I didn't really want to post this anywhere else but pregnancy as I know many of you understand - since we've all talked about the baby visitation and family issues.

My Mum is coming next Monday to watch the twins while I am in hospital having the caesarian and now my Dad wants to take the day off work to which is fine, it's probably actually better for the twins because it will be exciting for them to have both "Nanna and Pop". They were going to sleep over but I have suggested no to that (well we don't have a spare bed). DH would not feel comfortable with them here on his own, just as much as I wouldn;t like his parents here on my own.

Also, if I say yes to them sleeping over that 1 night, it then could make a precedent for his parents to "stay over" - and DH KNOWS I do not want his mother staying here & causing trouble - point blank!

However, and this is probably wrong - I really DON'T want my PIL showing up on day 1, but it's not like I can go and say that to DH as it's a bit of a double standard (?). Last time I had the twins, they landed on the hospital hours later and I was throwing up from the proceedure by then and not a site I really care to be in front of them.

I think MIL will be at work, so with that in mind, they probably won't be able to come anyway... so I could be getting in a tizz over nothing.

AHHHHHHHHHHHH needed to vent. These issues are going to have to all come up again this week sometime because it won't be long before MIL is asking to "stay over" and "help"

Aussie Mum I hope that for your sake you have the same experience this time as I did. Only my mum came to the hospital to visit with Paul and Abby one time and no one else visited. And so far the only visitors we've had at home are my grandmother and my mum and my sister and her fiance. And the midwife of course.

Not the FIL? My friend Michelle is planning on coming and seeing me which is cool! Don't mind friends honestly. I mind trouble makers. :lol:

Actually even when I had the twins it was the visits from friends I enjoyed :wink:

SO far, MIL has no idea I have a caesarian booking, or the date -. DH has not said a word and I am actually suprised that she hasn't been calling up and emailing constantly asking if I am in labour. Not so sure how we are going to address that one when she finds out. I think because I am so sick of being made to feel as if we have to justify ourselves in general and being made to feel like we need "supervision" in everything, I am not inclined to tell her a thing. My ideal answer would be "because I did" (have a caesarian) It's true she's made an assumption I am having a natural - I never wanted to share the issues with her over the low placenta.

Probably the earliest they will even see Matilda is on the weekend, which is when I will be home (hopefully) - he'll have to tell her she isn't to invite the whole tribe over ....

I'm sorry you have to deal with this again.

Maybe if you guys decide to have a fourth, you just don't even tell anyone you are pregnant until after you have the kid. I am seriously considering that IF there is a next time for us....

And hey, if MIL shows up at the hospital and you are being sick, you could just yak on her.... :lol: Granted, to plan that one isn't very polite, but then, she would have to leave to change clothes......

Love you!

Crystal - yak on her LOL LOL. It is only bile since I will be fasting :D

I think DH has a few dreads of his own about her upcoming anticipated questions such as why did I have a caesarian.

So I am trying to concoct ways of saying "that's our business" without sounding like a moo cow! :shock: (I never share "intimate information with people who are not nice).

DH Has had umpteen times to tell her about the caesarian being booked in and he's just stayed Stumm...

I found the cat in the cot yesterday and I thought it was an opportune time to begin teaching him this is a no no... but I mentioned it to DH and he said straight away "Awwww don't tell Mum, we'll never hear the end of it"

We both laughed and just decided to lock Tank outside when the baby comes home (we have enough brains to be able to care for our baby despite the fact she thinks we have melted jelly beans for brains LOL LOL)

Do you have to tell her you are having a c? Just checking. I mean, if she asks, then I suppose you would have to say something so you wouldn't be lying, but if the topic never came up as to how the baby did actually come out....

And bile is the worst stuff to yak, IMO. It is stinky and slimy. She would have to go and change clothes. Don't want to tempt you any more with that one....

We can't keep the puppy off our bed. My MIL won't be too happy to find that one out probably. And this dog is a heat seaking missile, more so than any cat I've ever been around. So, instead of keeping the crib pushed up to my side of the bed without the front rails, we will have to have the rails up to keep Genny out of it. My MIL is not to find out. I can just imagine her reaction. Besides, I don't think she is too fond of the idea of Dainyah being in our room, but I honestly don't see myself going into the other room every few hours in the middle of the night without killing myself. The door to the other room is right next to the stairs. I keep having visions of myself falling down the stairs and breaking my neck....Besides, the other room is rather hot and the temp is hard to regulate in there for some reason. I feel safer with having her in with us. Oh well, she can shove it.

Crystal - not sure if you are still around or not (?) but yes, she will ask about the birth as people do - but she will ask in detail, and then give her commentary. ha ha.

You think MIL is going to complain for you keeping bub in your room? WHAT - I was considered a monster for making the twins sleep in their own cots in their own room - you can't win can ya LOL That's a personal choice and many mothers find it simply easy to have baby close at hand for B/F purposes. I have actually got a nice comfy feeding chair in Matilda's room which I plan on using,

Our cat has to stay outside anyway now as for some odd reason he's taken to spraying indoors (I have NEVER had a cat that does this and all my cats have been male).

We shall overcome

Ah, I have decided that I will be pregnant forever now.

Oh well, people can take their advice and use it themselves, I think.

I need to go and stir the soup I have on for supper.

Hope you hold out till Monday.

Hope I go before then......

Oh well, people can take their advice and use it themselves, I think.

LOL - that's a polite way of putting it!!! :D :D