Ok so ya all know the trouble that I am having with my DD but I have come up with a plan that I think might work and want your opioions on it:

I am going to get a good morning and bed routine and limit her time for meals. By this I mean if she hasn't eaten it in so many minutes then it goes in the bin. I am going to limit all spending on her till her behaviour improves and I am going to ban sweets, chocolate and crips until she learns to behave. (If you need translation on the sweets crips and chocolate then let me know)

Also this is my big idea and hope fully I can pull it off, I am going to but Sinead a cleaning set for her age and show her what it is like to have responsibility. Also I am going to show her how to get her dolly into a routine and just really give her responsibilty.

Finally I am going to spend more time having fun and teaching her things and stop panicking about the house work.

Does this sound good to people, I know I should go away and make my own descions but your guys are so fantastic at giving advice I though I would ask what you though of my new idea.

Zoey

sounds good to me.
but if she doesn't eat, say her breakfast withint 20 minutes, put it in the fridge and give her that for lunch. that's what we do

and letting her teach the doll while you teach her is a GREAT solution.

you know what, I give my ds a 5 minute warning about everything, that way he knows what we are going to be doing next like going inside, or eating I say "a few more minutes and then all done" That way he has no surprises and he has time to adjust to the next activity.

Thank you I really appreciate all the help and suggestions that I recive I am very low in confidence and always need backing up and reassuring.

This will get you laughing this morning Sinead has decided that Mr Ted had to go to Pre-School with her, she has formed an emotional attachment to him. Anyway this bear is nearly as big as her and to top it all off she has me dress him in her old clothes. So there we were walking up the road with a stuffed bear dressed in clothes. She wouldn't even let the Pre School assistant put him out of the class room, she looked distraught when she suggest it. And thats not all Mr Ted is also coming shopping with us.

I know in another post you said that she was being very angry and bit you. Some children have a food or dye allergy. I would limit anything with red or blue dyes in them and perhaps limit artificial sweeteners if she gets food or drinks with them.