Christian schools and family

[momofweewerfs]

On Sunday, my bil and sil came over for supper. And with her being a school teacher, teaching kindergarten, we were talking about schooling and such. My son has some difficulties, (sensory integration issues) and some fine motor skill difficulties. she told my hubby that we shouldn't be sending our kids to the christian school, especially our son. she feels that he is not getting the help that he needs, which at this point is some one on one with seat work. she said this IN front of our kids, who love the school that they are at. I was really upset, and just took the kids to the playroom and got them involved with some of their playthings. when i returned to the livingroom, i over heard my hubby say, Jake is doing really well, and is very happy at school, because of the much smaller class sizes (approx 25 to 10) he gets alot of one on one. and that as his parent we believe that he is in the best school for him. she got all huffy and said that we were not doing the best for him, and he is going to suffer acedemically. And she is a christian.

has anyone else had to deal with family or friends over where you chose to send your kids to school?

[luvmy4sons]

Well, I haven't had people upset over WHERE I send my kids but that I don't SEND my kids. No matter what choices you make for your children there will be those who think they have sage advice that not only do you need to hear but also to follow. It can be about school or their clothes or their hair or what they eat or whether you vaccinate or not.

It is helpful to find ways to smile and acknowledge others input without letting their opinons get to you too severely. There will always be those who disagree with your decisions. Maybe hubby could convey to her that you would appreicate all advice, suggestions, and critiques be done privately and not in front of he children!

Every choice a parent makes comes with positive and negatvies consequences. Only the parent can discern what direction God is leading them and what issues take more precedence over others! It sounds like you know what you want. I am sure in time you SIL will get the idea that a Christian education takes precedence over other issues. And it sounds like hubby can deal with it all very well! Hugs!

[Beth]

When DS is ready for kindergarten we want to send him to private school. We do not like the public schools in our area. Wake County has terrible schools (IMO) and my DH wants him to go to Catholic school (which I don't think we can get in because of no space) and there is a nice Christian school 2 miles from my office that I would like to check out.

When people hear that we want to go with private school, they want to know why would we want to spend the money. I think why wouldn't I. This is my child and I want the best for him, it should not matter the cost.

We will see how it all pans out. We have another year before we have to decide.

[kymommy]

ITA with Leslie! You know your son, how he learns, and what is best for him. We send our oldest daughter to Christian school and our youngest with special needs to a public. We send her to public for several reasons. She is able to get OT, PT, and Speech in the classroom. There is a teacher trained in working with children like my daughter. She works with her one on one, and she also collaborates with my daughters teachers so she is included in a typical classroom for at least half of the day. My daughter also has access to a lot of technology such as touch screens and large colorful keyboards so she can use the computer. She also has an accessible playground with special swings and equipment for her to play on. She is also tube-fed and not potty trained and thier is trained staff and a nurse to meet her needs at the public school. These resources are not availble at the private Christian school in our community. I wish they were, but we are very happy with our daugther at public school. Her teachers and all the staff and kids at her school shower her with love, care and affection. This is our 4th year at this school and I dread when it's time for her to leave and go to middle school!
Maybe that is where your SIL is coming from? She may be aware that there might be more resources for you son at public school. But if he is making progress, has capable staff, and is happy then he is where he needs to be.