Would you rather be pregnant or give birth?

[BlessedMommy]

Just curious, ladies, if you could have your husband either give birth for you or be pregnant for you, which would you delegate to him and why?

I would make my husband be pregnant--hands down!! My birth was great and wonderful and my pregnancy was a trial and a half! I had a skin rash for the last 29 weeks of it!

[~Tara~]

ewww this is a hard one
I have one friend who would rather give birth, hands down! but me??

ugh!

I'm not terribly fond of either, quite frankly.
My answer is


neither are preferrable to me :(
sad isn't it?
but pg is yucky...I'm sick for AT LEAST the first 4 months Then I'm promptly thrust into the uncomfortable stage, with my back giving me problems, then, if it's not already started, it does after that time..month 6/7, I get the emotional garbage on top of everything else. Depressed, uncomfortable, nothing to wear, yada yada yada *this stinks*
Then birth..well..folks say I make it look easy, but, it's *not* easy. It's scary. It takes a lot of work to not let that fear consume me. I don't *choose* to do that any more than necessary ;) hehe

[Mommy Daisy]

I had C-sections with both my babies...and the second one I was knocked out for...so I wouldn't mind doing that again...and my husband can have the pregnancy....rofl.

[Godzgirl]

I would have him be pregnant and i would give birth!

[myjoyoverflows]

I would be both pregnant and give birth...I feel that it was a VERY rewarding experience for me...to be able to feel her inside me in a way that no one else could...to be able to muster up all the strength that I have to show the world what God has helped ME to create...I consider it a privledge to be the one to have the children...and I'm glad that God decided to do things this way!

[RhysMom]

I would give him the labor. I agree with Chels. I loved feeling Rhyanne moving inside me. I never got sick and only got minimal stretch marks. I was having solid contractions for two days before I even went in because my hips wouldn't spread and the baby wouldn't drop. HE CAN HAVE THAT!

[Eva]

Hmm a hard one.....I loved loved LOVED being pregnant. and I wouldn't mind being pregnant for the rest of my life :oops: I better watch what I say, God is listening :lol: And I loved labor up until I stopped dilating. But I wouldn't want to put DH thru that. so I would take both in a heart beat rather than giving him one. Can I be selfish on this one???

[luvmy4sons]

I would never relinquish the pregnancy...and I would want to actually do the birthing..but some of the contractions he could participate in and give me a break. But I can't complain...all my labors relatively speaking were easy ones! :lol:

[imported_rachel]

I don't know how pg will be for me, but my gut says I'd make him give birth.. naturally-- and watch it in a mirror!

[Madre]

I would definitely rather be pregnant than give birth. I have these enormous babies and it takes awhile to wrap it up. :?

[wesleysmom0604]

Pregnant for sure. I had a terrible labor that ended in a emergency c-section, but my pregnancy was wonderful!

[Crissyanna]

For the last three months before we had ours, I told my husband he could do the whole thing next time.

After the delivery I had, he can do that. Looking back now, the pregnancy was a peice of cake compared to the eight hours of living through Dante's Fifth Inferno.

[jengrant]

I loved being pregnant, despite high blood pressure, I loved having Grant grow inside me it was very exciting. I had a C-section so I would let DH do that part again! LOL!

[Ren]

he could be prego for me=)- the only part that I'd miss was the baby moving and the attention but, the rest- eh, he can have it!! I had a great birthing experience and would do it again.

[davidsmommy]

Definitely the birth. I was so scared of a loss of oxygen during that time...

Pregnancy was favorable for me because of knowing my little one was inside of me. That was the best protection I could give him. Feeling him move,... even when it meant my ribs were jungle gyms, or the fact that he played soccer while in my tummy... HA HA HA...PRICELESS!

[myjoyoverflows]

am I the only one that would rather do it on my own??? :shock:

[Springtime]

I'm with Tara, I would rather he do the whole thing :oops: I guess there aren't many of us who don't enjoy pregnancy :( I didn't have any major complications, just nausea, cramps in my legs, a LOT of heart burn, stretchmarks, feeling tired.... you know, all the regular stuff... if I had to choose I would give birth... I gave birth naturally and believe me, it was NOT fun :lol: the first time seems like a nightmare even in my memory (who ever said that you forget?!) the second time I really focused on God's love for me and knowing that He was inc control and would take me through it all... she came out so quick that we almost didn't make it to the doctor! either way, I would prefer to give birth... not sure he could handle it :oops: :lol:

[stephwhiz]

I'm with your Chelsie! I loved being pregnant and giving birth too...I wouldn't trade those experiences for anything in the World! Stephanie :D

[Mommy37]

I WAS NOT FOND OF PREGNANCY (NAUSEA, SORE RIBS & HIPS, DEPRESSION, CRAMPING). I CAN'T SAY I LIKED GIVING BIRTH EITHER. ESPECIALLY BEING INDUCED! WITH MY SECOND IT WAS A NATURAL BIRTH WHICH WAS BETTER.

[jen1981]

Definately have him give birth. Actually I wouldn't wish either on him, but if it had to be one... I wasn't sick at all and actually liked my maternity clothes. Labor and delivery, different story. I've had to have peniccilin IV's with all 3. 12, 8 & 7 hour labors so that is a long time to have an IV. Makes moving around difficult. Ugh! :roll:

[Cristina]

I would say give birth because my pregnancy was a breeze

[NZMummy]

Well, based on my last labour I wouldn't mind having that part. I always find the pregnancy so much more of a trial. Although in retrospect I would be hesitant to hand over the pregnancy to dh completely - it is such an awesome privilage to be able to carry this little developing human so close for those few months. Maybe we could share the pregnancy :? .

[Jypsi]

Hope it's ok to bring this on back up again...


I would LOVE to pregnant again!!! I was blessed with two very easy pregnancies, but had two c-sections...1 emergency...1 planned. I was thrilled at the feeling of the baby growing and moving, just an amazing gift from God!

[4Angelz]

no debate for me... he'd be pregnant. that was for nearly a year with plenty of bumps along the way. giving birth really isn't so bad (time frame and all) in comparison! :wink:

[JRBL]

Can I choose both? Please? Ugh! My husband is very sensitive but, has NO clue what I went through! I wish he could experience even just a few seconds of it, just so he knows! I think men would look at women completely different if they knew what we went through! Sheesh. :)

[justmeNmine]

am I the only one that would rather do it on my own??? :shock:

Nope, I was just going to th ebottom of the thread to reply that I too, wouldn't give either away, especially to my children's father who can barely manage himself.

[myjoyoverflows]

am I the only one that would rather do it on my own??? :shock:

Nope, I was just going to th ebottom of the thread to reply that I too, wouldn't give either away, especially to my children's father who can barely manage himself.

yay, I'm not the only one!

[SupermansLady]

Can I change my answer depending on what day it is? :lol:
I would have to say let him be pregnant when there is morning sickness, but he is such a baby when he is sick, well, neither.
Yep, I think it would be better for me to take it all than to have to baby him about it....

[cjropher]

Am I graceful enough to tolerate him complaining of morning sickness and everything else for 9 months? Not so sure. Am I graceful enough to handle him going through hours of labour when the baby won't drop and a sprained ankle so he can't walk (Oh, that's not part of normal labour? Oh well, he gets the whole experience LOL) which is the only time the contractions are manageable? Not so sure.

I dislike being pregnant and giving birth. I know it's a huge blessing to have children and I appreciate it. But I think that our husbands have a hard time with it as well. Dh says he feels so helpless when I am in labour because there is so little he can do. He helps out so much during my pregnancies because they tire me out so much. So while I would rather not be pregnant, I think that we just might have an easier job when it's all said and done. I would rather be in pain than watch someone I love be in pain kwim?

Oh, and give up all the pregnancy related excuses? That's the whole fun of it, I gotta be pregnant to make use of them LOL!

[Rach]

no contest, he'd be pregnant. I puked and puked and puked and puked and puked..............................

and I had really quick labors!! :lol:

[tiffany]

no contest, he'd be pregnant. I puked and puked and puked and puked and puked..............................

and I had really quick labors!! :lol:

[rofllol] that stinks!! i'm not sure which i would give up though. i liked parts of both. i really don't mind being prego (except towards the end) and my labors were mercifully short. but yeah maybe dh could help out with a few of the contractions! then instead of them pounding away at every 2-3 minutes it could be like every 5-6 minutes. :)

[lovemykids]

I really injoyed them both. I mean there were downfalls to both. Being sick and then having a 17 hour labor with my dd and only a 6 hour labor with my ds. But looking back at it God blessed me with those babys and all the joys and pains of having and carrying them. So I like both!

[amybeth]

I hated being pregnant so he can have that part!

[edensmom30]

am I the only one that would rather do it on my own??? :shock:

I would agree I loved being pregnant, I was so healthy and felt really good. My delivery was great 5 hours of labor and 4 pushes. I pray that my next pregnancy will be as wonderful.

[Iwantmycrown]

I would have to say birth. Being PG was quite bad on me. I was anemic, nauseated all the time, and diabetic. So I just prayed for a painless labor all through my pregnancy and the Lord granted me that blessing. I never felt a single pain. Not even the contraction were bad for me. Of course I didn't get a epi until 7cm.

[weedlewub]

I have to say pregnant. Every day I look at him - eating whatever he wants, having a beer or a glass of wine after work, sleeping peacefully as I toss and turn next to him all night. I know he is very sympathetic, and really knows how hard this pregnancy is on me, but I just don't think he will ever GET it.

[GabrielsMommy]

I don't mind being pregnant. The first 15 weeks are a little rough, but after that it was great.... well some severe swelling. My labor only lasted 6 hours though. Contractions in the car are not fun..... Hmmm... though one. They are both so rewarding and so much fun in their own ways. The only part of labor I enjoyed was my epidural and holding my son after he was born. I couldn't give that up for anything. Although I loved feeling my son move around it took him 30 weeks, but once I felt him move he wouldn't stop... come to think of it he wouldn't stop pressing my rib cage out as far as he could either. ouch. O.K. I've made my decision my husband can have pregnancy and I'll have labor.

[savedbygrace]

WEll I loved being pregnant! Everything about it. I loved giving birth. What I didn't like is the aftermath of it all. That I would give to my dh. Actually I take that back, I can't even stand it when he is sick. He's such a baby! :? So I'd be the one taking care of him...... yah I would keep it all.

[Faith1]

Well, I had a tough pregnancy and lots of complications, but I loved being pregnant. I had a c-section so delivery wasn't that hard on my part so I think I would have to say he could have the pain and caring for the incision after the delivery! :D

[shelbynmarysmom]

Can I choose both? Please? Ugh! My husband is very sensitive but, has NO clue what I went through! I wish he could experience even just a few seconds of it, just so he knows! I think men would look at women completely different if they knew what we went through! Sheesh. :)

I completely agree with you :lol: With my second pregnancy I was sick the entire time. I went to the hospital 3 times to get rehydrated and the doctors office I had to go there at least twice that I can think of. Mary was 10 1/2 lbs and breech so luckily I had a c-section! I totally would rather have a c-section than vaginally! Scott cries like a baby when he has a cold there's no way he could've went through any of this. :lol:

[melissab24]

I would have him be pregnant hands down, the birthing is too special to give up feeling your child come out of you!! The only thing I like about being pregnant is feeling my child inside me. I was sick the whole time with my last child and I could not eat hardly anything for weeks, I was in lots of pain from my back to stomach, legs, etc.. the doc says that it is common once you get to baby number three. So no I would not want to do that again ever!!!

[krazee4jc]

Both L & D were good to me...THANK THE LORD :-D There is no way I'd want to see DH go through delivery, I had mine natural; hurt but not too bad not enough to scream & cry. So I'd pick him to be PREGNANT :mrgreen: way easy...no sickness nor weight gain, he'd have it lucky

[Tammyn4As]

I love being preg. so I would be glad to let him give birth!

[danou]

I would give the pregnancy over to him and I would give birth any day of the week. Birthing was very empowering for me. Pregnancy although, not horrible, was not the loveliest time for me. Between hormones, emotions, sore back, tiredness etc... blah.

[Joninon]

I'd let him give birth!! [clapping]

[NMom]

It's good to read that there are others who don't find pregnancy to be wonderful... I'm not looking forward to that or birth... so I'm not sure which I would choose!

[Israel]

Pregnancy was not long enough--I loved it so much. I would give DH the birth part cause being induced was horrible for me.

[mom2jl]

I would definitely let my husband give birth. I absolutely loved being pregnant, once I was past the morning sickness. The feeling of the baby moving inside me was just so great. The delivery . . . long and very painful. He can do the birthing!