Control issues

Does anyone ever feel like their DD or DS is trying to control them? Or control circumstances within the home to suit themselves?

I have been having a real trial with DD over the past few weeks with mainly incidences like - she was in DS room and they were playing blocks, the TV was on and they weren't watching it so I turned it off. She began screaming at me to turn the TV back on, and I said "No, you are not watching it so it goes off" this turned into a massive crying fit with her yelling "I want to watch it, I want to watch it"

There has been several barney's like this over the past while. I don't ever give into her and the "wars" usually end up with her being sent to her room with the door closed until she can calm down. Either that or I just keep saying no, over and over again and then 5 minutes later she is sweet as pie again as if she was not just screaming a minute before.

I have never given into her so I am not quite sure what she is trying to achieve by continuing to cry and carry on.

She did it this morning and I said to her "If you want to make that sound, go into your bedroom and shut your door behind you" - she quit after a shorter period and sat down and played with the Thomas set with DS.

I just think it is a control thing myself. (she is 3 and a half)

Anyone else had this experience?

[SpiritFilledMomof2]

Oh Yeah! Mine still will act that way occasionally, (she's 6). It's total manipulation. Sounds like you're doing the right thing by not giving in. I think some children are more stubborn or strong willed than others though. I still am dealing with issues with dd however she has a very strong will! Hopefully yours is just going through a stage. I believe it's normal for most children to test the boundaries at some point.

Ugg tell me about it, I think the key here is that DH and I need to learn not to blame ourselves!

The other thing is I am so hormonal at the moment I can't even bare to hear DH chastise her and I have to go into the bathroom and turn the exhaust fan on so I can't hear it otherwise I want to cry :lol:

[luvmy4sons]

She is flapping her wings and testing you. Maybe she is a little concerned over this new one coming along!? Hang in there mom! You are doing a fine job. :D Do not weary in well doing! I know how hard a three year old can be! Some say the terrible twos, but I think 3 is the age where they find their will more than any other! Hang tough! I wil be praying God grant you extra energy and wisdom for the challenge! :)