Madre
07-22-2007, 12:06 PM
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Letting Go of Your Children
by Linda Guy
Our foundation is always that God is Love. He loves our children more than we do, and He alone loves perfectly. His very nature is love towards His enemies, towards those in pride and rebellion. We may condemn our children; but He never condemns. The fact is that sin has its own punishment. God’s love is always in perfect agreement with His righteousness, wisdom and judgments. God loves us, but how much have we pushed Him to His limits? Yet He never despairs of us, rejects us, or reacts in frustration and self centered hurt. We can let go because of His Love.
Secondly, as in all relationships, what does our child’s behavior reveal in us? Our focus can be so much on another’s behavior, that we justify our reactions. God does something in parents’ lives through their children. God’s desire is to free us from any flesh that comes out of us. Allow the Lord to deal with you as you walk this path; and discover that all the pain and suffering has it’s purpose in your life. God is not the cause of sin and hurt; but He is in control, and permits it to come upon us through others. What in our flesh may the behaviour of the teenager be revealing? It is this that we must first deal with, and let go of in our own hearts. Only then will we be truly free to walk in the Spirit and allow the more than sufficient love of Christ to flow through us.
Is it time to let go of a performance-based acceptance or rejection of the child?
To let go of your plans and dreams for your child’s life?
To let go of your image and reputation, and concern about how you look to others because of your child’s behaviour?
To let go of taking responsibility for their choices, of trying to do what only they must choose for themselves?
To let go of hanging onto hurt and anger in response to the hurt and anger they have inflicted on you?
To let go playing God and Holy Spirit in their lives and conscience?
To let go of manipulating circumstances to control them?
To let go of trying to make them like you?
To let go of getting your emotional needs, of value, love, worth, security and acceptance from them?
To let go of seeing them as your possession, and rather, see them as belonging to God first?
To let go of your desire to protect them from pain and suffering; and so from maturity?
To let go of trying to motivate and change them through guilt, threats, and fear? To let go of walking on egg shells around them and thus allowing them to control you?
Ask God to reveal to you what exactly it is you need to let go of, for the flesh of man has many disguises, so only the Holy Spirit can show you.
http://www.abidinghearts.org/page3.?printerfriendly=y.htm
Letting Go of Your Children
by Linda Guy
Our foundation is always that God is Love. He loves our children more than we do, and He alone loves perfectly. His very nature is love towards His enemies, towards those in pride and rebellion. We may condemn our children; but He never condemns. The fact is that sin has its own punishment. God’s love is always in perfect agreement with His righteousness, wisdom and judgments. God loves us, but how much have we pushed Him to His limits? Yet He never despairs of us, rejects us, or reacts in frustration and self centered hurt. We can let go because of His Love.
Secondly, as in all relationships, what does our child’s behavior reveal in us? Our focus can be so much on another’s behavior, that we justify our reactions. God does something in parents’ lives through their children. God’s desire is to free us from any flesh that comes out of us. Allow the Lord to deal with you as you walk this path; and discover that all the pain and suffering has it’s purpose in your life. God is not the cause of sin and hurt; but He is in control, and permits it to come upon us through others. What in our flesh may the behaviour of the teenager be revealing? It is this that we must first deal with, and let go of in our own hearts. Only then will we be truly free to walk in the Spirit and allow the more than sufficient love of Christ to flow through us.
Is it time to let go of a performance-based acceptance or rejection of the child?
To let go of your plans and dreams for your child’s life?
To let go of your image and reputation, and concern about how you look to others because of your child’s behaviour?
To let go of taking responsibility for their choices, of trying to do what only they must choose for themselves?
To let go of hanging onto hurt and anger in response to the hurt and anger they have inflicted on you?
To let go playing God and Holy Spirit in their lives and conscience?
To let go of manipulating circumstances to control them?
To let go of trying to make them like you?
To let go of getting your emotional needs, of value, love, worth, security and acceptance from them?
To let go of seeing them as your possession, and rather, see them as belonging to God first?
To let go of your desire to protect them from pain and suffering; and so from maturity?
To let go of trying to motivate and change them through guilt, threats, and fear? To let go of walking on egg shells around them and thus allowing them to control you?
Ask God to reveal to you what exactly it is you need to let go of, for the flesh of man has many disguises, so only the Holy Spirit can show you.