Belly blues

[mom n luv]

Aussie Mom touched on the looks people give your belly a little bit in another thread. [pregnantpatbelly]

I thought I would start a new thread regarding this because it has been driving me crazy lately. (pregnancy hormones anyone) [whatcrazy]

Why do strangers think it is ok to touch your belly? Seriously.

Why do strangers look at my son and then look at my belly and say " You are going to be busy." No kidding.

And I guess what bothers me the most is that this bothers me. Normal silly comments and actions by strangers would not even phase me. And now two hours later I am still totally irked.

[Beck]

I HATE when people rub or pat my belly!!!! Absolutely despise it! I don't care if it's family or strangers. I mean, what if I went up to my grandma and just started patting her belly?? Would she like it? I don't think so. So why do it to me???

That drives me insane!!

[crytantrum]

[Godzgirl]

:lol: You guys are funny and i totally know what you mean. One of my husbands friends would come and rub my belly for good luck. :shock: :x What's up with that? Until i told him indirectly that i didn't like people coming up to me and rubbing my belly! Well i think he got the hint because he stopped doing it. :lol: Another thing that drove me nuts was the fact that i would get looks when i was pregnant with my daughter because i look young for my age so they thought i was a really young pregnant girl. I hated the looks i got! :x

[BlessedMommy]

I know what you guys mean. I mean, if it's not proper to come up and touch my belly while not preggo, while is it all of a sudden alright when I'm expecting? I just don't get it....

~Ruth

[JoyLynn]

[rofl] [rotfl] [rotfl] [rotfl] You guys are so funny. I never thought about it before, but I guess it is kinda wierd. :lol: I actually never minded it. But I do get the way things irk you more when you're pregnant. If someone got in my way when I was walking I'd feel like running right into them. And people in the grocery stores with the carts... blocking the isles... I still remember how I felt like banging right into people. It was such a change from my usual way of being, my strange thoughts made me laugh. You guys are reminding me of that. God sure has a sense of humor. :D

Joy [welcomewave]

I wouldn't want a total stranger rubbing or patting my belly but I don't mind if it's a friend or family member ... as long as it's not my FIL. He gives me the creeps. It just depends on who it is.

[mom n luv]

Beck it is funny that you talked about touching your grandmas belly.
In Target today my hand was on its way to touch the belly of the stranger that touched my belly, but a big gust of will power slid in just in time to help me control myself. [whatrunningscared]
I don't know if I can control my hand for 2 more months.
I really didn't seem to have this problem with #1, but he was a winter baby and I was wearing big sweatshirts and sweaters. Now with this summer baby I am condemned to the now trendy tight tanktops and tees making my belly a more vulnerable target. :roll:

[Godzgirl]

[rofl] [rotfl] [rotfl] [rotfl] You guys are so funny. I never thought about it before, but I guess it is kinda wierd. :lol: I actually never minded it. But I do get the way things irk you more when you're pregnant. If someone got in my way when I was walking I'd feel like running right into them. And people in the grocery stores with the carts... blocking the isles... I still remember how I felt like banging right into people. It was such a change from my usual way of being, my strange thoughts made me laugh. You guys are reminding me of that. God sure has a sense of humor. :D

Joy [welcomewave]
[rofl] That's funny Joy i remember when people would bump into me or get in my way i would feel like hello can't you see i'm pregnant! Hahaha, funny times. :lol:

Oh Godzgirl2, I can completely idenfy with your comments about looking young and the looks etc you get/got.

I am in the same boat myself - I get looked at like I am some "fallen women" when I am out and about with my twins and my belly.
I had someone walk past me and blaspheme under her breath just today and when I was in the bank last week there were two men standing there, they looked at me and said "you have got to be kidding".
Another time I had someone remark to me that I had "Thrown my life away". I just find it disgusting personally, I wonder where these people would be today if their mothers had've felt that way about THEM!
DH heard some old woman mouthing off about us when we were walking through the mall another time, it just seems to be everytime we go out or I go out something is said. I always get angry and hurt :oops: (I am 29 and look younger) - still Jesus was beaten, had his beard ripped off his face and a crown of thorns on his head, was spat on, insulted and he said "Forgive them Lord for they know not what to do"... I wish I could be so good :(

I don't like their touching my belly either - UGH! Even if it is family, except my husband or my kids. My MIL touches it and starts praying or whatever and It's just not appreciated, you can't just walk up and lay hands on someone y'know LOL. :?

I don't even like my mum touching it, or when people bend down and shout "Hello" at my belly... that is just WEIRD to me! They are probably making the baby scared by the loud noise.

Does anyone else have people shouting at their belly? LOL
It is okay when DH says hello but not everyone else.

The poor kid LOL...

[JoyLynn]

Here's the bright side... Your belly has probably NEVER been so firm!! [rofl] Rock hard abs. I think that's why I didn't mind it so much. Plus, I think pregnant bellies are so cute! That's just my opinion.

Joy [welcomewave]

Joylynn

Never thought of it that way, - yeah for once you can't see my stretch marks (because they are stretched out) LOL

I remember someone saying to me not long ago "We are the publics womb" LOL LOL. Too true hey?

[JoyLynn]

That's so true! :D Babies just make people happy. Isn't that neat? Some people, especially those who don't know the Lord, have so little joy in their lives. It's awesome how just the thought of creation and new life brings happiness to so many. God is too cool~ [verycool]

Joy [welcomewave]

[stephwhiz]

When I was about 8 months pregnant, my naval stuck out so far that it could have been considered a deadly weapon [pleasebanme] (I've always wanted to use that one)! Man did it stick out there. Anyway one day I was at work and went around corner and my big fat belly bumped right into this man. He was so embarrassed. I just laughed about it. I know my naval had to have poked him good! :D

I never minded people rubbing my belly but I was paranoid about my naval and wondered if it would ever go back in but it did right after each birth. I even tried putting a Band-Aid over it to cushion it so it wouldn't stick out so far, didn't work :lol: . Stephanie

[Godzgirl]

When I was about 8 months pregnant, my naval stuck out so far that it could have been considered a deadly weapon [pleasebanme] (I've always wanted to use that one)! Man did it stick out there. Anyway one day I was at work and went around corner and my big fat belly bumped right into this man. He was so embarrassed. I just laughed about it. I know my naval had to have poked him good! :D

I never minded people rubbing my belly but I was paranoid about my naval and wondered if it would ever go back in but it did right after each birth. I even tried putting a Band-Aid over it to cushion it so it wouldn't stick out so far, didn't work :lol: . Stephanie
[rofl] Stephanie, you are to funny! Putting a bandaid on it. :lol: That's a classic.

[Beck]

Yeah, the only family members that have permission to touch my belly is my husband and daughter. That's it!

In Target today my hand was on its way to touch the belly of the stranger that touched my belly, but a big gust of will power slid in just in time to help me control myself.
LOL!!! Like Nike says...just do it.

Babies just make people happy. Isn't that neat? Some people, especially those who don't know the Lord, have so little joy in their lives. It's awesome how just the thought of creation and new life brings happiness to so many. God is too cool
Darn it! Why did you have to bring that up?? Now I'm going to feel bad when I get annoyed (hormonally charged, of course) when people want to be closer to the new life God has created in me (aka touch my belly). The bright side to that is that there are only 4.5 more months of endurance!

[mom n luv]

Pregnant bellies are cute. I am currently in love with mine(the only time I love my belly. Maybe that will become my mantra when I get annoyed. "my belly is cute, my belly is cute ..."

Joylynn thanks for a little perspective.

Karla

[stephwhiz]

I'm serious I did that Godzgirl. I had this older lady neighbor of mine that told me that my naval was going to rupture because it was so far out there. She had me scared half to death and paranoid too! I was desperate to try to conceal it. :D Stephanie

[Godzgirl]

I'm serious I did that Godzgirl. I had this older lady neighbor of mine that told me that my naval was going to rupture because it was so far out there. She had me scared half to death and paranoid too! I was desperate to try to conceal it. :D Stephanie
:lol: That would of scared me too! :lol:

[Crissyanna]

The only person I don't mind touching my belly is my hubby. Anyone else and I want to rip their hand off. I haven't had strangers do that to me yet, but then, when they start to glare at me (I'm 26 and look like a teenager), I give them my "teacher's look." That look works on nearly everyone buy my husband. When I went out to my mom's the begining of the month to get my dog, my sister and mom both had to poke my belly. I told them that neither I or the baby liked that, but that didn't stop them. If I have to see them again while I'm pregnant (thank God we live eight hours away) I have been advised to grab their hands gently and tell them in a firm voice to stop it. I have decided that if that doesn't work, I break their fingers. Which, I know is bad. On so many levels. Mom is the church pianist, my sis is a hairdresser.

My MIL was here last week, and while we were at the store one day looking in the fabric section, Dainyah was stretching out and making me stretch and be achy, so she asked if the baby was moving and had to put her hand on my stomach. That got on my nerves. I was careful to not rub my stomach around here again. Except the night when Dainyah was really active when I and Hubby were on the couch and she was in the recliner (she has fibromyalgia real bad and it takes quite a bit for her to get up) so I put Hubby's hand on my belly and she finally cooperated for him to feel her.

I think that the next time someone goes for the belly, they will either have their hand ripped off, I will go for their's, or if I am in a really hormonal moment, I will start to cry and make a scene and embarass them. That might be fun. And hopefully they'll learn.

Crystal

Crystal

Either that or we could by minature bear traps to snap their hands LOL.

Oh so you get the bad looks too huh? Tell me how do you do this teachers look? :P

Gotta go my Mum had the kids over the weekend for a much needed rest for me (not that I rested I went shopping and ate at restaurants with DH) and they are on their way back and the house is a MESS!

LOL!!!!

[paulab]

I only had one stranger ever attempt to touch the belly and flinched and said what do you think you are doing?? I was really hormonal, too. Poor lady. I have had plenty of people ask me but I always said no. I just dont like being touched.

[Crissyanna]

Mini bear traps are a wonderful idea Aussie Mum. Might have to design some of those.

The teacher's look. Kind of hard to describe. Let's see, normally, I bend my head down so I am looking over the top of my glasses (the smaller the lenses and more old-fashioned they are, the better), and glare with s huge scowl on my face. Teachers can do this quite well. So do very irate mom's. Chances are, you have a "look" you give the twins that tells them they are in trouble, and they know it. Just practice that one and use it on strangers.

I am currently leaning on the bursting into tears if someone goes for the belly again. I think it is rude to just reach out and touch someone.

Crystal

[Beck]

I think it is rude to just reach out and touch someone.
[amenamen]

I like the mini bear trap idea! It might make us look a couple months MORE pregnant (therefore attracting even more touchers), but hey, if they learn a lesson, then the world's a better place! :D

Well it could be a tazer with a motion activated sensor we could wear under our t-shirts but over our bumps LOL.?????????????

That's so true! :D Babies just make people happy. Isn't that neat? Some people, especially those who don't know the Lord, have so little joy in their lives. It's awesome how just the thought of creation and new life brings happiness to so many. God is too cool~ [verycool]

Joy [welcomewave]

That's what I think too. I am guilty of touching a pregnant girls belly. :oops: I don't think she liked it either but I was suffering from a loud ticking biological clock and I think I was kind of hoping that if I touched her belly that it would magically help me to conceive :lol: Actually I did conceive not long after that. HAHA But I know it has nothing to do with touching her belly.

ROFL at all the funny comments here! :lol: :lol:

The only person I don't want touching my belly is my FIL. I don't have to worry about MIL or SIL because we don't see them. The rest of my family can go right ahead. And my friends too. I know they are just happy and excited like us so it doesn't worry me. Does that make me weird? :oops: