OK ladies, I need your help/input...

We've been ttc for 3 years now, and this past year has been extremely difficult and stretching, to say the least. We've moved twice, changed jobs twice, and have gotten settled twice. I've been feeling extremely selfish lately because I feel like I'm just trying to get my feet under me and survive (again) and I'm not sure that I'd make a very good mom with the way I've been thinking and feeling. I'm really feeling like I need to put my ttc/adoption desires away and forget about them for a while. Sigh...

That makes me very sad. I know so much about being pregnant, giving birth, and starting a family from having followed along other peoples' journeys and although I'd like to experience that for myself, I can't keep living for the hope of it... so I'm thinking of withdrawing for a while. That would mean not checking this site. I'd still be on FB though. Can you tell I'm wrecked about this? I had a rough weekend...

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Oh Sarah, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling that way. I don't know that I can offer specific advice because I've never been where you are. You know best all that you've been dealing with and how you are coping. If you've been praying about it and feel that a break would be good for you, then I would probably do that. And like you said, there are lots of us on FB so we can still be in touch there. [hug] I wish I had something more/better to say. Probably hard to keep reminding yourself some days, but I promise you God is bigger than all this! Hugs and prayers! [loveyou]

First of all, ((hugs)). That is a hard place to be I'm sure. Although I know that it's SO much easier said than done you need to continue to lean on the Lord in all areas. A friend of mine going through a simliar struggle has adopted this scripture, Isaiah 40:31"

but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.

Keep speaking with Him and trusting Him, asking Him for direction, etc. I will contiue to pray for you, Tripper.

oh dear friend, I'm really sorry for all of the hurt. It is so difficult, but sometimes it is a good thing to take a step back and remove yourself. Sometimes the desire is so strong to conceive that is overwhelming. Your perspective on things become blurred, and it's hard to maintain the right kind of spirit when that happens.

We'll miss seeing around on the site if you choose to leave for a while. But you'll be continue to be in my prayers. Hugs my friend.

Sent you a PM, gal~ ::hugs:: and Praying for you! :)

Praying for you! Sorry this has been so tough for you. We still want you on here - even if you aren't ttc or a mommy yet! You are and always will be a CMOM. You have been here and supported lots of us and that is what is important.

Praying that God directs your path and gives you peace.

Oh Tripper sure have been thinking and praying for you. I hope you can find peace in what you should do and what is best for your family. We have been trying for a baby for three years. We have been given two babies and then lost them and now pregnant again and still learning to trust God that he holds us in his hands. I have this verse that I say over and over.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not
on your own understanding;
Proverbs 3:5


We would miss you, but understand taking a break if that is what you need. Praying for you. [lovingsmiley]

Oh ladies... thank you for all your responses! I appreciate the love! [loveyou]

That's one of the major reasons I'm hesitating in taking a break from the site... but I'm also not sure I can handle being an actual encouragement to you when I'm struggling through this in my life... kwim? I'm thinking I'll probably take a break till June so I can get through the school year and into the summer, then when the stress is off, I can re-evaluate where we're at and decide how we want to proceed from there - whether we continue to ttc, continue looking at adoption or nothing at all. Sigh.

Please pray for me that I'd be sensitive to God's will in all this and that my relationship with Him would be strengthened - I want to grow closer to Him and honour Him with my WHOLE life. Thank you!

I'm sorry that this is so tough :(. I understand that you may need to take a break at the moment. If you do feel like you need to do this don't forget that we are still here for you if you need us [hug].

Hey gal,

I am sorry you are feeling so discouraged right now. I have been in your shoes, somewhat. It took Dh and I five years to have a successful pg. I did have two miscarriages before we got our Emma, which I am not sure if you have been pg yet. This ttc road can be a long one, tiring one, discouraging one. I finally talked to my doc and we went on clomid because my ovulations were not good. This decision has been a good one for our family. We did get pg "on our own" with Noah, but sadly that didn't turn out too well, so we went back to clomid and was blessed with Mak!!! :-D
I think it's good to take a break sometimes. We can step back, get refreshed, start anew if we have to! Sometimes those breaks are what our bodies need to make babies...sometimes not, but when has a vacation ever been bad? KWIM? Haahaa!!

I will pray for you, for wisdom, for encouragement, for a baby!! I think it's easy to judge how we might be from what we are now, but you cannot tell what kind of a mother you will be until you get that child in your arms. It's easy to be down on ourselves when we are discouraged, honestly sometimes our bad parts come out in these times, but the Lord can heal these parts of you that you are worried about. Maybe the Lord is using this time to help you grow in ways you would never have if you had your baby right away! KWIM?
Anyways, bless you dear sister, and know that you are on a road that is hard, but the Lord can carry you when it gets too hard!

Blessings,
Amber

Sending hugs and prayers. If you feel you need a break then maybe it would help to take one. We will be here when you get back and praying for you all the way [heart]

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Have you seen a doctor or fertility specialist? I have several friends who are facing the same thing. One of my friends and her DH were trying for 7 1/2 years and were finally blessed with a BFP last week!! Don't give up hope and faith. I will keep you in my prayers.

I will be praying for you.... [pray]

[crossheld]

Paloma.