This isn't a complaint, more of a story ... :D

DH and I were lucky enough to be able to go out to dinner on Saturday night, but we divided the kids up between my sister and parents!!

My parents had the baby and we slept over their place and the twins slept at my elder sisters house... anyway -

We get there and it's been 10 years since my sister has had a baby around and ages since Mum and Dad (obviously LOL) ditto - so anyway, all Matilda was doing was waving her arms a bit and occasionally moving her legs as babies do. SHe wasn't crying or upset, and you had to see the mad rush from Mum and my sister to pick her up and diagnose her with "WIND" ROTF! I said to them "If she had wind, she'd let you know believe you me" anyway... it could have been more of an excuse to pick her up. Mum )kept saying "Oh she has a pindi" (which is aboriginal for stomach ache) I was like ... mmm okay. she's fine, but if you want to walk her around the house, that's nice :wink:

Anyway DH and I had a great time, we ordered a seafood platter at the restaurant and had some good laughs and managed to hold hands and cuddle without our little "distractions" getting in between us LOL LOL.

DH kept saying "I am lost without a pram or a trolley, my arms feel so weird not to be pushing something" LOL. We both walked around like Egyptian Mummies with our arms stretched out for at least an hour LOL LOL (kidding)

Anyway - come morning Matilda was enjoying her early morning feed and after that Mum offered me to go back to bed and she'd watch Matild's - so I go back to bed and drop to sleep only to wake a couple of hours later with the baby crying like mad (believe you me, the only time Tild's has cried like that was when she was born and when she was being examined by a paediatrician) so I get up - wanting to see what was going on and Mum and Dad were quite frantic saying "Oh she has a pindi... oh we need to go to the chemist and get her something for her "wind"...oh she's kicking her legs" soooo stressed. Tilda was sucking her hands and opening her mouth - I just said nothing and opened the fridge and got her a bottle - and sure enough her little "fit" ended - I think Mum and Dad were :oops: :oops: but I didn't say a word. I could tell they did feel a bit sheepish and were more than relieved I was out of bed :wink:

Poor Mum I think she's forgotten how much newborns eat!

The next day I got up early again - fed Tilda and then come around 10am and she was hungry again ... Mum goes "Oh but you just fed her?" I was like 'YEAH 2 1/2 hrs ago" LOL.

oh the poor things, I did feel a bit sorry for them. I said to Mum "don't worry, next time I will be sure and only leave the twins with you"

She did work up the courage to bath her though, which was suprising because that was one area she ALWAYS avoided with the twins as she was too scared.

My parents are just under 60 - so it's not as if they are really old or anything. Amazing how quickly you forget about the baby days even after 3 kids - and running a home daycare.

Mum kept saying to me "Oh, I can't get anything done! I want to clean my house" etc. I thought "Good going, next time she comes to my house and comments on my mess, I will be able to remind her of the day she had all 3 kids"

Poor Mum! I feel as if I should ring interflora and send her a bunch of flowers.

Makes me wonder how I will be with my kids kids in the future.

ANyone else experienced similar with parents?

Mum is completely fine with the twins, I just think she gets a bit flustered with the baby. :wink: :D

Perhaps even a card in the mail would suffice!

Aww! Sweet story! I have went through similar things with my mom. It is amazing how they forget after having so many kids, isn't it? My mom had four children and yet she still forgets certain things with my two. I actually have to write everything down for her when she keeps the kids while DH and I go out. :roll: But gotta love them though. They try! :)

aww hehe
Yeah, it is amazing how quickly 'we' forget.
My side of the family just thinks all kids operate on the level of a newborn. Like..a 5 yr old can't do something for himself, like get a glass of water oh and of course, must be spoken to in 'gooble de gock' baby talk :roll:
Dh's side of the family..well, aunt is rather anal and is afraid everything in the house will hurt the baby. And MIL expects a crawling/walking child to stay put in one small 'safe' area of the house. But otherwise, she can still handle a baby hehe The rest of the fam, eh, I'm not so sure about them

My parents were the same way with Sam, they were terribly afraid to touch her! But my in-laws, just dove right on in with the "No, this is how you do this!" and the "No, this is better for her!" The difference between my DH's parents & mine were like night and day!

I had to force my Dad to hold Sam to take some pictures with her and my mom would hold her, but realllly akwardly and not for long periods of time!

It is funny how they forget huh!

LOL, Aussie_Mum! It seems like a lot of newborn troubles are diagnosed as "gas." And you're right, a lot of people just are out of touch with how much and how often newborns eat! My step MIL was over here and she was talking to the baby in baby talk and saying, "Did you eat too much? Do you have a stomachache?" It was amusing. First of all, breastmilk digests FAST and they need to eat often and a lot. Secondly, breastfed babies will regulate their own intake, they take what they need and then quit. And if they do end up getting too much they spit up. You gotta love the older generation! ROTF

Oh, another thing is that one of DH's aunts told my MIL that I needed to give the baby water. Well, according to current research, supplemental water for breastfed babies is unnecessary and can even be potentially harmful.

So I just smiled and brushed it off. Breastmilk is 88% water and believe me, I change her diapers, I know that she's not dehydrated! LOL.

[rofl] I'm sure she said she had a tummy ache just so she could pick her up LOL

My mum is great with Abby and Sophie. It's like she was just raising us yesterday. She hasn't forgotten anything. It's actually kinda annoying sometimes LOL because she talks to me like I don't know what I'm doing. :roll: I don't think I can think of anything that she has forgotten. She didn't know how to put on a disposable diaper though... but that's because they just didn't have them back when we were little and she has never used one before.
Oh with my parents it's always "her hands are cold, where are her mittens?" or "shouldn't she have a hat on?" :roll: :lol: Quite honestly I can't stand mittens. You can hardly get them on because baby moves so much and then they fall off every five seconds. It's the same with booties. I use socks instead. And she wears a stretch n grow with feet over them. And I have a couple of nightgowns that have full arms with bits at the ends that fold over and cover her hands so I use those at nightime if it's cold. I also hate bonnets with ribbons/buttons. I am too scared that they will choke her. So I use the modern day one size fits all stretchy hats. Anyway, sorry to steal your thread. :oops: :lol:

Ruth - oh YES.. how did I forget the "give cooled boiled water" obsession ROTF! And they are obsessed over "dehydration" - I am so like, not only can you tell by the nappies, also by the state of the lips and the fontanel area.

Even my Dad who had nothing to do with us as babies (meaning, he was an old fashioned father) thinks he knows it all when it comes to a lot of things, particularly that.

He kept butting in when I was telling Mum how Matilda kicked off all her blankets because I didn't swaddle her tigh enough and he interjects with "oh but it's good for babies to kick around" (WHAT?) I said "Yeah. not when it's 2am in the morning and freezing cold it isn't"

Then she started fussing around for a feed shortly after I put her down for a nap, so he tells me off saying "OH! YOU just put her down" as if I can't tell when my Baby is hungry and what she is wanting.

I thought he was making a bit of a peanut out of himself to be honest - LOL LOL... now why isn't there a penut emoticon for this occasion ROTF

LOL The good thing about your own parents is that you can just speak the truth and you can correct them if they are wrong. When it's the inlaws it's not that easy :roll:
If my mum/dad is wrong about something I can just tell them. With FIL I have to just nod and smile LOL

I don't think my mum ever told me to give her cooled boiled water. Was that a 60s thing? My mum and dad are only in their late 40s.
All my midwives always told me I didn't need to give her water because she gets enough fluids from formula. They said the same thing ... that you can tell by the fontanelle, eyes and lips.
Abby naturally has sunken in looking eyes. I don't know why but it doesn't matter how much she drinks they stay the same. Pauls are the same so I'm guessing she got that from him.

Renee I am a fontanelle health NUTCASE! I swear I am always running my hand over her head to check if it's healthy, sunken or a tight yogart lid.

My nurse said cooled boiled water was okay (in passing) but IMO if she's feeding 3-3 1/2 as is... I highly doubt she's going to be dehydrated.

If she had dry nappies I'd be running her down to the doc ASAP.

Yeah. From looking at Sophies fontanelle she is not dehydrated. And she has lots of wet nappies. She feeds every 3-4 hours. She is basically sleeping through the night now... she slept 7 hours last night.