10-05-2008, 04:50 PM
Ladies, I need your prayers. I recently went to the doc because I have been feeling a bit down. She put me on some medicine to try and help but I don't think it is. I know it is ttc and the m/c that has gotten me to this point. I still can't get over losing our precious babies and I can't help but get sad when AF shows up. I have been praying but could use some more prayers too. I am on CD 33 and I usualy start somewhere betweeb 30 and 40, usually I have some AF symptoms about a week before it all starts. Breasts are swollen and tender, bloating, all the usual but nothing this time. So, of course I have started to get my hopes up. We didn't not try this month but we didn't really try either. I hate this and I hate feeling this way, has anyone else been through this or have any advice? Thanks for listening and praying.
10-05-2008, 10:02 PM
You have to grieve those babies, and the loss of them is just as great and significant as any other death would be. I really hope you become pregnant again but remember that no amount of trying or not trying will sway the will of God. He knows the number of children you will have. His will for your family is perfect. I know sometimes when your in the thick of it it can be hard to see His way, but you will one day even if it is in heaven. I hope and pray that this is your month.
10-05-2008, 11:03 PM
Praying for you, it is a hard place that you are in. God can be your strength.
For me, I have come to the conclusion that God's will and plan are more important to me than more children. I still long for a baby that we get to keep, but when I get so that I do not like my feelings, I talk to God about it. (alot) I want to surrender to his plan for my family and I want to enjoy the blessings that he has given me today, right now, even if that means never getting another baby. I want to have joy in Him and trust that His way is best. I grieve for my babies in heaven and will always carry that burden, but I want to trust His plan.
TTC is difficult because you get a very real reminder every month. Praying that this might be your month and that God's peace will be with you either way.
10-06-2008, 09:27 AM
Sweetie, I understand and was where you were completely! Have you checked with your hospital to see if there are any local miscarriage support groups? I help with a group where I live, HOPE Ministries that is a support group for women who have had miscarriage and infant loss at delivery or the the few short weeks after delivery....it has really transformed a lot of women's lives....
I will be praying for you...and as a MH professional, 1. be on guard of what meds they give you for depression as it can increase depression in some 2. some can make getting pregnant harder or not be as safe if you do get pregnant 3. you know the underlying issue, that to me means that issue need addressed through support and Christian counseling and prayer, meds will only mask the symptoms--not help resolve your emotions/the root cause...please only take my words in love! I agree meds can be a tremendous bridge to help get a person through the hard times while discovering the root causes and helping to address them and it can be a lifesaver for those battling chemical imbalances, but docs are very 'free' at just throwing out a bandaid fix and not treating the wound.
Hugs! Hang in there!
10-07-2008, 03:58 PM
Heather, you are in my prayers.
TTC can be so so draining. And then to add the mc on. I am sorry you are hurting so much. I am praying that you month comes soon.
Praying for you too Heather. I also have been there. You are not alone.[praying]
10-09-2008, 05:07 PM
Thinking of you. :-D
10-20-2008, 08:07 PM
Oh sweetie... you've had it SO rough...
Go easy on yourself, allow yourself to feel the way you do, whatever that may be...
It's been hard for me during this ttc process, so I can only imagine how you must feel after a m/c. May God bless you and keep you safe and secure in His loving arms during this process!