Ok ladies, I am on 17dpo and still getting a BFN. I am on cd 38 and my cycles are usually 34 or 35 days long. I am trying not to get my hopes up. I used OPK and that is how i know when I o'd but no sign of AF here. I have been having breast soreness/tenderness for the past week or so. No migraine like usual with AF. I have my yearly pap tomorrow so I guess I will find out for sure then. Please keep me in your prayers because I am not wanting to hear we aren't AGAIN. I am just getting really frustrated with this whole TTC thing. I find myself trying to give it up to God's control but then I try to make deals with Him. I am really struggling with letting go, I am such a control freak!! Thanks for listening!

You and your body have gone through so much, I am glad you had an appointment so that you can hopfully find out what is going on.

Trust God!

Just curious, but did they tell you that you may have complications following the kidney removal? My SIL was told when she had one removed that she may have compications TTC for a while (up to 2 years) due to the "shock".

Either way, praying for you.

no, nobody said anything about problems after donation. I asked my OB if I would still be ok having more kids and he said that it wouldn't be an issue if I did. I will ask him about that tomorrow. We stopped trying around jan 07 because we knew the donation was going to happen but before that it had been 1 year with 2 pregnancies that ended in m/c . Anyway thanks for the heads up. I will keep you guys posted.

Heather,
I'm so sorry for what you've been through the last while... I totally hear what you mean about being a control freak... I'm struggling too to let God take control, but every day is a new day and a new opportunity to give it to to Him more completely than the day before! Let us know how things go tomorrow at your appointment.

Blessings!
Sarah

Well, I didn't go to my appointment because AF showed up!! I was kinda relieved because then I had an answer as to what was going on. The wondering whether I'm pregnant or not is the worst part. I am going to try to totally let control of this and give it up to God. I think the only way for me to totally do that is to not do OPK and to just let whatever happens happen. If I use the OPK then I know when I o'd and we have sex so then when I don't get pregnant I wonder what went wrong because we did things right. Anway, please pray that I can relax about this and give it to God totally. Thanks!!

I peronally don't think OPK work as effectively as testing CM. I got pregnant with one shot using the CM testing method. A friend of mine who had trouble conceiving also used this method and, while she didn't get pregnant as fast as I did, she did get pregnant within 6 months of trying.