She's growing up
I'm posting this just before work so maybe some typos but I really have to get this off of my chest and hear some feedback. Angela is my precious only child and she's now 7yrs old. She and I are extrememly close. I didn't bond with her until she was 3 days old and for the first few months only her daddy would do until she needed BF. He's the one she recognized and I was angry at God for putting my baby through so much agony at birth. Anyway David tried to say the baby wasn't his. I'm not sure what happened inside him to make him think this, but he then did some things on the side with a female "friend" of ours that further messed up our marriage...So in short, Angela had me and I had Angela and thats just how it was! from age 2-5
Well, we're close..I started the "good morning hug" when she was a newborn and now 7yrs later I always get a good morning hug and if I forget I get the hands on the hips "where's my good morning hug?!?" look when she gets up...so good morning hugs...
I have to work outside of the house on my dad's property...if I come in for water I get a hug upon entering, a hug upon leaving and this goes on all day...sometimes she'll sit in my lap the whole time and I'm usually so hot I don't want to be touched...
At home if I say or do anything that she likes, I get a hug! If I leave the room I get a hug! If I try to slip out without telling, she panics, runs me down and gives me a hug!
Not sure how this sounds, but it seems she's always up my rear end..
I love her to pieces and I love her hugs to a point...We homeschool and she goes to work with me...We are ALWAYS together...She's riden in a car with her daddy just the two of them 3 times in her whole life...Just recently he's back in our lives and she gives him loving too but he's constantly fussing at her for hanging all over mommy...
I should add that growing up, I was never hugged or told I love you...so this time is very special to me...I want her to remember being in a home a love....
But is my hubby right? Is she getting too old for all of this?
She's different when her friend is over..She tells me I'm cool and she and her friend keep to themselves...She'll run in and out with the friend and never think twice, but as soon as the friend is gone, I get a hug for letting the friend come over..
I've tried to explain to her that a good morning and a good night hug along with a hug when one of us goes somewhere is fine, but that we don't have to hang on each other to know we're loved...
I do think she's seen so much death lately that she clings to everyone as she leaves them...Bless her heart, every person thats died she's seen just a few days before their death and they were always FINE....So I know how the kid feels...
Okay I've rambled on...I consider myself pretty good at this mommy stuff, but is there a point where you can hug too much???
For today, I've put batteries in our walkie talkie set and will hopefully be able to talk to her while I'm at work...I hate leaving her alone but as my husband points out, she's just a few feet away but all I see is she's in a TOTALLY DIFFERENT BUILDING.....Could also be my own anxiety transferring to her...I keep thinking I'm not a bad Mommy she's just in her own club house for the day and I check on her twice an hour when we have to be seperated...I don't want her to feel like a lock-key kid
Thanks for the responses..Today was different...no hugs just a gazillion calls on the walkie talkie I'd be working and hear this
" Hey,hey,hey Mommmmmaaaaaaa Guess what I'm eating, guess what I'm eating, guess What I'm eating " followed by giggles
goodness, how did you get anything done??
All I know is if you don't really mind the hugs, take them! One day soon, she will be too grown up to hug you all the time. Then you will miss them!
Personally, I think as long as you and she are comfortable with it then there is no reason to change. At 7 years old they kind of go back and for between wanting to be "big" and wanting to be your baby again .