People saying mean things about your baby!?

[mama bronc]

Who actually does this? Why do they feel they need to comment at all!?

I was at the store the other day in the check out line. We live in a small town so we see the same checkers all the time and they know who most of us are. ANyway, I went to one that I have been to many times and had my 9 month old in the seat of the cart while I was checking out. The little bagger girl commented on how cute HE was (he was in cammo, so pretty much no question about the sex). I said thank you.

The checker proceeds to tell me that he looks like a little girl, I was kind of surprised, and a little put out that she said it. I said "what did you say?" in a tone that suggested I heard her, but didn't like it. I hoped she would say somehing to soften the blow, but no. She says "HE LOOKS LIKE A LITTLE GIRL!" She said it loud and in a terribly agressive tone as to make sure I heard her. I said "well, that isn't very nice." She said it again, "well he has a little girly face!" :shock: She just kept going, even after I told her it offended me! I told her "well that wasn't very nice either", snatched my receipt out of her hand and walked out the door. All the way home I thought of all the mean things I could have said to her (and am glad I didn't).

The thing is he is such a little boy! He looks so masculine to me that I can't even see what she is talking about. I think she was saying it JUST TO BE MEAN! :x

Why do people feel that they have to comment on your baby's appearance? It is just nt nice, don't people know this!? Everyone should follow the golden rule, if you don't have something nice to say, say nothing at all!

From now on I will not go to her. I will forgive her, but certainly won't subject myself or my son to more abuse!

Thanks for letting me complain.

[stephwhiz]

How rude :shock: ! I wouldn't go to her any more either.

I get defensive too when someone says something about my little ones too. It really happens but has in the past and it made me SO mad :evil: .

I'm glad you forgave her but I too wouldn't subject myself and baby to that any more.

:D

[JoyLynn]

My goodness, Kendra, that's really amazing!! :shock: I've never encountered that kind of rudeness. I have no idea what I would have done. :? I can't even imagine what her motivation was. So strange.

Well, good for you for not saying all the things that popped into your head. I wouldn't go back to her ever again, either. [hug]

[lovingsmiley]

Joy [welcomewave]

[mama bronc]

ok, here is a recent picture of him. He is making funny faces at us.
http://i173.photobucket.com/albums/w77/mamabronc/DSCF0019.jpg

Now, if you think he looks like a girl please don't tell me so, I don't take it very well. :D

[JoyLynn]

Not in the least, Kendra! He looks nothing like a little girl. He's all boy. :D

[heart]

Joy [welcomewave]

[4Angelz]

He definitely looks like a boy... a cutie pie :P My, my, my... the nerve of people :shock: I had the same problem with my daughter when she was an infant... some times people still act confused... :?: I just ignore it... they are the crazy ones.

[myjoyoverflows]

I think HE is darling! HE looks very much like a HE! :D

Personally, when I put Maddy in a boy color...I think she could pass for a little boy..heh...I'm not trying to be mean about my daughter, but she would make a pretty cute boy too! :wink:

Some people just don't know when to stop. When I think something about someone else's child that I think would probably come out the wrong way, I just don't say it.

We had Maddy in yellow one time when we went to Walmart, and someone said, "He's really cute" I said, "Thank you, I think SHE is too" :lol: The lady was like, "Oh, I'm so sorry..."

Anyway, I think that your little boy is very much that, boyish! :D

[luvmy4sons]

He absolutely does not look like a girl! :shock: I even asked hubby and didn't inform him what was going on. I just said, " Do you think this is a girl or a boy?" and he replied a boy! So just forget that ignorant, rude, and unkind person. And hopefully you can forigve her. Better for you if you can! And kudos also for not telling her that she looked like an old man! :lol:

[~Tara~]

That is weird. That she just kept going with it. I mean, it's one thing to make a little comment. No big deal there. I would have simply replied with "Really? You think so? hmm I've not seen that at all" But this gal just kept on going?? And you said it was a rude comment and she kept.on.going!?! Good gravy! That's just weird.

But anywho..yeah...stuff happens. People are weird. People are rude. People just don't *think*.

Let it go :)

Btw, that little guy is darling. He does the same scrunchy nose thing my 14 month old does...that is next to impossible to catch on camera!!! Ack! How did YOU DO that? LOL

[EvaS]

He looks all boy to me! I too have had comments by people mistaking dd to be a boy. I even had this old lady say one time "Isn't HE darling" and my dd was wearing pink at the time. I just put it down to an old lady brain fart. :lol: And some people are just rude. Your little boy is so handsome!

[mamallama]

I agree!! He looks all boy! [construction] Very cute!! :wink:

[hosh]

Maybe she was jealous because you have a cute little boy and she doesn't?? :wink: Isn't it amazing that people don't have common sense enough to know to not be rude like that? Crazy.

[savedbygrace]

Some people are just dumb. When Abby was little she was a chunk! From day one she was nothing but soft squishy rolls (loved it) Well I was in Walmart and Abby was already two months old. She was dressed in all pink and she had earrings on. This lady comes up and goes "oh is it a boy or a girl" and i'm thinking are you color blind? I say " she's a girl" the lady proceeded " well what do you feed her" I said kindly (even though it was none of her buisness) "i'm nursing her" And the wicked little woman goes "Oh no wonder she's so fat!" :evil: People are dumb and wicked!!!!

BTW, Your son is adoreable!

[Madre]

That makes me think of that old saying: Make sure your brain is engaged before throwing your mouth in gear. Unfortunately, we all forget to "engage our brains" at one time or another. I'm with Tara; just let it go. [hug]

[Timmys mom]

He definitely looks like a boy! And he is so adorable! I love camos too, I think little boys look so cute in them! Anyway I'm sorry that lady was so mean to you, sounds like she has serious issues! Maybe I shouldn't say that, thats not very nice either. :wink:

[mhall]

Sounds to me like she has no clue what she's even talking about! He's a doll baby! I agree that he's ALL BOY!! But, to be honest, he is like my son, he's a very handsome little fella, so maybe he is kinda of "pretty", but IN NO WAY does that mean he looks like a GIRL!!!!!!!! He's a lady killer, that one is! You just wait! You'll have to swat the gals off him like flies!!!!!

[Kensbev]

Ok, first of all, he is SUCH a boy. However, I'm told all the time that my daughters look like boys. And they're usually in a dress or wearing pink or lace or something. People are silly!

I know this isn't a very Christian thing to do, but I usually give a you-are-so-stupid look and go on. But even after you told the girl that you considered her comments rude, she kept going on? She must hate having a job, lol. I'd call her manager.

My sister and I decided when we were younger that in order to avoid insulting people when talking about their kids, we'd make some ambiguous comment that was completely true, but wasn't a comment on whether the kid was cute or not. Like, "She's so tiny!" or "Look at all the red hair!" (As a redhead, I can say that I don't think that there are very many cute redheaded kids out there. I sure wasn't one of them! :D)

[PBJ]

totally a boy!!!

[mama bronc]

Thanks, I think he is totally boy, but maybe he is "pretty."

The woman at the store avoids me like the plague. Maybe my little tantrum got my point across after all. Thank you girls for your support. I thought maybe I was just a sensitive mom, but I still don't think what she did was right.

[Mab]

Someone thinking he is a girl should go for an eye check-up, or wash her/his glasses.

Your son is so adorable. :)
and definatly nothing "femine" about him. well, perhaps his mom :)

Maybe she just wanted to annoy someone. Some people get a kick out of getting others mad. (i don't get it!)

All i can say is: Enjoy your handsome son

[Jens2Boys]

Some people just do not think! :roll: I don't think he looks at all like a girl. Goodness. When my son was a baby I had him in this outfit, that happend to be blue and even had the word BOY across the front. Some lady says "how old is your little girl?". WHAT? Hello!!!??? Either she couldn't read and was color blind or she just was not "all there". I think some people just do not think before they speak.

[Lisha71106]

He is such a (very cute! ) little BOY! How could she have thought he was a girl?

Even in pink people always think Lexi is a boy. :evil:

[JRBL]

That has GOT to be the most absurd thing I have ever heard in my life! That little boy looks like JUST that! A little boy! Weird... maybe she was just having a really off day... maybe she had taken something that made her screws a little loose or something... I just can't imagine someone saying something like that and truly meaning it......... honestly.... come on....... ::giggles:: :lol:

[shelbynmarysmom]

I had someone call my oldest a boy when she was wearing a pink dress!
Sometimes I think they just don't pay any attention at all and say anything they want to. I remember my dad saying "if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all" I have tried to live by that advice all my life. I just wish others would also!

[JRBL]

This reminds me of a very embarrassing thing that happened to me when I was about eight or nine... I went with my sister to her friend's house, and when his mom openeed the door she said, "oh Hi, Callie!" (My sister) and continued with, "Oh, is this your brother?" Sure, I was wearing overall shorts, sneakers and my hair was short (a bob) but, come on... I LOOKED like a girl... not a boy!!! Sheesh!!! That has stuck with me and haunted me all these years! I swear I need therapy for that!

Sorry to hijack the post........

[imported_rachel]

I had really short hair a couple of times when I was early grade school aged, and I was a tomboy-- but no one ever said anything like "you look like a boy" to my face. In some pictures, I do, sort of.. I guess. I'll have to ask a mom if anyone said anything about her "pretty son."