I worry so much that I might have done something to hurt the baby. Like I worry about the medications (doctor prescribed, but I always worry about everything) that I had to take during pregnancy, the hot showers that I took, not always eating as well as I should, laying on my back a little bit, etc.

Can someone reassure me? Augh.

Oh Ruth I think it is normal to worry about something being wrong with your baby and then thinking that maybe you did something that could harm it. Just remember all of the women who are months along before they realized they were pregnant. Many have had x-rays, drank alcohol and just basically not taken care of themselves. More often than not they have healthy babies.

When I was pregnant with ds I will never forget wearing pantyhose to church and them being tight. My MIL made me paranoid by saying I was cutting off the baby's oxygen. Oh course I then worried about that the rest of the time. I also laid in the sunbed several times before I knew I was pregnant, again I worried about that too.

I guess what I am trying to say is that those little critters are cushioned quite well and I don't think anything you have done will hurt it. I used to sleep on my tummy too until I could not longer comfortably do so. My babies were just fine, so don't beat yourself up. You're a great mommy!!

Stephanie :D

When I was pregnant, it was the closest I have ever been to God!!!
I was on my knees praying all the time! I worried about every little thing, and it didn't get much better when they were born.
With my third I came to a revelation-
God is the God of Love and not the God of Fear.
When I was living in fear, I wasn't trusting in God. I trusted that He was in control of the whole situation, and that He loved my children even more than I did, and would always do the very best for them.

I hope that helps, and isn't too confusing. :?

Ruth you will be fine and so will your baby. Your fears are normal, our nurturing nature comes out with baby coming along but sometimes I think the hormones overtake and make that God given nurturing protective nature a bit "crazyyyyy"

I have fears too for my baby. For instance I barely ate a thing for the first four months, yet my baby has no visible abnormalities.

DOn't even worry if you have accidently lain on your back - my midwife told me when that happens you wake up and roll over anyway because you will be short of breath while doing that, so of course nature corrects itself in this area.

Last pregnancy I fell flat on my belly on the brick paving and my twins were perfect. I also had soooo many drugs while carrying them to stop labour, a few shots of pethadine while the obstetricians were trying to get me to "relax" so as not to excite/encourage early labour (that was the theory).... needles for this and that and the other and they were perfect.

Don't worry if you have a few bad eating days, I find great assurance in taking my pregnancy vitamins in this area.

Remember the Bible says God knits us together in the womb and we are fearfully and wonderfully made... if he is doing the knitting I wouldn't worry so much :wink:

Think of our mothers who had no idea about listeria, sleeping habits, tea/coffee, take away etc and we are all fine!!!

Just pray to the Lord that he will keep you in peace. It is normal to have these anxieties but when they become uncomfortable, that is what the Lord is there for ... if we didn't worry about the care/health/welfare of our littlies we wouldn't look after them. It's natures way.

Hang in there, you'll soon have bub in your arms and be overwhelmed with his/her perfection [angelwithlittleangelbanner]

xoxo Aussie Mum

I felt paranoid at times too that I had done different things wrong, etc. e.g. I was sick for a couple weeks when I was pregnant and couldn't keep anything down except for DQ milkshakes. I was so worried the baby was not going to have enough nutrients and when I got in to get weighed in, I lost 4 pounds! But other friends reassured me that the baby is in a protective sack and they are better off than we think they are. It is natural to worry though! You are a good mother for doing so!

All in all we have to remember that NO matter what we do, our Creator is in control. He holds the hand of your children and will only do what is in his will.

Always rest assured in God's presence in your unborn babies life. [loveflag]

Awww...Ruth hugs to you. [hug] I know how you feel. With my daughter i had to take antibiotics a few times due to bladder infections. I would cry and cry and i wasn't able to take prenatal vitamins so that bothered me too. I would constantly pray and try to remember that she was in the Lord's hands whether taking medication or not. She came out perfectly normal which i praise God for. Your baby will be fine too. And trust me you won't feel as worried about everything the next time around. :wink:

Thanks, Vanessa. That's very encouraging. I guess that one thing that has fueled my irrational fear is other people beating me up for the medication that I HAD to take.

It was hard enough to deal with the painful, debilitating skin condition. (So far, 5 1/2 straight months of itching, pain, etc.) Criticism from others about taking my medication for it, made my pain and fears even worse. If the medication was terribly high risk, the doctor wouldn't prescribe it. Sometimes, others can be well meaning but can be very hurtful in their comments. Did anyone ever give you grief for taking your antibiotics?

Ruth, I found out I was pregnant with my last child while being treated for ovarian cancer and just having the depo shot. I can totally relate to your fears. Even after seeing ultrasound after ultrasound, I was a total basketcase.

My Nick is fine....or at least relatively normal ;)

We worried constantly about the meds they had me on, the effects of the depo shot, the cancer spreading to the baby.....everything. It was an amazing life lesson for me on just how much God is in control.

I cannot explain why God chooses to do what He does, but I always find peace in knowing that He knows the big picture and He knows best, even when I don't agree. Find your peace in Him and His plans for your family.

Hugs to you as you wait out these last few weeks. They are stressful enough!! Prayers to you and your little one.

I seriously know how you feel. I think all moms can relate. In general people always seem to know what is best for you & your children. Just tell them kindly that God, you and your doc/midwife are really on top of the situation, but thanks for the concern.. :D
I wasn't able to take prenates for either one of my kids... boy did I get the comments. My children are both perfect, well perfect in my eyes. I also delivered my son naturally, I had pre-eclampsia so I was induced early anyway, the doc used forceps which caused bleeding on the brain & seizures. Boy were people quick to tell me "You should have had a C-section". My sons situation made me a stronger mother and gave me strength that I didn't know I had. He has an answer and purpose for it ALL. Don't fret about what you have done or not done, you and your child are in the care of our Loving Father - he knows more than anyone :D

Nici, I'm so sorry that people made those hurtful comments to you. I mean, life is full of risks. How do they know that your son wouldn't have problems if he was delivered by c-section or that you wouldn't have had post-operative complications? People always seem to want to tell us what they think is best. One time someone was going off on my skin medication being dangerous to the unborn and my husband cut her off right then and there and ended the conversation.

It's very easy for others to make comments to you when they don't have to walk in your shoes. Ultimately, I guess, we have to trust in God and not look to others.

i had a blood transfusion when i was 35 weeks pregnant. i had extremely low blood counts due to the fact i had a very bad miscarriage 4 weeks bfore i got pregnant with my son. they were concerned that when i went into labour, my bood wouldn't clot enough. i had my son, naturally, 2 weeks later and all was ok

Thanks, Vanessa. That's very encouraging. I guess that one thing that has fueled my irrational fear is other people beating me up for the medication that I HAD to take.

It was hard enough to deal with the painful, debilitating skin condition. (So far, 5 1/2 straight months of itching, pain, etc.) Criticism from others about taking my medication for it, made my pain and fears even worse. If the medication was terribly high risk, the doctor wouldn't prescribe it. Sometimes, others can be well meaning but can be very hurtful in their comments. Did anyone ever give you grief for taking your antibiotics?

No because i didn't tell anybody other than hubby. I didn't want to really hear any negativity from others.

Vanessa - that's it, you don't tell people I T/A.
Last pregnancy was so involved and I had so many different complications we found if we shared them with family this would start a tirade of lectures from them about things they knew nothing about and quite a few hurtful accusations towards me (such I as I was bringing labour on, it was my fault...) or when Paris didn't grow to dates it was - you're not eating food. Completely ignorant comments.

This time around we have told no one except my sister and a close friend about the REAL reason I have to have a c-section, I just don't need people lecturing me without knowing what they are talking about.


Ruth I know for a fact that doctors have categories of medicines being A,B,C or D for their safety during pregnancy and they don't generally prescribe the high risk stuff. :wink:

Vanessa - that's it, you don't tell people I T/A.
Last pregnancy was so involved and I had so many different complications we found if we shared them with family this would start a tirade of lectures from them about things they knew nothing about and quite a few hurtful accusations towards me (such I as I was bringing labour on, it was my fault...) or when Paris didn't grow to dates it was - you're not eating food. Completely ignorant comments.

This time around we have told no one except my sister and a close friend about the REAL reason I have to have a c-section, I just don't need people lecturing me without knowing what they are talking about.

Great idea for both you and baby! :wink: