Hi,
My dd is 3 yo, and we held off on PT for a while because the Dr had advised so. We did the whole pull ups thing on her, and then decided she was thinking of them like a diaper and was not initiating going to the potty on her own. So we took away the pull ups (except for night time) and had her just wear underwear. She was doing great for a bit, but now, she has accidents constantly, and is not taking any initiative to go, and when we ask her to go she always says no (and this is just to go pee). She loves to get a sticker each time she pees in the potty! The pooping thing is another story! She has not once yet gone poop in the potty, we have even tried the "poopy prizes" route where we give her a wrapped up dollar store prize when she poops on the potty. She has no interest in this. She will even 'hold it in' and wait until she is in her pj's for the night with her pull up on to go poop so she doesn't have to go in the potty. What should we do? I feel like we are going backwards rather than forwards.

As a mommy with a daughter that was late and strong-willed when it came to PTing all I can say is just keep trudging on and stay consistent. Mine has gone forward and backward so many times I have lost count. One week she will be fine and the next it will seem like she's forgotten.

One thing that I have noticed though with her is that if she's not getting enough personal attention or it's stressful around our house she acts out and PT is one way for her to show aggression. I don't know if your Dd is acting out but maybe take stock of what is going on when she starts to regress.

I totally know what you are going through! My son is still having a hard time. We are mostly working on the poop part. He is ok with peeing in the toilet. Do you have normal, regular times that you ask her to go? I make ds go even if he says he doesn't need to. I also ask him often so he is made to think about it.

Also, we borrowed toilet movies from the library. DS LOVED them! Try Elmo's Potty Time...it was a favorite over here!

Yes, she loves watching Elmo Potty Time. That is one of her favourite movies. We do try to ask her to go but when we do she still will say no. She doesn't remember to ask to go either.

((((((((((hugs))))))))) I had a heck of a time potty training Timmy. I went back and forth with pull ups finally just using them until he was potty trained because all the accidents were driving me crazy. Basically he wouldn't go until he was ready to go, stickers and treats didn't mean enough. Neither did computer games or special movies. So yeah, if I had it all to do again I would just go the pull up route, ask him if he needs to go, give him rewards for going, and not stress so much. My stressing didn't hurry the process one bit.

I would suggest just focusing on the peeing part - I would give her a diaper to go poo in during the day , so she doesn't hold it in & wait until night, when she's given a diaper/pull-up. It can make her ill/ constipated to hold poo that long. Summer is a great time to potty train - you can have them go nekkie, or like what you're already doing with undies during the day - but honestly, if she keeps having accidents & refuses to go on the potty, I personally would put her back in diaps - I know it feels like you're going backwards, but it's really normal for kids to go a few steps back before going full-on forward! :-)