Need Advice...Pooping in Bed?

[KansasMom]

Hi Ladies, I just wanted to see what you all thought...

Abigail is almost 3 now and has been potty trained for some time. She has always had pooping issues from early on but lately we have really been doing GREAT!

the problem I have is that she has started insisting on wearing her big girl undies to nap time and she does great with not wetting them, however, she will still poop in them. She knows poop goes in the potty and she hates to be messy...but I don't know what to do when she poops in bed? Do I punish her for doing something she knows is not right or what? I really just can't think of what the right thing here to do is so I thought I'd ask you all and see what you thought.

Thanks for any input...also just so you know, there have been no major changes or anything...she has always had problems with pooping and I have found that she often times does poop at nap times when she was wearing diapers. I just don't know how to change that behavior.

Melanie

[savedbygrace]

Have you tried getting her to go before she sleeps?
I wouldn't punish her, but maybe tell her she'll have to wear her pull ups if she doesn't start waking up to go.

[KansasMom]

Yes, we always go to the potty before bed...it is part of our routine. But usually she doesn't poop, just pee and then sometime through her nap time she poops...and the thing is usually they are hard poops (sorry tmi)...so I know she had to work at it...so I don't think she is sleeping through it...today I asked her why she pooped in her pants and she said "because I wanted to." :roll: :x What do you do with that?

[savedbygrace]

here is a thread I found. The situation is a little different from yours but maybe you could get something out of the advice given. good luck.

http://en.allexperts.com/q/Pediatrics-1429/Toilet-training-issues.htm

[Ren]

I don't know if this is right or not but, it's the first thing that came to mind. Put a plastic sheet over the matress under the sheets and put her in underwear instead or diapers. I would think the feeling of poop in underwear would be worse then in a diaper. Like I said- this wasn't well thought out at all. It might not be a great idea- just throwing it out there. -ren

[KansasMom]

Esther - Thanks for the link...I think it did have some applicable advice...

Ren - she is in underwear when she is pooping...we started letting her sleep in her undies when she could keep her diaper dry for several days and she started asking to keep her undies on...so she is pooping in her undies and it doesn't seem to bother her! I appreicate the input though...

The link Esther sent me suggested just what ren said about protecting the mattress and then just letting it go and eventually she'll learn...it is such a mess though...The other thing suggested that I haven't been doing is having Abi clean it up...that might help things out a bit! Thanks for all the input so far...if anyone else has any suggestions...please share!

Melanie

[NatesMom]

Hi,

I have two suggestions:
1 - physically wake her during the night to go to the loo
2 - put a reward system in place - eg. 1 gold star for every clean bed night - and at the end of the week - 7 stars = 1 treat she really wants.

[Mab]

When my child started potting, we had the problem with the poop too. (but during the day time). she always was too late. Then my dh heard about someone who told their childen a dianasaur/dragon (which they loved) lives way at the bottom of the toliet, and eats the poop. but it must be pooped in the loo, and not in underware.

It was not long before my daugher would feed the "beloved" dianasaur, and I did not have to wash out panties anymore.

Maybe something like that would help you too.

I don't know if they had a fear of going or soemthing or just forgot. but that was an encouragement that worked for us. Hope that helps you too.