I absolutely agree with the other moms. You are doing a great job. Even that you notice and try to balance things is a triumph.
One thing I try to do is offer public complements specific to that child. At the library I love to tell the librarian, "Carley sure loves books! She's a girl after my own heart." Carley grins but isn't expected to do anything with that comment. When I left Sarah at camp I told the cabin counsellor that Sarah is the biggest helper she'd ever meet.
I guess what I try to do is to reflect different facets of their personalities back to them, through impartial eyes.
Your girls look like they are full of love and life. What joys they must be!
Mom to Natasha (22), Daniel (20), Alysha (15), Isaiah (15), Joseph (13), Carley (12) Sarah (10) and Kimi (16 months)
Blessed to have Bob as my guide and husband (24 years)