I think if I hear " Wow! You are big!" or "Are you sure you aren't having twins!" , one more time I think I will punch someone. Do people not realize what they say? I mean being pregnant I already don't feel super great about my body and this doesn't help. Really, I am no bigger than I am supposed to be. I am short so my belly sticks out a little more than some people becuase it has no where else to go. I wish people would just mind there own business.

I hear you.....it is definitely frustrating some days. You are almost at your due date, though, are you not?? Almost time for baby to arrive??

WEll i'm not short waisted and I still heard it! One elderly lady in my church said " wow, you're already showing, how far a long are you?" I said about 14 weeks. She replied "Oh, then you're not showing, that's just fat?"
uhhhhhh excuse me? Did you just say that out loud?

I had someone from my Church say, 'Wow! You're as big as a house!' when I was pregnant.
Gee thanks!?! Sometimes people don't realize what they say.

I had someone say to me a few weeks back, "You're getting big!" I responded, "It's kind of inevitable, ya know?" :-) I like telling people that one...gets a good laugh. [claploud]

I don't remember negative comments, but the question that personally bothered me was, 'when are you gonna pop?', or 'you haven't popped yet?' Somehow, the whole 'pop' thing sounds yucky to me. [whateeeeeksign]

I guess the other thing that made me feel a little sad was when people said I didn't look pregnant. I'm one of the weird ones who love maternity clothes that scream, 'I'm havin' a baby!' Couldn't wait to wear them and began wearing them very early, just so people would know I was preggo (you know, shirts that said 'baby' on them and the like...). I couldn't wait for my tummy to be big and round. I think pregnant bodies are to-die-for beautiful. Used to stick blankets in my shirts when I was little so I could pretend to be pregnant. lol!

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Joy [welcomewave]

I guess the other thing that made me feel a little sad was when people said I didn't look pregnant.[pregnantside]

This happened to me too! It WAS frustrating. I was like, I'm not makin' it up!

I also don't like when people say I'm looking "more pregnant". Just because my baby is bigger, doesn't mean I'm more pregnant. I'm just as pregnant as when my baby was a speck!

WEll i'm not short waisted and I still heard it! One elderly lady in my church said " wow, you're already showing, how far a long are you?" I said about 14 weeks. She replied "Oh, then you're not showing, that's just fat?"
uhhhhhh excuse me? Did you just say that out loud?
OH NO!!! that is BAD. can we say open mouth and enter foot!!!

I ALWAYS got the "are you sure its not twins" too I started showing early and fast even though I really didn't gain my weight until the last trimester. I am also short and short waisted so I totally know about it...its like where do you want the baby to grow up into my heart???

With this pregnancy, I was excited to be showing early. I love love love pregnant bellies! But comments like these make you feel guilty! sad isn't it.

With this pregnancy, I was excited to be showing early. I love love love pregnant bellies! But comments like these make you feel guilty! sad isn't it.

I've been feeling differently this time around. With all the comments I don't feel bad (not yet at least). I am more sad for the ones that make the comments. Can't they see that they're talking about a person (whether me or the baby)? Are their hearts really that hard? Do they really not care that much? Seems like the world has very low tolerance/excitement for new life. I guess it makes me sad, but I'm not surprised...:???:

Okay, so we had a funeral today and one of the ladies from my church was in line for food as I was serving her, she said "your face is getting really full" I just looked at her and said "are you saying my face is fat?" "well yah," she said.
ARe people really that dumb? REally?

Okay, I'm not much for public griping, but I must say, Esther, that was pretty mean for that lady to say. My mouth is hanging open right now. BTW... you have one of the prettiest faces I've ever seen. Speechless about that remark. [whatquestion]

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Joy [welcomewave]

It's kind of funny how people feel like they can take such liberties when you're pg, but would be shocked if you made similar comments to them. [whatwacko]

Wow that's a pretty shockingly rude remark. Don't let it get to you Esther! You are so exotically gorgeous and probably have a wonderful pregnancy glow on top of that...

Sometimes people insult people because they feel inferior and feel they have to take confident people down a notch or two so they feel equal... and while you can always lose weight after you have a baby, it's a lot harder for someone to lose a rude attitude. So I'd say you've got the advantage anyway and you'll have a beautiful baby to boot. [verycool]

Thanks ladies, you guys are too kind! and you made me feel better![loveyou]

Wow Ester I am really sorry people have been trying to bring you down. I agree with pp, you are SO thin and beautiful and I am sure you look absolutely gorgeous with your belly bump. Don't let people spoil your pregnancy glow.

When I was pg, I always heard, "You don't look pg at all." I'm tall and overweight so I didn't pop out like a normal pg woman. But do you realize how hurtful this is when you have gained weight and popped out? It made me feel like I looked like that all the time. Gee thanks!

People can be so insensitive. It doesn't matter what time in your life, they say stupid things.

Single "When are you getting married?"
Married "When are you having a baby?"
PG - Too many too count.
Etc. etc.

It can be difficult to let these things slide off you, but we need to do it for our own sanity. I'm sorry about the difficult comments you've been getting. Only a few more months to go, thankfully.

Esther - When I was pregnant with my daughter, at my baby shower, and elderly lady came up to me, sighed very loudly and said, "Lora, you just don't look like yourself. You've even gained weight in you face!"

Um excuse me??? Part of me wanted to say, "So have you!"

I really don't know if they always mean to offend? I think they just feel like they should say something but it doesn't come out right, although it is offensive when they make comments about your weight! I had a dear lady ask me the day before I actually went into labor with oldest ds if I should be at church? She said you need to get your dh to take you to the hospital right now!! lol :) ummm I think I know if I need to be at the hospital!!
I know from the pictures I have seen of all the pregnant ladies here you all look beautiful!

My mum (sorry, mom to the Americans here!) said to my 9mnth pregnant sister the other day "Wow you've gotten fat!" to which my self-concious sister replied "I'm not fat I'm pregnant!" Mum was embarrassed and very apologetic! I think sometimes we just don't think about what we say and how it comes out! (of course mum knew she was pregnant for those of you wondering)