel bad for the lady to have to clean up Rhiana's poop messes. Should I take her to the Dr. and see if something is physically wrong with her? We have a situation in our lives coming up that would be easier to handle if Rhiana was poop trained. Can anyone give me tips, advice or suggestions? Thanks very much

[His butterfly]

My youngest is about a month older than your daughter and we had the same issue. She regressed. With her we found out that making a big deal out of it and any form of discipline just made her regress even more. We ended up being firm and telling her that she had the choice of going in the potty or going in her panties but that mommy was not going to clean them anymore. I would throw them away and she would not get any more until she was putting it in the potty. It did motivate her.

The problem is that kids go at their own pace and what motivates some may not motivate others. Also I learned very quickly with eldest that pushing kids to potty train on my time table backfires really bad. I know it's a pain but each kid will learn at their own pace.

* I do have to ask- are there any major changes or issues going on in her life right now? Some kids respond to major changes by regressing. My oldest did after youngest was born and I am pretty sure that our issue with youngest was due to me being pregnant.

[BlessedMommy]

No real answers, just sympathy and an assurance that this too will pass. I have had really horrendous difficulties with my DD and potty training--to the point where we had to replace her carpet because she pooped and smeared it around her room.

She'll be 4 in August and right around age 3 1/2 (so only about 2-3 months ago) she stopped having accidents and stopped having issues. She is fully trained day and night. I can't even remember the last accident that she had. No more issues with rebelling regarding potty training either. So, know that while it may seem to take forever while you're going through a stage, it WILL end eventually.

I've been so traumatized by potty training her, though, that I intend to put off training my son for a LONG time. LOL.