We just don't know what to do with her...She lies, she sneaks, she refuses to do what she's asked...
We are talking about a child that has been as close to a perfect angel as one can be from birth to age 7....
What on earth is going on???
We're going to try taking her stuff and rights to go places and tv and computer and whatever else away..
Talking didn't work
Time out didn't work
Spanking didn't work
No granny didn't work
Hubby even tried extra school work....didn't work
Nothing is fazing her.....
[prayer] for daylight.
07-08-2006, 10:10 AM
Wow, sounds like you have your hands full. I just prayed for guidance for you and your family in this situation. My sister was the same way, years ago. I noticed a big difference in her when we talked about lining up our actions and words with what pleases God and remembering that ultimately what we say and do either helps our relationship with Him or hinders it. I don't remember how old my sister was when she went through this phase and I don't have a 7 year old to compare too! Wish I could be of more help to you!
07-08-2006, 11:04 AM
I can sort of relate. Trent has a smart mouth right now. He "pops off" every chance he gets at me and his sister. The only thing that part way works with him right now is taking away his 4-wheeler or the phone. He can be so sweet sometimes like last night when he realized he had not bought Autumn a birthday present and we went to the Dollar Store and he shopped really hard for her and bought her things she will love and also a very sweet card. Then 5 minutes later he is smarting off to her. Of course she smarts back but he usually starts it. Anyway he doesn't smart off at his dad but with me and Autumn, he can be hateful sometimes. Best of luck! Stephanie
07-08-2006, 11:28 AM
Sorry to hear you're going through that. My dd (6) is the same way, however she's been a strong willed child since the day she was born. :oops: Sounds like you're on the right track. Have there been any major changes in the home recently? Is there any reason for to maybe need some extra attention right now? Just a thought.
I mentioned this awhile back...I still think it has to do with her daddy becoming more involved in her life...He would have very little to do with her till she was around 5...A good safe age that if he hugged her nothing would ooz or project onto him :lol:
I think its a test she's giving us...probably trying to see how much daddy can stand before he goes away again..
He's been back with us since Christmas(after a live in seperation), but with the job change, he has more time on his hands to be the hubby and daddy...sooooo...I imagine thats whats going on....
Geeeeez I'm tired of it already :roll:
I guess I should be happy I don't have another one piping back at her. :shock: unless you want to include the daddy who oft times acts much like a child :roll:
07-08-2006, 01:19 PM
I think you pretty much hit the nail on the head. I was thinking about it after I posted and remembered there was some changes in the home regarding her dad. If that is in fact the case the best thing you can do is to keep giving her as much love and reassurement as possible. Is dad willing to work with her also? It's important that the 2 of you are consistent with her and back each other up. She needs to feel secure with both of you. She's been used to dealing with just you primarily and now there is a "new" person on the scene. She's probably just testing the waters. It's important to stay firm and loving and letting her know that her behaviour is not acceptable, however you still love her no matter what. Good Luck!