For a month now, I have been scheduled to go in today, August 3rd to be induced. I am just a couple of days away from being full term at this point, and due to my BP & blood sugar being elevated throughout my pregnancy, my doctor had suggested we do this. She originally wanted to do so last week, but I wanted to wait as long as possible.

We scheduled it for a Friday so I would only have to miss half a day of work. She had agreed that if I took it easy, there would be no problems with me coming back to work the following Monday. That is if there were no complications during labor and delivery (c-section, excessive bleeding, etc.). She understood that financially, I need to miss as little work as possible. We both knew he could come on his own any day of the week, but if we were purposely planning this, then we would try to do so wisely and schedule for a Friday.

At around 1:45pm yesterday, her office manager called me and said I needed to be at the hospital that night at 7:30pm, rather than the planned 5am for today. This was because she felt I might need extra help getting my cervix to dilate since I had been “stuck” at 4cm for over 3 weeks now. They were going to begin one hormone last night, and then start the Pitocin at 5am as planned, if labor did not happen naturally just from the cervix ripening. So, I rushed through some last minute work things, grabbed my stuff and left work 3 hours early so I would be able to get everything ready to go. (Had some bills that needed to be paid yesterday and knew I needed to get them done before going to the hospital.)

So, there I am rushing around town and trying to make calls to ensure my family knew what was happening and such, when the office manager calls AGAIN. “Never mind, Katie, we won’t be inducing you this week after all. We have rescheduled you for next Tuesday night at 7:30pm, so if you will be there then, we’ll get you going.”

Long story short….I won’t be having him today, and probably won’t be going back to that doctor to be induced or for any further care. Between me being hysterical, my husband not knowing how to calm me down and therefore calling my dad to come help him, and then both of them calling the doctors office back…..not a pretty picture. Between the 3 of us and the already snippy office manager, I think we came to the conclusion that my doctor is entirely over booked and I need to seek care elsewhere. Not really a good situation, but can’t fix it now.

Let me just say, don’t mess with me or my Daddy and my Husband will come at you! As bad as the whole situation is, it was sort of nice to see them in one accord about something concerning me.

Hubby took me out for dinner and then I spent all night fighting severe reflux. Don’t know what to do now. I suppose I will attempt to call my old OB, if he won’t take me back on at this point, then I will just wait and see when this boy wants to arrive and show up at the ER. They have to treat me, one way or another. Right?

Katie, I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. I think it was so not right for them to put you on this rollercoaster ride. Being pg and waiting to see your new baby is so exciting, and to think you know when that is suppose to happen and then have that pulled out from under your feet, well that is just harsh! I know sometimes inductions have to be rescheduled if the hospital is too busy or whatever, but to not even take into consideration everything that you two had discussed and planned......

I wonder what the Lord is trying to do in your lives by making you go through this trial. He sure knows way more than we do about why these things happen, and I just pray that the reason is because Cash just isn't ready yet to come out, and he is protecting him from something.

I know what your doctor did was so hard, but I would encourage you to not make a rash decision about your care until the anger dies down. I agree she doesn't deserve to care for you, but if your other OB won't take you back, you will need to be monitored for your and Cash's sake. If your body doesn't go into labor for a while, you will need to have his placenta watched. It more than likely will function properly, but there are times when placentas go kaput before labor starts, and you don't want anything to happen to your little man just because you were mad at your doctor...KWIM? Then there is your BP and blood sugar issues.

If you really just cannot deal with your other doc, I am sure you can go to the ER every few days to have them check. Not the best use of the ER, but hey, it's better than nothing right?

I will lift you up in prayer today as the Lord brings you to mind. Know we are here for you!
Blessings,
Amber

p.s. you will NOT be pg forever, it may seem like it, but that kid has to come out sometime! :wink:

I would also encourage you to lift your doctor up in prayer. I know that may seem impossible right now, but for your sake, you need to start the forgiveness process. The sad thing about this type of situation is that we, the patient, feel the emotions, and your doc probably isn't even thinking about you at all. SO, when we harbor all of those feelings and let them brew, all we are doing is causing us sin issues. And I am sure she could use all the prayer she can get.

Hi Katie sorry to hear the bother that you are having I will pray that things sort them self out and that your little boy arrives safe and well.

Thank you Amber. I feel so ungrateful, yet so unsure too. KWIM? She has been a good doctor, in most ways, but there are some things that just don't add up. In the end, this seems to be a matter of what is going to make her the most money today, and that is disappointing to me.

I wouldn't mind her delivering me, but I just really hate the thought of all the confrontation if I have to go back to her office for checkups. Her office manager was VERY mad when my dad got off the phone with her....I'm telling you, never knew my daddy loved me so much! I am concerned about how to call back and schedule with them, or if she will even allow it at this point. The last thing she said to me was "good luck on finding someone else to treat you because I certainly won't be putting you back on our schedule."

In all of this, I never once got to speak to my doctor...just her rather rude staff....I am praying, will continue to pray and covet your prayers.

Thank you.

No words...just prayers and hugs! hang in there sweetie!

Awww! Thats horrible hon. The last thing you needed! Oh well, can't help it if other people are jerks... Thank God for your dh and dad! :D

Awww...hon i'm so sorry to hear that. That's horrible that you doctor would keep changing plans on you like that. :? Hope you are able to find another doctor soon. ((HUGS))

Hang in there, Katie! I will be praying :wink:

You have been on my heart and mind lately, Katie. I guess I know why now! I can't believe what that doctor put you through! If you didn't live so far away, I'd have you come here to our new women's clinic. It is super nice and I know just the doctor that I'd recommend for you! HUGE HUGE [hug]! I love you, sweetie and am sending the biggest prayers your way! :)

Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear all this :(

You thought you were finally there and then all this happened. Kudos to your hubby and dad for sticking up for you!

I hope your old OB will take you back--under certain circumstances; I know that they will take you back-so I pray that this will happen for you.

Maybe this is in God's Will for your baby--maybe God is protecting him and you for a little while longer.

I hope things will get better.

You're in my prayers.

[hug]

I sure will continue to pray for you hun!

Hang in there Katie,

Praying for you.

---
HL

http://www.RenewedJourney.blogspot.com

You know, I had an OB that I just LOVED, but I left her office because her staff was horrible! When I was having my first m/c but didn't know it yet, the gal who brought me back told me we were not going to do the prenatal blood testing because it probably would be a waste of time. This was my first pg too, so I totally know what you mean about the office manager being totally unprofessional!
I'm so sorry she took your issues so personally. If the doc knew what she was doing, she would hire someone who had an ounce of compassion and understanding!

I pray it all works out for the best for you! We love you and are praying for you!

blessings,
Amber

:( :( ugh! -ren

I am sorry this is happening to you. I will be praying for you. This whole situation just really stinks and I can't believe how rude they were. Praying the right dr. whether or not the same one, comes into your life and everything just works out perfectly. Keeping you in my prayers.

Just an update for Monday! No baby yet. Several hours of contractions on Sunday, but they never increased in pain or got closer together. Then abruptly stopped right at midnight last night....UGH!!! FRUSTRATION!!!! [crytantrum]

I called and spoke to my old OB first thing this morning. He said he would gladly take me back on as a patient BUT he is taking off this Friday for 2 weeks to be with his mom who is having heart surgery....so he would probably have to put me under one of the other doctors in that group for monitoring. He is okay with induction, but the hospital he works from, has no empty beds at all in L&D (way overbooked there) and he hesitates to put me in there early this week when I might not get the personalized care I really needed.

He also informed me on something that is even more disturbing to me about my former/current doctor.....the office manager who treated me so badly last week is her.........DAUGHTER!!!!! :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: So any chance of the doctor being nice to me there, or understanding of how I feel about her staff....pretty much just went down the drain.

So, I am praying today, talking to my family and going to try to make a decision by this afternoon or early tomorrow.

It has been 1 week since my last checkup and I know it's important for me to have those routinely...so I am praying that he either arrives today or I get some real peace about what doctor to go to now.

Thank you all for your love, prayers and patience with me!

Hey Katie....welcome to overdue! After it's all said and done, you will carry that proudly! :D

I am so happy that your doc said he would take you back. I think the choice is obvious as to where to go. I would see if you could get in for an apt soon, who knows, maybe you have hit that "magical" 5cm mark and they will send you to L&D anyways. I do hope that whatever happens that you do get awesome care. There is no other choice for that!!!!

How is the water hook up going? Maybe the Lord is having you wait so that Cash can come home to your house right away. We may never know his reasons, but he is so sovereign and he totally knows! It's so comforting to know that he is there!

Keep us updated! You are always on my mind and in my prayers! I am so excited to see pics of this little guy!!!

Blessings,
Amber

Thank you Amber! You have been such an encouragement to me!

Water Hookup!!! My Dad and DH will complete this tomorrow. We have the final dig happening this morning, they will work on last minute things tonight and tomorrow and tomorrow afternoon the health inspector comes to give his okay. After he signs off, we have another 7 days and our water meter will be placed and we will have all of our hookups complete!

It has been such a joy watching DH & Dad working together on this. Literally in the pit, in mud cutting and glueing pipes as if they had been working together for years.....

Our God is Good! He has definitely done more than I ever imagined and the healing happening....WOW!!!!

Still praying sweetie.. call your old doc! Then take a walk around the block ...

Oh wow that is so frustrating! Praying.

Praying you get awesome care for both mama and baby! Love ya! ((HUGS))

Well, after talking to my old doc (the one who delivered my first). I sent for medical records from the OB I've been with so far in this pregnancy.

THEY REFUSED!!!! I have a $160 balance from my original blood work that I haven't finished paying off and on that grounds they are holding my medical records. I got state assistance during my 4th month, but prior to that had to pay out of pocket. I have been paying $25 a visit on the blood work (it was over $1000 originally!) and that is all I owe.

Okay...got to call around and see if they can do that or not! Either way, I can't go to the old doc without my records of this pregnancy so far. So, they are forcing me into a corner here!!!!

Please pray that things go okay and settle. Particularly that I am able to go into labor without having to go back to their office for another visit first.

Well, after talking to my old doc (the one who delivered my first). I sent for medical records from the OB I've been with so far in this pregnancy.

THEY REFUSED!!!! I have a $160 balance from my original blood work that I haven't finished paying off and on that grounds they are holding my medical records. I got state assistance during my 4th month, but prior to that had to pay out of pocket. I have been paying $25 a visit on the blood work (it was over $1000 originally!) and that is all I owe.

Okay...got to call around and see if they can do that or not! Either way, I can't go to the old doc without my records of this pregnancy so far. So, they are forcing me into a corner here!!!!

Please pray that things go okay and settle. Particularly that I am able to go into labor without having to go back to their office for another visit first.

Grr...that's just horrible! I don't see how they can do that...it's not like it's an outstanding balance....*sigh* I'm sorry Katie...hopefully something will work out.

OH sweetie... I am praying!

I am not sure if the laws are different state to state but I am pretty sure that if your doctor's office (the old OB) requests the records to provide you with medical care, they cannot withhold them. By doing so, they can be putting your life in danger by making you be without medical care. I would look that up, but I would ask your doctor's office to request your records for emergency purposes.
I might even call them back and threaten them with legal action if they refuse. I really do not see this being legal, and they probably know that. The other thing you can do is go to the ER for something. Tell them you are worried about your baby because you are overdue. They will probably have to get your records from your doc in that case to treat you. If they ask you medical history questions, just tell them you can't remember most of the information, they would have to get it then. I do not want you to lie and be deceitful, but your health is being jeopardized due to what seems like spite. If anything were to happen to you or Cash, it would seem that they would be liable because they made it so you could not seek help. KWIM?

I hope you find something out. I'm sorry they are being like this. I guess it's hard to be compassionate when you live by sin alone!

Blessings,
Amber

Finally!!!!!!!!!! Got to talk to the actual doctor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, she is mad at her staff. The whole situation has been handled wrong and she apologized profusely! She actually cried! Apparently much of what has been happening has been kept from her. (Mainly I've talked to the office manager & staff).

So, here is what she offered. She will meet me at L&D tomorrow evening (if I still haven't delivered) to do a regular exam. This way it won't affect my time off work and will also be outside of her office (I think I would be too uncomfortable going back there right now). If everything looks the same (dialation/effacement = no progression) and baby isn't in distress or anything, we will go ahead and induce this Friday, if I want. If I want to wait, then she will meet me next week the same way at L&D after work hours for an exam.

I feel good about it now simply because I finally got to speak to her personally. There are some things about her I still am uncomfortable with, but considering the fact she has been there the whole pregnancy, I suppose it is wisest for me to allow her to deliver if she continues offering me better care.

I feel peace about this and am glad that things are looking up. Although I still wish I had went to my old doctor originally, I feel I will let her deliver me, then will transfer back to him. I told her this, and she was understanding. Please continue to pray for me and the baby.

Amen! God is good!

Whew!! So glad things are starting to look up and you are getting things worked out!! :D

Glad things are looking up here, Katie! Praying for you!

I'm relieved for you, Katie! Hope you're able to smile a bit today! :D Keep us posted!!

~kate~