I just finished teaching school last week and I'm starting to relax a little, so I thought I'd let you know what's been going on...
We've been TTC for the last 15 months with no success yet, and because we've been married almost 4 years and I just turned 30 this June, I thought I'd go get checked out so I can make sure there's nothing physical hindering the process! So last Friday I went to an appointment with a doctor (not sure if he's a specialist).
I was pretty relaxed/confidant going in, but what got me was this lady in the next examining room who I could clearly hear and who was obviously in a lot of pain! I almost felt like running out of there and saying, "Forget it!" The doctor came in and was really great, though - very friendly and easy to talk to.
So we had a chat, then he checked me out and said everything seemed normal. I still have to go for a blood test on Day 3 and an ultrasound somewhere between Days 5 - 10 and DH is supposed to give a sample... which he doesn't want to (it's complicated...).
Has anybody else out there been through this? I just thought TTC was supposed to be easier than this... I mean, my parents used to joke about it being harder to conceive my sister and how they had to chart mom's temp, but I guess I just never pictured myself having to work this hard at it too! I'm also down because my DH is away for 5 days, so it's just me and the dog... :(
So thanks for listening ladies ::hugs:: I appreciate the chance to just vent!

I remember those days of trying to conceive. It took me about 2 years to get pregnant with my son and 14 months to get pregnant with my daughter. I also suffered a miscarriage before I had my son. I have a condition called hyperprolactinemia which prevented me from ovulating. It still took me a while to get pregnant even when I was put on medicine to make me ovulate. I never did the temp thing because I could always tell when I was ovulating. My legs would ache, I had a discharge and my tummy hurt when I was ovulating.

I'll be praying for you ... hang in there!

Stephanie :D

Dh and I haven't gone throught the whole testing process, but we have been ttc for about 14 months. We have one daughter so we didn't think it would be too difficult to get pregnant with baby #2, but we were wrong. I do believe a lot of it has to do with God's timing, but it's the being patient and waiting that makes it difficult. Or the thought of never being able to have one or more.
I think a lot of us know how you feel. It is a roller coaster ride and it's not fun. I'll add you to my ttc prayer list!

Hello I am new to this board and just saw your post. My husband and I have been married for 13 years and are 34 and 35 and have a 12 year old DS and 9 1/2 DD. We are TTC #3 for 12 cycles now for 2 years. I thought since it literally took me 1 shot with each of them that it wouldn't be a problem. WRONG . My Dr. finally recommended a RE (reproductive endocrinologist) I wish I would have seen him earlier. He and his staff are wonderful. But it is God's timing that started us on the 20th of Last month. I did the bloodwork on the 2nd day my insulin was 2 points to high but all normal. Last Thursday I had my HSG which was fine and this morning I had the Post Coital which came back not good but she couldn't get a good sample and she said most of the tests come back failed, so it didn't mean a thing. Tomorrow my Dr. will call to say what he wants to do next. And on the 10th I will have a progesterone test. All these tests are great to get an idea of what is going on.
If you have any questions on these tests please let me know. But after a year of trying for a year I would see an RE. I also went from 4 cycles of Clomid to this month trying a new drug for ovulation stimulation called Letrozole. I am not having the side effects I did with clomid and my RE said it has better results.
Praying for all of us.....

I am sort of going through the same thing. In fact, I am not even sure I can conceive because of my husband's cancer. There is a part of me that wants it so bad and I found myself disappointed every single month. The only thing I could do, because it has turned into month after month and then year after year of disappointments, I hoped for the worst, but had to keep my focus on other things so that I wasn't consumed by the difficulty I was having. With all of the things we tried, I tried to keep my mind busy so that it wasn't waiting for the period to come . I sure hope the Lord gives you the desires of your hearts. I will be praying for you.

I'm sorry you are frustrated in your TTC journey. The Lord can sure use these times to teach us to rely on him, and keep our focus where it needs to be. :wink:

Our story in short....we had two miscarriages. First pg we got pg right away, second took 2 1/2 years. We used clomid and got pg during the third round and had our beautiful DD. We got pg right away with our DS, and he is now with the Lord. We are praying for another little blessing, but we know it's all in the Lord's hands!

I had some testing, nothing major, and DH did do the semen analysis. Ask if you could bring the sample in yourself. We "got the sample" at home, used a medical specimen cup, and I drove 30 min with his little guys in my armpit. It was much easier for him this way. Personally, it's hard to really understand the big deal with men. Probably more of an ego thing, but us women have to get poked, prodded, blood drawn, imanging tests, and all they have to do is "get a little action!" LOL :lol: They do have condoms that are made specifically for catching a sample. That could be an option that DH likes.

I pray you get your little blessing soon, and that you keep your eyes on the Lord!

Blessings,
Amber

I just wanted to apologize. I don't think that my first post to you mad any sense. Actually I am a little embarrassed. I am not sure what I was trying to say.

Sorry [whatheadagainstthewall]

Been there...done it ALL...tests/monitoring/specialists/years trying...then blessings! We now have two boys and after our first one with all the fertility stuff...I got pregnant after that with no help! Keep your chin up!

Thanks ladies! I really appreciate hearing all your experiences - it helps me to remember I'm not the only one going thru this stuff! I've been keeping busy (as suggested by a few of you) and it has really helped. I'm also trying to get my spiritual life back on track... I'm a PW but I find it really hard to make the time to pray and read my Bible. I love listening to worship music and short devotions on the radio, but that's cuz I can be doing it at the same time as other things, like driving...
So if you'd also pray for me in that area, I'd really appreciate it! My goal is to get into a good routine during the summer so I can maintain it when the school year starts again. One thing I HAVE learned is that my DH can't be responsible for MY spiritual growth, even though he is a pastor!
Another revelation I've had in the last little while is that there's a real difference between knowing about God, and knowing God. About as much as the difference between hearing about my DH and knowing and spending time with him myself! So what do you guys do to maintain your relationship with God?

One of the things I do to mantain my relationship with God is to talk about Him with my friends. The girls in my playgroup and I have had some great conversations about Christ and I always go home feeling refreshed. I also think as women, we tend to be social so it's nice to talk about God with other believers :D

Tripper, I think you and I have a lot in common. I am a PW as well and I struggle with maintaining a "queit time" with God. I'm getting better at it, but it is something I have to make myself do at this point.

My dh was talking to me the other day and he said something that struck me! He was saying that when Hezikiah was told that he need to get his house in order, because his life was going to end soon, he wept and begged God to let him live. He reminded God of his faithfulness. So God answered his prayer. He gave him 15 more years. During that time his son Mannasah was born and became king. He was one of the most wicked kings to walk the face of the earth. Had Hezikiah gone to heaven when God had planned, history would be different.
So.... It got me thinking. God has a perfect plan for each and every one of us. To be honest, I have really been struggling with ttc. Each month I would get upset, hurt and frusterated. I questioned God, wondering why He hasn't answered my prayers yet. Was it something I was doing that is causing Him to turn a deaf ear to me? But I realize now, that I need to want exactly what God wants. I'm not going to quit ttc but I'm gonna have a different spirit about things. I would hate to think that God gave me a child simply because of my begging, but that child grew up to reject God and to hate Him. That would be worse than never having another child. I have asked God to forgive me. And to give me the right spirit about things. I want only what He wants for me. Nothing more and nothing less. Hang in there my friend, you are not alone, and I believe that God feels our hurt.

Esther - thanks for your post. I needed those words this morning. Bless you!

Dh and I have been down a long ttc road with this pregnancy. We conceived dd w/i 7 months of trying. #2 took us just over 2 years. Dh and I always said that no matter what we would leave our ttc up to God. If it was in His plan for us then it would happen in his time. My ob/gyn wanted me to go on some meds to induce my periods and make me ovulate, I refused. There was nothing physically wrong with me except for a few tiny cysts in my right ovary, I had test to make sure this was not something severe, so we kept trying. The Dr offered these meds in April and I got pg in May. Right then I felt God take a hold of me and say, This is my plan for you, thank you for not forcing it. It's hard to be patient with anything,but He does have a plan for you and your day will be here.

praying for you!