Potty Training Question

[Gracie]

ok we need some help here...I'm PTing my 24 m/o . She knows how to use the potty b/c she has peed once in it before all on her own after a bath. But now she wants her diaper changed IMMEDIATELY after she pees or poops and she will just flip out if she cant get the diaper off (when there are no pull ups within reach, i'll use a regular strap diaper) So, after she goes THEN she sits on the potty for a little bit. She always wants clothes on and now she hates going without a diaper. I think she's sort of embearsed or something? DH does not know how to PT but he;s been bugging me about it and he's just too loud with her..He'll say "PEE PEE. PEE PEE" in a deep voice and point to the potty :roll: im just like uggggh your making things worse. So yeah....................... any advice?? :?

[stephwhiz]

Oh goodness Gracie I remember those days! Just remember patience is the key. Both of my kids were around 2 1/2 when they were fully pottied trained. DD was not ready at 24 months because she showed no interest at all in it but when I tried again at 2 1/2, she picked right up on it. DS would pee in the potty some of the time at 24 months but would not poop in it. With both of them I took them to Wal-Mart and told them they could pick out any kind of "big kid" underwear (briefs for ds and panties for dd) and we would buy them and put them up until they could pee and poop in the potty. That woked with them and they started using it. Another piece of advise I have is to tell her that she has to pee and poop in the potty or she will have to wear her diaper for a little while after she has pottied in it. She will not like doing that and that might encourage her to use the potty. Also sit her on the potty very frequently during the day. Good luck. Stephanie

UGH it's so annoying when the hubby makes things worse or when something happens to scare them... like someone was telling me the other day that their daughter went potty and then they flushed the toilet and it overflowed and she was yelling at the toilet and her daughter got scared because she thought she was yelling at her. It's so frustrating!

Anyway, I think Kansasmoms technique might help... put her on the potty every 30 minutes. That way she's probably less likely to get a chance to even do anything in the diaper and you won't go through so many diapers because you are changing them every time she does anything. You must go through quite a few diapers huh. I hope Abby doesn't get like that. A wet diaper doesn't really seem to worry her. :roll:

[JoyLynn]

Good advice above! Steph, I did a lot of the same things you mentioned.

I know it's easier said than done, but really try not to stress about pt-ing. It's natural. They ALL get it eventually. I've never met a highschool kid who was still in a diaper. [rofl] Even children with awful parents figure it out. It's God's design. Bladder control happens. It's a connection in the brain that all people make.

I'm not trying to come down on your dh, but I would pull him aside and somehow let him know that he needs to back off completely so she doesn't start thinking of potty as being a stressful thing. Give her time, stay consistent, and be very patient. I've pt'd four, and they all learned at their own pace, but I've seen moms who freak out about it and all of a sudden it becomes a battle of wills with the child. You don't want that. You'll do great and she'll absolutely get it.

Joy [welcomewave]

[Gracie]

I'm not trying to come down on your dh

I am! :wink: ...no really, we've gotten into so many heated battles about this. He literally thinks I am like hurting DD and letting her get away with everything. We've been having a lot of talks about this and Im like what books have you read? Who have you talked to? All he sees is how many times I have to buy diapers and he's like baahh too much money :roll: He really did only make it worse, and I knew he would. He tries to makeup for the discilpline he swears she lacks all day with me...but we've been praying together about this and I've been sending him babycenter things on PTing. I just want her to do it in her own time. Now she is all upset about it..so Im just going to leave her alone about it for now.

[Gracie]

Well, this morning she woke up screaming and crying and I ran in and she was standing without her diaper and she was holding her shorts in her hand which she had used to pick up her poop. It was so cute. Shes so clean about it all, you know?? It's weird..I felt so bad for her I was just like awww good girl its ok. She just gets so upset now everything she goes pee or poo.

[JoyLynn]

Gracie, she sounds like such a cute little girl! :D

She'll get it soon.


Joy [welcomewave]