Potty training and not talking

[e&m'sirishmum]

Well it seems like potty training is the big subject these days, so I have a question.
I know a number of you have or have had had dc's who have delayed speech. So I was wondering how you dealt with potty training? My oldest ds will be 3 next week and is showing some interest in p.ting but he is still not saying a lot of words, so I was wondering how you did it? He is not able to tell me verbally that he needs to go potty.
Any help would be great :)

[justmeNmine]

While I have been potty-training my son for some time (we stopped when his sister was born and then resumed) he only ocassionally tells me he has to go and once in a while just goes by himself. I tell him every hour that it's time to put pee in the pot; I don't think he is ready yet to interrupt his own playing to go- he would just pee his pants if I left it up to him....

[ktmartin]

I am starting my daughter potty training and since she is just starting to talk we will be using a sign to tell me when she has to go.

[Reneemomto5]

Hi Jayne,
Well first don't feel pressured in the potty training department. They all learn at their own time and speed. As far as the verbal area, if there is a concern that he is delayed I would make an appointment with your pediatrician. Also there are groups that you can contact that can evaluate your son if you really feel something isn't right, but that can be sped along with a word from you ped.

Your son is the oldest sibling and I noticed my oldest was my latest to learn. He had problems with night until about age of 5 but was potty trained for day by 3. I was able to tell my others were ready when they had dry diapers for a couple months every night. Than things easily fell into place. I only bought regular underwear so if they went they felt it every time. There were some mistakes but they hated being wet, and it helped them learn their bodies cues to get to the potty and when. When we went out I would bring change of clothes. But I learned those potty training diapers/pants didn't work for us.

If you ever want to talk further I would be happy to discuss anything with you. Don't worry too much about the speech unless your mommy insticnt tells you maybe something isn't quite right. My oldest is ADD and dyslexic, not that meaning anything with your speech issue, just my case. My now 3 1/2 year old signed quite a bit until 2 1/2 almost 3 and now NEVER stops talking. But there were no worrisome signs and I just let him take the lead and knew he would talk more in time.

Just take it slow, you both will do fine. Don't feel pressured becuase he will feel that. Again write anytime okay.

God Bless

[Rach]

I have 2 delayed boys and 2 totally different stories.

Aiden was about 26 mo. when he trained. I taught him how to pull down his pants, how to open the lid, position at the potty, wipe, pull up pants, flush, wash, etc. That we started at 18 mo. I was just concerned about him learning how to do all the stuff that goes along with pt. Then when he was 2, he got underwear for his bday. Every day I gave him the choice of undies or diaper. He always grabbed the diaper. One day, he grabbed the undies and he was literally trained overnight. He did not talk at all. He just went into the bathroom when he had to go so I would run in there after him and help him until he could do things more and more for himself. He's only had 2 nighttime accidents ever.

Willie is going to be 4 in a month, and is not even close to training. We are still working on learning the skills . He is getting some bladder control and has went a few times on the potty but he has a long way to go. He's still not talking. This summer we are going to try very hard to get him trained, but if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. I will just keep changing his diapers until he's ready.

[e&m'sirishmum]

Thank-you to all of you for your help and experiences, it is very useful and encouraging too.