I think I'm going to die

Ok I don't know what's going on here but this cannot be normal pain. I'm sorry I don't care what the midwife says but I was never like this last time. Oh my goodness. I feel like something is going to break ("down there") any time soon. I can't do anything. I'm too scared to clean the bath and carry the washing basket of towels out the back to hang them out. Honestly, I don't think I'm going to make it to 40 weeks.

Is this normal??!! :shock:

[Beck]

If your midwife is telling you to not be concerned, I'd take some comfort in that. I can't tell you how many things are different this time around for me!! Every pregnancy is different. If you don't feel comfortable cleaning or lifting, just rest! There's no harm in that. :wink:

With this pregnancy, I'm sooooo tired all the time. I take three steps and I'm worn out! I don't remember this happening with Riley, but again, every pregnancy is different. The hardest part for me is just resting while toys are cluttering the floor and dishes are starting to pile up. But, I get spurts of energy as I'm sure you will too. Another thing that gets me through is doing things that don't require a lot of energy. Whether it's folding laundry or making the bed, it helps me feel like something is getting done, so it helps me relax until I can tackle the more exhausting chores.

BTW, when are you due again?

[meg]

Pregnancy can, quite literally, be quite a pain, can't it? :?

I had a much harder time second time round, and one reason dh and I came up with is this - first time round, either you're working with adults who understand if you're tired, etc, or you're at home, where you can put your feet up and rest when you need to. Second time round though, there's another little person who needs looking after, picking up, etc. I think that alone makes it more difficult at times.

One thing I did was I didn't pick up our son unless it was really necessary - getting him into the cot, the car, etc. If he wanted to be cuddled, I'd get him to climb up on the couch with me, or I'd sit on the floor and have him cuddle up to me.

I'm sorry I don't have any solutions for you Renee :(. Praying for all you pregnant girls though.... :)

Renee

It sounds truly awful, I have been in a lot of pain too (not labour pains or anything be assured LOL)... although yours sounds REALLY bad. If you are feeling really uneasy, I would suggest you demand an appointment with an obstetrician instead of a midwife. Even if you see your general practitioner and MAKE them referr you on.

Just lay down as much as possible (I know it's hard with another child)

as for the tiredness Beck mentioned - SAME HERE! UGH... I am really to collapse by afternoon!! And I was NEVER this tired when carrying the twins either... YARGH, I am on Iron suppliments also, so it's not anaemia or anything.

Thanks. Yeah it is definitely harder with a toddler. I haven't actually told my midwife how bad these pains are though. Because I thought she would just think I'm over-exagerating which I'm not. I know that pregnancy is hard but this is just OTT. I can't lie down on the floor or sit on the floor with Abby either because it is too hard to get back up and hurts like heck. Honestly if I get down there I find it almost impossible to get back up.
I'm meant to be taking iron tablets but I always forget.
I've got Sciatica. Yesterday I was doing the dishes and kept getting shooting pains in my back and had to bend down and wait for them to pass. It is soooo horrible. Even just sitting here at the computer I'm starting to get some now.

Sophie is due on the 27th of August. I've got another 13 weeks left :cry:

[Godzgirl]

So sorry to hear that Renee. :( I know about the pain you are talking about. There were times i couldn't even walk because of the pain (something i didn't experience with my first pregnancy). Something that helped me out was having my MIL take care of my daughter like 2 days during the week. If you have someone that could watch your daughter for you i would recommend it. Any little bit helps! ((HUGS))

oh dear Renee... my Mum did have the same kinds of problems carrying us, she would CRY with pain literally!

I will pray for you okay? -

[Bekah]

Second pregnancies in NO WAY compare to firsts!

Your body is so much more willing to give with all of the growing that it has no concern for the pain that it causes you...

I had so much more joint pain with my second... I thought I would die too!!

My midwife would keep telling me to hang in there that the second time is much different then the first... if that is the case I am NOT looking forward to this third!

Hope you feel better soon!

So sorry to hear that Renee. :( I know about the pain you are talking about. There were times i couldn't even walk because of the pain (something i didn't experience with my first pregnancy). Something that helped me out was having my MIL take care of my daughter like 2 days during the week. If you have someone that could watch your daughter for you i would recommend it. Any little bit helps! ((HUGS))

No unfortunately my mother & father and my sister all work during the week. :( MIL is not in the picture. She is too young for the daycare centre still... they don't take under 3s. :(
Paul is good in the weekends. On Saturday I slept for 3 hours while he did all the dishes and washing. :)

Second pregnancies in NO WAY compare to firsts!

Your body is so much more willing to give with all of the growing that it has no concern for the pain that it causes you...

I had so much more joint pain with my second... I thought I would die too!!

My midwife would keep telling me to hang in there that the second time is much different then the first... if that is the case I am NOT looking forward to this third!

Hope you feel better soon!

I know! I told Paul that we could try for a boy in 6 years and again another 2 1/2 years after that. But I don't think I EVER want to be pregnant again! LOL :lol:

[Reneemomto5]

Oh Renee I am so sorry you are in so much pain. I would mention it to your midwife though. I had both pains your describing, sciatica and feeling like baby was going to fall out hurt.

Only thing that helped the sciatica a little was some tylenol and for the other pain my dr. recommended a baby belt which pulls some of the baby's weight off your pelvis. But I never go one, but I probably should have.

Hang in there, praying for some comfort for you.

[Bekah]

I wear a support belt under my belly to help with the pain in my back... worked well with Josiah!

Thanks. I'm too paranoid to take Panadol or Ibuprofen... so I won't take anything. My midwife also suggested the support belt. But I haven't tried it.
Ok last night I was crying because I couldn't even barely turn over in bed. It hurt sooooooooo much. :( I am so close to phoning my midwife or going to the doctor.

[NZMummy]

Oh Renee, that sounds awful for you. I am sorry that you are having so much pain. I would definately go to see a doctor - no harm in a second opinion. I know what you mean about being scared to take anything while pregnant - I am like that too.
BTW You probably were wondering where I had got to - I haven't been around much for ages due to the horrific morning sickness (has decreased heaps now) - hopefully I'll be online a bit more often now.

Hey NZMummy! Great to see you! I thought perhaps when the forums went down that you couldn't get on and thought we'd disappeared!

I tell you ... if these pains keep up the way they are then I will be going to the doctor on Monday. I have to go to get my glucose test done today. That will be fun NOT! :lol:

[stephwhiz]

I'm so sorry to hear about your pain. I felt great with ds but with dd (second child) I hurt down low in my pelvis so bad that I couldn't hardly stand to walk. Everytime I would stand up I would have really bad pains. Everything went great with her and they induced me at 39 weeks because they were afraid if they let me go 40 weeks that she would be as big as DS. Best of luck and praying for you! Stephanie

Thanks. I'm hoping I get to deliver early. :wink:

[Robynn]

I remember that pain-OMG!!!! I had hoped to go early with Lyss too, and by the end of it, I was crying every day, begging the Dr to do something. She kept saying 'Its best to wait for the baby to tell us when she is ready.' It felt like five years had passed. I am not a person that likes to be confined! Right after, tho, I was so glad she had waited, and it turned out perfect!

Are you resting lots???? Anybody at the church that could help out a little? I wish I could help more. I hope things get better soon.

[luvmy4sons]

For a lot of women with subesquent pregnanices they get pain that is related to ligaments It can be quite excruciating. ( I used to be a L&D nurse for 8 1/2 years) You shouldn't take Motrin while pregnant because of the bleeding risk, but Tylenol is safe. It can help out tremendously! Also most women tend not to drink enough water when pregnant and this exacerbates pain, especially muscle pain. Try taking Tylenol when the pain is bad. Drink one whole 8 ounze glass of water with it and then lie down on your left side for 1/2 an hour after. You should try to be sure and get at lest 8 ounzes of water a day. The support belts spoken of to wear under your abdomen also help a lot! And never keep any pain you experience from your mid wife!

I experienced the pain you speak of with my third. I gained 60 pounds and he was 9 lbs 11 oz at birth. I was working 12 hour night shifts at the time as a labor and delivery nurse! OUCH! So I understand the pain. I hope it improves for you. I know that it will! God is good!

I remember that pain-OMG!!!! I had hoped to go early with Lyss too, and by the end of it, I was crying every day, begging the Dr to do something. She kept saying 'Its best to wait for the baby to tell us when she is ready.' It felt like five years had passed. I am not a person that likes to be confined! Right after, tho, I was so glad she had waited, and it turned out perfect!

Are you resting lots???? Anybody at the church that could help out a little? I wish I could help more. I hope things get better soon.

I was crying when I woke up yesterday morning because it had been a cold night and I had a sore lower back, left side and legs. The bones in my legs were aching so bad because of the cold. I swear I'm getting arthritis like my mother :cry:
I'm resting as much as I can. Actually not a lot of work is getting done around here. I am basically doing the essentials and I never get around to the other stuff. I am too embarrassed to even have visitors so I would turn down help from anyone. I don't even want visitors :cry:
So far today I have washed the dishes and cleaned the oven top and hung out some washing. And vacuumed. I still have more washing to do and need to change our bedding and tidy up Abbys room. I doubt the washing and Abbys room will get done.

For a lot of women with subesquent pregnanices they get pain that is related to ligaments It can be quite excruciating. ( I used to be a L&D nurse for 8 1/2 years) You shouldn't take Motrin while pregnant because of the bleeding risk, but Tylenol is safe. It can help out tremendously! Also most women tend not to drink enough water when pregnant and this exacerbates pain, especially muscle pain. Try taking Tylenol when the pain is bad. Drink one whole 8 ounze glass of water with it and then lie down on your left side for 1/2 an hour after. You should try to be sure and get at lest 8 ounzes of water a day. The support belts spoken of to wear under your abdomen also help a lot! And never keep any pain you experience from your mid wife!

I experienced the pain you speak of with my third. I gained 60 pounds and he was 9 lbs 11 oz at birth. I was working 12 hour night shifts at the time as a labor and delivery nurse! OUCH! So I understand the pain. I hope it improves for you. I know that it will! God is good!

Thanks :) I think this baby is going to be 9lbs something. Abby was 8lbs 3ozs and I've already gained 12 or 13 kilograms and I've still got another 11 weeks to go :( Don't they put on like 1/2 a pound a week in the last 4 weeks? Or is it 1 lb? Well either way I'm going to go over my 30lb weight gain limit...