Anybody else waiting for a surprise?

[BlessedMommy]

I was just wondering if there are any other moms here who are the old fashioned type like me and my husband and prefer to wait until birth and be surprised by your baby's gender.

If so, what were your primary reasons for choosing that? Do you ever want to double over with the suspense? Do you ever have an intuition as to which gender the baby might be?

How do you pick out baby stuff? Do you choose gender generic stuff or just make sure that you have plenty of both colors on hand?

To answer my own questions:

My husband was always of the mindset that he wanted to wait until birth. Then we decided to have a home birth with a midwife who doesn't send you for an ultrasound unless there's a problem. I got into the spirit of it and enjoy the excitement of the "big day."

Sometimes the suspense does get to me a bit! But I'll know in 2 months.

My intuition is that the baby will be a girl.

I have tons of boy and girl stuff.

No it would drive me insane the whole 40 weeks wondering ... I was going crazy just after my first U/S when they couldn't tell us and I had to wait another 2 weeks HAHA Also I would go crazy worrying about what we were going to name the baby once it was born. Because we have to basically fill in the form straight away for the birth certificate so we can get the baby bonus from the IRD... so we would have like one day to decide on a name. I needed more time than that! :lol: It took us ages to decide on a name for our girl. If I was rushed into it I'd probably regret my decision. I wasn't even sure on Abbys name for quite some time. I got used to it though. I mean.. it grew on me LOL Now I love it.
With Sophie... I am sure I want Sophie but not so sure on the middle name still. So ... I have another 11 or so weeks to decide.
Also I'm not a big fan of white clothing and not a big fan of baby yellow on a boy and pale green on a girl so I wanted to know what colors clothing I would be buying.

[Bekah]

We found out the last two times just so we would know what to buy!!

But now that we have one of each we are planning on keeping it a surprise because we would like the excitment on the day of delivery!

Ruth - I am more like Renee, I wanted to know what my baby was to be organised and also I do like to have my anatomy scan to make sure there are no problems, so in the event that there is a problem, I have time to deal with it and begin thinking long term (such as possible care the baby needs etc). Because of my low placenta situation, I am totally GLAD I had the ultrasound!!!

People often have an U/S without finding out the sex, they just tell the tech to steer clear of that area :wink: that's the first thing the Dr asked me (Are we finding out the sex, or should I be discreet in the genital area).

and YES I knew it was a girl, or had an inkling the baby is a girl and I kept saying it, but there is always the niggling thought "what if I am imagining it" so when they said it is a girl, I knew my inklings were correct.

I know my sister knew what her baby was WITHOUT an ultrasound (she knew it was a boy) and my Mum always knew instinctively what sex we all were.

If you want to have a bit of fun (not sure if you have seen this thred) but I posted a link on this thred to a "Ye Old Midwives gender predictor" - I went through the whole thing and it predicted I was having a girl, it's just a bit of a laugh really!

wooo 2 months is not long to wait! You go girl!

xxo Aussie Mum

[NZMummy]

We didn't find out with my son (now 2 years old). I didn't mind finding out but my husband didn't want to know. He told me that this way there is not so much dwelling on whether you wanted a boy or a girl - you just fall in love with the baby when you see it whatever the gender. Initially I had though that he was going to be a boy - but by the end of the pregnancy I was convinced that he was a girl. What a shock when I was presented with a baby boy! I was actually really pleased that it was a boy. This time (now 20 weeks pregnant) he said that he wouldn't mind finding out - but I enjoyed having a surprise last time, so we agreed to wait again. As far as clothes go, we don't have the money to buy more baby clothes - and quite a few of my sons would suit either boy or girl. If it is a girl I am sure that we will get some girly things as gifts from family. I must admit the curiousity did drive me a bit batty towards the end last time. This time I thought that it was a girl initially - but now I have more of a feeling that it is another boy. But, as I found out last time, my instinct is not that reliable.

[harmony5]

I did not find out what my first and my third children were at the US. I did find out with my 2nd and it just wasn't as fun when they said "It's a Boy!". It was kinda like, "yeah, I know!" So, dh says if we have another one, we will find out what it is early so we can set up our bedrooms before the baby comes. That is because we have 4 bedrooms. One for dh and me, one for dd, and one for each ds. If we have another baby, someone will have to share a room. He wants to know beforehand, so we can work it all out. Well, it doesn't make a bit of difference to me who sleeps in what room! :wink: None of my babies slept in their bedroom when they were newborn anyway. So, I have told him that we should just wait until after the baby is born and is a few months old and then move everyone around where they are going to be. I told you all that just so you will know that I LOVE SURPRISES!!

When I was pg with my 3rd, EVERYONE in both families was mad at us because we wouldn't find out the sex. I had several ultrasounds, even later in pregnancy. Each time I had one, everyone would be begging me...find out what it is... I figured, it is my child in my womb and I think if I can wait, they can too! :wink:

Lori :D

[BlessedMommy]

That's so funny Lori!

Actually someone said to my DH and I at church, "I just can't stand not knowing what people are having. Can't you please get an ultrasound and let me look at it, so that I can know, and you can turn your eyes the other way?" LOL.

It's funny when other people want to know worse than we do!