Ever have your children judged unfairly?

[luvmy4sons]

Tweens and teens...it is a diffferent world parenting them than young ones. Has anyone ever had a parent of children no older than 8 judge one of your older children unjustly? I am sure that back then, when I had only younger children, I did the same. :? Now that I have 3 teens! Wow! :shock: It is a different world.

I somehow thought that because we home school we wouldn't have ANY teen issues. And to be honest, we don't have "issues". We have young men who are expressing themselves in their own ways, trying to find the path God has called them to. It hurts when someone makes snap judgments about them that are unfair. :(

I just wanted to encourage the parents out there of tweens and teens. It is strange ground we are walking. But I am going to love my sons and not let any legalistic standards of strangers keep me from allowing my boys to be who they are and enjoy the freedom and grace allotted us by Jesus Christ. :) And I too am going to forgive this man and know that one day he will have teens himself! LOL! :lol:

[Geri]

Leslie,
I sure have had my child judged unfairly, and I totally agree with you. My 14yr old gets judged daily at school and it also happened at church. It has hurt her deeply and myself. I so wish I was in the position to homeschool. The teen years are rough whether they go to public, private, or homeschooled. Our kids are trying to find out who they are and what God wants them to do. We all need to encourage each other and our children. You are right, he will have teens someday!!! Hopefully he will look to God as we do! Amen! Thanks so much for your post. I will be praying for your boys!! :D

[Reneemomto5]

Leslie, sorry about the unjust comment. I have no idea why so many people speak without thinking first.

Yes same experience here many times especially involving my oldest son who has learning difficuluties, he is not where he should be, not doing what he should be doing........ But I am trying to turn to God and meaningful quoates and devotionals at these moments. I am not one for snappy come backs or well thought out replies, I tend to just smile and walk away. But I am getting more graceful at speaking the truth where it fits. But this has also slightly separted me from many.

You are right homeschooling is wonderful for many reasons, for this I am ever so grateful I can do so. Also with any parenting at any age it comes with comparisons, unjust comments, snide remarks, sadly sometimes I feel people just want to make us feel guilty I think, and they make us question ourselves and that takes away from the real goal, love, and strive in parenting and teaching.

"My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weakness' so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why for Christ's sake I delight in weaknesses, hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, than I am strong." 2 Cor. 12:9-11

"Forgive me for limiting my child because of my unbelief in his abilities. Help me inspire him to greatness by believing in who and what you've created him to be" author unknown. A prayer I say when I feel as though I am struggling in my teaching.

Hugs Leslie.