05-31-2006, 03:31 PM
My sons is 2 and has entered the terrible twos. When he does not get his way he screams and at times cries uncontrollably. At home, I have an action plan to put him in his room whenever he has this behavior, but out in public I don't know how to handle the situation. He also has no concept of NO, and no he isn't telling me no to everything.l He just ignores you. I am hoping that this is truly only a phase of the Terrible Twos. Any advice would be appreciated.
05-31-2006, 04:34 PM
So sorry to hear about what you are going through. I went through the same exact thing with my daughter. She is now 2 1/2 and at times is still going through her rebellion. :roll: I don't have a what to do method for you but i will tell you this stage is called "the first adolence" which is actually what they are doing. They want to calm independence at age 2! :lol: Which sounds funny but i know isn't when you as a parent have to deal with it. Anyhow at this age they are very smart and know what no means. And they are totally testing limits and boundaries that is why they ignore you and disobey. They want to test and see if mommy and daddy will do what they say or if discipline is just a bluff. I know that it's easier to discipline at home then out of the home. This was my problem. At home home i disciplined my daughter with no problem because if she cried it didn't bother me. But in public it was another story. I didn't want to discipline her in public out of embarresment because i didn't want her crying hysterically infront of everybody for no reason. Well long story short my daughter caught on and saw that i didn't really discipline her in public so when we were out she did not listen to me at all! Until i finally got the courage and started to discipline her in public even if it meant getting faces and comments from other moms and people (which really bugs :x ). Anyhow, things got alot better because she soon realized that she wouldn't be able to get away with things anymore. The battles have pretty much ended. Their are still days that she will test me but now it usually takes just one firm no and she'll stop. Trust me it WILL get better. You just have to be consistent and let them know how's boss. You not your child. And patience of course. :wink: Good luck to ya! ((HUGS)). Oh! And i totally recommend reading the book by dr. James Dobson called the strong willed child. That is how i got alot of information on why your child is going through that terrible two's phase and what to do. Because like you i didn't know what to do. So i totally recommend it!
Lovemylife... you are doing EXACTLY the right thing at home!
My children have done this and another friend advised me to bend down right in their faces and speak firmly to them. I saw her in action one day when her son was throwing a wobbly in a department store - too she took firm hold of the top of his arms so he couldn't throw himself on the floor, put her face right in his and said "You will NOT keep throwing this tantrem" over and over he did STOP and I have used her method with success.
I am not sure what it is but sometimes I think kids want to experiment with our reaction when we are in another dynamic away from home to see if the same rules apply. So smart!
06-12-2006, 02:12 PM
My son will be 3 in August and he still gets so moody sometimes. He refuses to let me brush his teeth most of the time, and I have to hold him down to do it. I hate that, but he has to have If I'm busy and don't play with him much during the day he's more likely to throw fits. Other then that, just try to be as consistant as possible with his punishments. It his teeth brushed.
Usually he's more likely to throw a fit when he's tired. I try to do things (like brush his teeth) when he;s not tired so it'll be more likely that he'll just let me. And giving him more attention seems to help too. Other then that just try to be as consistant as possible with your punishments. It can be hard, but it sounds like your doing the right thing.
My son is doing the tantrum thing when he doesn't get what he wants also. I just let him have his tantrum but not his way. Sitting it out seems to be working. If he gets too frustrating for me to handle then I put him in his room. I feel he'll grow out of this eventually. I do want him to know that he can't have everything he wants or everything his way although it pulls at my heartstrings sometimes when he cries--his face scrunches up and he cries elephant tears while he cries "Pease, Pease!" He luckily doesn't throw tantrums in public although he used to. Veda
06-13-2006, 07:35 AM
timmysmom, this is a little off subject from this topic, but have you tried letting him brush your teeth- my son used to resist and that worked like a charm, ocassionally he still asks to di it (he's 3) and I oblige :D