Mom's who have potty trained... HELP!

[Bekah]

Okay here it is... Emma is almost 27 months old... she has shown great interest in the potty... she can pull her pants down and up... she knows when she is going pee or poop cause she tells us... she knows when her diaper is wet or dirty she will come in and tell me to "change my diaper mommy it's yucky" then proceed to hand me a diaper and lay down on the floor...

Okay so here is the deal... we have tried numerous times to try to get her to go on the potty... on Saturday we told her no more diapers and put the training pants on her. She peed in 8 pair... and what makes me think she was doing it on purpose was because I would say Emma do you need to go potty... she would say NO!!! then proceed to pee in her pants... or at other times she would cry and scream and beg me to put her diaper on only to seconds later pee on herself... so I know she knows she has to go.. This has happened on more than just this one day.

We can't even do that thing where you take her every 30 minutes because she was having small accidents every 15 minutes...

I know that everyone will probably tell me she isn't ready... but she asks for diapers all the time so she can go when she has the trainers on... so I am almost positive this is a battle of wills...

What can I do differently?? Oh yeah I almost forgot... we have tried bribery.. it doesn't work either.

[luvmy4sons]

:D Oh mom! I so remember being SO READY for them to be potty trained! But a lot of the time it is this: [whatheadagainstthewall] And it just isn't worth it! Take a deep breath! And realize that they will not walk down the isle to get married in a diaper! [rofl] It will all come in time.

For me the favorite phrase was 3 years!( And three years and three months for boys) I think we are all programmed to think..." Okay they are 2! Time to be potty trained. " Well some are...some aren't. Does she awake dry in the morning after an entire night's sleep? That is a good sign she is physically ready. If not...maybe she isn't. When I was doing it ( did it 4 times) I would try it for a week, sometimes only a few days, but if they kept going in the trainers that frequently all the time, I'd stop training for another week or two and then try again...or otherwise [whatheadagainstthewall] On again off again till the signs that they are ready are there. You can't make someone go in the toilet! [whataaargghsign] [whatcrazy] [whatwacko] [rofllol]
Hang in there! [girlsmiley]

[Bekah]

Actually up until a week ago she went to bed with a sippy cup of water. Now that we have gotten rid of that I will be able to see if she is capable of waking up dry.

I guess I just don't want to be changing three kids diapers come January!

[BlessedMommy]

I don't blame you for that at all, Bekah! I wouldn't want to have three in diapers at the same time either. Good luck with potty training.

[mamallama]

My dd is three and I've come to realize that she is just not ready yet either. You will know when that time comes. Until then...don't sweat the small stuff! And believe me - I am preaching to myself! LOL :)

[LaDonna]

Our dd is almost 3 1/2 and for a year we struggled off and on with potty training. We started giving a nickel for when she cleaned up her toys and it has worked wonders. [claploud] So I thought :idea: why not try this with potty training. It has worked so good and we are in panties all day and only wearing pull-ups at nite. When she pees she gets a penny and when she poops well that calls for a whole dime which she prefers to call diamonds. We have a calender on the fridge and we circle the last day of the month and tell her that when that day comes she gets to take all of her money and go shopping. She also wanted to sleep in panties one night and I was a little hesitant but decided to try it anyhow. At bed time I went ahead and put out a change of clothes along with a pull up. She did have an accident so we decided she was not ready for over night. Plus I have talked to several friends and they said to give it a few months of them getting used to having panties on before trying to do it all at once. Oh yeah and when she would have an accident we take a penny or diamond away. Good luck!!! Potty training is a struggle for the kids and parents. It will get better. They won't be wearing pull- ups to school I promise :D

[mommyto3]

my son, jakob, is 3 years and 2 months, although he is completely urine traines(only in the past month or so), he still will not poop on the potty. we now just keep telling him that when he is ready, he will do it. and that no matter what mom and dad love hime very much. i might try the money idea that LaDonna did with her child. it might just work, who knows. there was a time, and not to long ago, that i thought that he would never be trained at all. and he did it.

I've noticed children refuse certain potties...Its like they form a preference...Angela absolutely REFUSED to use a potty chair once she turned 1,,,yes she trained herself at 9mo and I hear I had it easy but anyway after age 1 she wanted to use the big toilet....So I bought the seat that pops onto the big toilet and that had her set.......till we moved in with MIL but thats a whole nuther book :roll:

Some kids I've taught would only use certain chairs, some scared of others...Its a bit of trial and error...I like the money reward idea....Age 2 is old enough to understand SHOPPING!!! :wink:

[stargazer7272000]

Your daughter is ready but you can't push. If something doesn't work then try something else but don't push! That will make her regress.
When she pees her pants, make her clean it up. Worked like a charm for my son. When he first started training, he would poop in front of the toilet instead of in it so I made him clean the poop up and put it in the toilet. Then I told him that was where poo-poo goes. He never pooped on the floor again.
I don't know if you read the last potty training thread but we tried everything with my son and eventually what worked was letting him go naked. When he had to go he would ask for a diaper and we would direct him to the potty. This CAN backfire. If your daughter is telling she has to go and a few seconds later she is peeing her pants, this may not work.
Good luck.....we're starting potty training on our yougest soon.

[Kerina]

My daughter started going on her own accord the week before her 2nd birthday. I decided I didn't want to fool around with it, so I put her in panties all of the time within a week. I bought some plastic pants for at night. She doesn't like to pee herself in panties because she hates feeling wet. I'd definitely try to keep her out of any type of diapers, even "training pants" during the day when you can work with her. And I'd tell her the diapers are all gone. But, that's just me. I hope she will make it well before baby comes. I've heard they can regress when that happens. Good luck!

[Bekah]

Hey Karina... we tried that... she would just pee on herself and say "Mommy I pooped" (pooped is her word for both)

[LadyLavender]

I really think mommies are too hard on themselves and their kiddos when it comes to potty-training.

Our pediatrician explained to me that there are so many physical and physiological and emotional elements that have to come together just right in order for them to be potty-trained. Just because it seems like they understand what to do DOES NOT mean they are having accidents to spite you. And, I truly do understand because I had 3 in diapers myself, but it's a mistake to think that because YOU are ready to have them potty-trained means they need to do it.

Our DD finally made up her mind to go on the potty a little past her third birthday, and since then it's been great. A whole year of us pushing and prodding and encouraging and bribing really made no difference when it came down to it- when I finally gave up on asking her to go, that's when she went! Kids can smell CONTROL from a mile away- if they sense it's really important to you, it makes the issue too loaded for them to want to deal with it. Asking "Do you want to go potty?" and accepting either answer with a shrug and a smile is what finally took the pressure off both DD and I- and within a month or so, she figured it out on her own.

Best of luck to you!

[mommyto3]

Just wondering how that potty training is going for everyone. jake is still at the same spot. he will still not poop on the potty. were are still working on it. right now we are making it his responsibility to go to use the bathroom, and for urine it is great. he always tells us, the poop not so good. but he has to help clean up. while we are doing it we talk about where the poop goes, and so on. one day he will get it. (hopefully soon)

[Bekah]

Still in diapers... never asks to use the potty... Sigh...