How did you know you wanted another child? I have two and I go back and forth sometimes so badly from wanting another one to not wanting another one. It can be frustrating when all I want is a sound mind! DH does not want anymore - ever. So I know that we can't try until his mind changes, if it does. But I am just trying to get ahold of these emotions for me. It's confusing because I switch so easily back and forth - and I don't want to choose either side and then regret it later.[/i]

I go through the same thing. I have one, but my dh has another from his first marriage, so he doesn't want anymore. I go from wanting another one to not wanting another one too. I am in the same boat as you, DH has to change his mind first. I guess I am just leaving it up to God. I figure if He wants another child to be born to us, it will happen.

Your husband is the leader of your family and responsible before God for that so, if he's making the choice you don't need to feel the preasure of choosing one or the other and it being a wrong choice- it's not yours to make. If you feel like you'd like another you can pray that, if it's God's will, he'd change your husband's heart but, until then you can choose what you have and not feel like your somehow out of God's will. I hope that's addressing what you're actually asking. -ren

Kind of Ren. I mean I know that DH is the head of the house and I'm not talking about sneaking behind his back or anything. So as long as he says no then it's no. But I still get frustrated at myself because *I* can't make up my mind on what I want. At least if I wanted another and he didn't we might not have another but I would know what I wanted.

I totally understand what you are saying. I'm in the same boat. I also have some days where i want more kids and some days i'm good with just the two i've been blessed with. It is confusing but i'm trying to leave it in God's hands. I figure if it's His will for us to have or not to have more kids then that is what will happen. :)

Rachel, I just wanted to say that I completely understand what you are going through. MY DH has decided that he doesn't want any more children and I had a hard time dealing with that. I felt like I wanted more but I couldn't persuade him otherwise. Then he ended up getting a vasectomy. In the end, I believe that my job is to honor my Dh and his wishes. I think that is what God expects of me and that is what I did. It was very hard. But there is always the possiblility that God will give us another miracle child. It's really in His hands and no surgery can stop that. If you want to chat, PM me! [hug]

We know that we're going to try to have at least one more child, but I'm a "plan-a-head"er so I like to know if we indend to have more than just one more. I toss the thought around in my mind often. Bill, praise God, is open to what God wants, not what we want...so, he says that he doesn't want 3 kids...but if we get pregnant again after having another child, he's not going to be upset about it, that he'll be thankful. So, it's hard for me to hear that your husband is so set against it. Ultimately, it's God's decision. Sorry that wasn't much help... :roll:

I talked to my husband about it last night. He understands my frustration about me not even knowing what I want and he agrees that even if what I want isn't the same as what he wants, I need to figure it out so that I can have some clarity for myself. He said it's just a decision - but we know women aren't like that! lol. It's not just a decision - my emotions are in this 110%! Emotionally, I want a third child... but legistically I know that two are enough for me! I have a lot of thinking and praying to do I guess. I want DH to look into a vasectomy probably. I think a lot of my swaying has to do with the fact that every month I *could* be pregnant and that gets me thinking about it. If there was no chance then things would be different. I could accept it and move on. But everytime there is a chance I start getting ready to accept it and my heart starts wanting 3 - then when my period comes I am relieved and settle back happy at 2.