Going Bonkers....

[JRBL]

Okay, so I am personally going bonkers with this baby fever stuff [crytantrum] [whatwacko] ... hubby still says we can't get pregnant right now (on purpose) [whatcrazy] so, I'm going to be switching gears a bit and trying to focus on losing my weight [sheepjumpingrope] [cheer] ... maybe if I "obsess" with that for a while, I'll be able to NOT think about getting pregnant and such!! [rofl] [rotfl] [rofllolblurb] Is anybody else in the "I'm going crazy" stage? [whatthink]

[imported_rachel]

7 Years and counting-- and so far I haven't been institutionalized. :wink:

[JRBL]

Rachel, you are hilarious... but doesn't it get to you? Waiting every month? What do you do to keep peace of mind? Pray? I'm really curious how other women get through the waiting and waiting... You are quite the pilar of strength in my eyes!!

[imported_rachel]

I have that little seed of faith that it'll work out, and there's a purpose in not getting pg right now.

But, sometimes in the moment (AF arrives or marriage iffy), I get pretty irreverant and have a fit suited to a toddler :oops: . And sometimes in that moment I've been on the fringe of a moral crisis, only held back by knowing how God deals with his wayward children. So I guess when my faith shakes, my fear of God kicks in... not so much a pillar of strength :?; but somehow stable while instable. By the grace of God alone, eh? :o

I do the switch of focus thingy-- it works pretty well. Got any specific exercise program in mind? or diet?

[savedbygrace]

I'm in the same boat as you are. I figure if I'm not getting pregnant then I might as well focus on getting in shape and tone up those areas that are hanging around since ABby was born. :wink:

[harmony5]

I've been there! I've only actually tried to conceive twice even though I've been blessed with four children. But, yeah, I know what you mean. I agree with switching focus because it can make you batty obsessing with it. I'll keep you in my prayers girl! Maybe we can obsess about losing weight together. That's my latest hangup!!

Lori :D

[4HisGlory]

when ttc for 13 months I too had many of those moments. I found switching my focus worked wonders. I changed my focus from getting pregnant to really seeking God and how He wants me to be a wife and woman. During that period it was amazing to see the growth of my marriage and myself. I think that is my biggest struggle during pregnancy, I tend to let my hormones take charge way too much, and it really effects my marriage...I am just so glad I had all that time to focus on my marriage and strengthen it before, that way my husband at least can see a light at the end of this pregnancy tunnel.

[baseballmom]

Last month was bad :( for me. I really was obsessing about being preg. So far this month it has not been that bad. Except yesterday I was feeling a little down woundering if I will ever be able to have another baby. But then I rember that God is in control and his timming is perfect. Reminding myself of that has helped me this month not to over do the obsessing. :)

[JRBL]

Thanks, Gals! These are some AWESOME responses!!!

[Faith1]

I have to ask, when you are able to focus on something else, do you guys really obsess less about TTC? I took a class and thought it would be a distraction and it didn't really work as much as I thouhgt it would. I think it is more of a day to day struggle that I tell myself to focus on something else and let god take over.

And thank God for all of you wonderful women because I just found out another friend is pregnant (feel free to read my Gripe about the way it was presented to me) and I think you guys are the only ones I communicate with who are not pregnant! I am really starting to feel isolated among my friends (self-induced - not really feeling i have as much in common with them any more).

[imported_rachel]

I have to ask, when you are able to focus on something else, do you guys really obsess less about TTC? I took a class and thought it would be a distraction and it didn't really work as much as I thouhgt it would. I think it is more of a day to day struggle that I tell myself to focus on something else and let god take over.


Hmmm... did it cause depression? I've had that happen with ttc trouble, years back.

[Faith1]

Hmmm... did it cause depression? I've had that happen with ttc trouble, years back.

I'm not sure what you mean...Do you mean it is causing me to be depressed? No I don't think so. I mean I know I have days that are hard to get through, but I just mean the focus is very intent sometimes and it can be much harder some days to try to focus on something else without obsessing about it. I think I have done much better this month/cycle than I did last cycle with lettin git go and trying to remind myself that it is in god's hands. I was just wondering how everyone deals with the daily fixation? I mean we all know it is something we want and there are things that we know happen to our body that we are trying to guess or second guess as signs, etc. so how does everyone deal with the daily thoughts even when you are trying to focus on something else?

[Faith1]

Hmmm... did it cause depression? I've had that happen with ttc trouble, years back.

I just re-read my first post and I think I figured out what you mean. I typed that I feel like I have nothing in common with my currrent friends any more. Well I guess I didn't really mean isolated. I feel left out. I still go out and do things and we hang out with our kids that are currently the same age, but now all in the groups are pregnant again or recently gave birth and it is hard to feel a part of the group still. I have only stayed back from one night out because I knew the conversation would be about pregnancy about 90% of the time and that day it was just not what I felt like I needed. I guess I should have said I feel left out.

[savedbygrace]

Faith1, I am sorry that you are going through this when all your friends seem to be pregnant. It is really hard. Around January, was when it was extrememly hard for me. My church is small and three of my friends from church are pregnant, all due within weeks of each other. Then my older sister found out that she was pregnant with her 4th (she is actually due within days of one of the ladies from my church) A lady I know that goes to another church has health issues, she has one son and got pregnant again when the dr.'s said it may be impossible. People I know from all over are popping up pregnant.
I got really down. But I decided that each one of these babies are a beautiful gift from God. I also decided that I was going to be excited for them. I look for ways to be a blessing to them. I just threw a babyshower for one of the ladies in our church and made baby baskets for the other 2. I found that it keeps my attitude right and I enjoy shopping for baby stuff.

I still get down from time to time, but that's because i'm impatient and I know that I can only do my part but God has to do His.
Keep your eye's focused upward! :wink: You always have us here!

[JRBL]

Faith1, I am sorry that you are going through this when all your friends seem to be pregnant. It is really hard. Around January, was when it was extrememly hard for me. My church is small and three of my friends from church are pregnant, all due within weeks of each other. Then my older sister found out that she was pregnant with her 4th (she is actually due within days of one of the ladies from my church) A lady I know that goes to another church has health issues, she has one son and got pregnant again when the dr.'s said it may be impossible. People I know from all over are popping up pregnant.
I got really down. But I decided that each one of these babies are a beautiful gift from God. I also decided that I was going to be excited for them. I look for ways to be a blessing to them. I just threw a babyshower for one of the ladies in our church and made baby baskets for the other 2. I found that it keeps my attitude right and I enjoy shopping for baby stuff.

I still get down from time to time, but that's because i'm impatient and I know that I can only do my part but God has to do His.
Keep your eye's focused upward! :wink: You always have us here!

I'm tellin' ya gal.... you are such an inspiration... I'm glad you're here!! It's always hard to be like this when you know you should... thank you for your words! ::hugs::

[baseballmom]

Faith1, I am sorry that you are going through this when all your friends seem to be pregnant. It is really hard. Around January, was when it was extrememly hard for me. My church is small and three of my friends from church are pregnant, all due within weeks of each other. Then my older sister found out that she was pregnant with her 4th (she is actually due within days of one of the ladies from my church) A lady I know that goes to another church has health issues, she has one son and got pregnant again when the dr.'s said it may be impossible. People I know from all over are popping up pregnant.
I got really down. But I decided that each one of these babies are a beautiful gift from God. I also decided that I was going to be excited for them. I look for ways to be a blessing to them. I just threw a babyshower for one of the ladies in our church and made baby baskets for the other 2. I found that it keeps my attitude right and I enjoy shopping for baby stuff.

I still get down from time to time, but that's because i'm impatient and I know that I can only do my part but God has to do His.
Keep your eye's focused upward! :wink: You always have us here!

I'm tellin' ya gal.... you are such an inspiration... I'm glad you're here!! It's always hard to be like this when you know you should... thank you for your words! ::hugs::


Dito. You are a great inspiration. If we just keep our eyes focused upward we will see the blessings in the future.

[Faith1]

I'm tellin' ya gal.... you are such an inspiration... I'm glad you're here!! It's always hard to be like this when you know you should... thank you for your words! ::hugs::

I agree too!! You always have such wonderful things to say and are so on target with your words and thoughts! Thank you!!

[alidight]

OH i know what you mean! It's hard to stay sane!

[Jill]

It gets even worse!!! My best friend and my sister in law just announced their pregnancies!!! It's true. Everyone is pregnant!!

[JRBL]

OY!!! Who else? Anybody?! Come on... somebody from here is next, I just know it......... At least then we can have a group celebration... but I don't know your friend and SIL... so, sure, I'm "happy" for them... but, ::shrugs::, it'd be kinda nice if it were one of YOU gals and we could all share the congratulations and such! :)

[savedbygrace]

Thank you ladies for the kind words, I think you all are just wonderful. I try my hardest to maintain my trust in God, but it is you ladies that keep me encouraged (honest) I can come here and vent and then be reminded to stay on track. To not give up hope, and to never quit trusting God.

Yes, someone here has got to get a BFP and soon. We need to celebrate here in this forum. [massofsmilies]

[baseballmom]

Yes, someone here has got to get a BFP and soon. We need to celebrate here in this forum. [massofsmilies]

I agree we need to [cheer] celebrate some ladies BFP on this forum. [praying] for all you ladies and that someone will get BFP this month. :D