so I need some advice.

I am concernec about the TV that my daughter watches. The TV doesn't go on until evening when hubby comes home. He and I have differing opinions about TV and he allows our almost 12 year old watch sit coms that I disapprove of. Without starting world war 3 what can I do except pray? My husband uses the TV to disengage and wind down after his day and though he will sometimes turn the station his idea of what is inappropriate and mine are on different spectrums.

Any advice?

hmmm, we have to watch what comes on our TV too at night due the fact we love the investigative type shows...which can be graphic! What we agreed to go by (hubby and myself) is that if it is something that we think will bring on nightmares, then it goes off...and we try to keep him playing with us (cars/trains/puzzles) while we watch anything to keep him from just vegging and soaking up the TV totally at all too.....it's a tough "teeter-totter" to ride sometimes! Good luck!
Our litte one is just 2, so we don't have the older age to worry about that you do....my friend has an older child though and they have a family agreement that Dad's TV time is the kid's homework or computer game time....so they're each given an hour break in seperate rooms.

I don't think you are alone in this. I know many women who struggle with what their husbands will sit down and watch TV and also allow their children to do the same. It was an issue within our four walls as well for quite awhile. I used to go into the other room and literally get on my knees and ask God to inspire my husband to want to change the channel or turn it off! :)

I did find though that when I was silent on the issue while it was happening and prayed I got better results than when I huffed or puffed and asked him to change the channel. Later after the moment had passed I would explain my concerns and ask if he could wait to watch certain things thill the children were in bed. [chat]

Then I started trying to find things to do for entertainement purposes so that the TV wasn't thought of. That started our ritual of playing games every night after dinner. I would be positive and say, " Let's take the dog for a walk"...or "Let's play Yahtzee!" or "Let's go outside and play badminton." Those usually worked though sometimes I could tell he knew I was trying to lead him away from the TV. Yet he always sent along. Men just like to play or be entertained. Big boys really! :)

I will encourage you that when I totally gave it over to the Lord and quit harping on him and continued to pray for my hsuband that he did come around more to my standards on what we watch. Though sometimes it can still differ. The kids are older now and they will tell him sometimes to turn the channel. He will say, " Oh, sorry didn't even think about it." I think men zone out in front of the thing and aren't always aware. [whatthink]

Overall though there is less TV and more activity now. And when there is TV, stricter standards. But I have given up on watching things with violence( as long as it is not gory or gratuitous or glorifies evil, but like war movies etc...). My boys love to watch things blow up. We have a guardian on the TV that takes out all bad language! That helps. You can get them at Wal-Mart for 60 dollars! A God send at times! Here is a hug! [hug] Because I get it!

It sounds like you and DH have already discussed this issue together?

It must be so hard if you feel you are not on the same boat in an area like this.

If you don't feel like there is anything you can do about the issue, then I suggest you pray that God covers and protects her mind from these TV shows.

You can't bring this up again with DH and have a heart to heart when your kid/s aren't present? Tell him calmly how you honestly feel this is detrimental to her? It doesn't have to be World War 3?

I can't even imagine how hard this is DH and I are usually on the same page on issues. I will pray for you!!!

Since your daughter is 12, you could use these as teachable moments. Talk with her about material that is inappropiate and why it is. Our daughter is 9 and a half and we do that alot. I cannot control what is watched when she is away from home, but we have an open enough relationship that she will tell me and we discuss maybe why that wouldn't be a wise choice in the future and things to do to handle the situation.

I could get mad and scowl and frown, but I don't think it would have the same effect. Even on shows that we approve, there are times when we talk about things that they say or do and how it does or doesn't line up against God's Word. I would love to shelter my children, but I would rather equip them, that way when I'm not there they know the differences and can make confident, good choices or at least discern.

It also helps that we have a DVR so when more adult material is on and the kids are still up, we just DVR it and watch it later. My hubby (and he is an intern children's pastor) still picks in appropiate material at times...I think it is just something in them :P

i have a like problem, but its with music, our kids are 5 and 21 months and he will put on music with foul language in it and i can't seem to get him to understand how its affecting all of us.

We deal with the same issue in our household also. I don't want to be a nagging wife, but if we are all watching the tv and something scary,violent or inappropriate comes across the tv (which is basically everything), I don't want my son to see this. He is so impressionable. Yet on the other hand, I want my hubby to be able to unwind and relax. He as a kid was allowed to watch basically everything, so he doesn't understand my concern. I was sheltered & pretty much like it that way.

My husband and I talked about t.v. and music shortly after we found out that I was pg. (My daughter Samera, is only a year and a half) We agreed that she could only watch educational t.v. shows and we have to watch them with her and participate in all the dancing and etc. that goes on during the show. She watches about 3 hours of t.v. throughout the entire day and the rest of the day is spent playing, reading or exploring outside.

Maybe you and your daughter could go to a seperate room and do something together or watch something more age appropriate in another room.