She is able to climb out of the crib and to avoid injuries we took the crib out of the room and her mattress is on the floor now.

With our son, he was 18mo when he moved to a toddler bed and did just fine. So these issues we are having with our daughter have me stumped. I quietly take her back and forth to her bed.

It doesn't help that they share a room. She wants to play with him and he doesn't have the self control yet to ignore her.

We don't have another room to put them in. We are in a 2bdrm apartment.

Oh I remember those days well!! We had this experience with #1 and 2. Although they were a bit further into the transition. There are no easy answers, I'm afraid. At least no easy answers from my experience. You just have to keep at it. Be consistent. Be firm. Keep putting her back to bed.

Is there any way you can stagger their bedtimes so that one is asleep before the other goes to bed? Sometimes that can be the best solution when putting them in their own rooms is not an option.

We were in a two bedroom apartment as well when we dealt with this. Eventually we moved and had another baby and they ended up in their own rooms so that ds1 could share with ds2. It works much better that way for us. To this day there is just a dynamic between ds1 and dd1 that make them a poor match for sharing a room.

There are times where it takes 2 hours for Charlotte to stay in bed. She goes to bed at 7:30. Eli's bed time is 8, SOMETIMES 8:30.

She has gotten better. The first night was 4 hours of getting out of bed every 10 seconds!

There are nights where she gives us a hard time and other nights where she falls into bed and goes right to sleep.

I don't care if she sleeps right away, i just want her to stay in bed when we tell her it is bed time.

DH and I were talking last night that maybe her mattress isn't comfortable to her anymore, she just has a crib mattress. a cheap plasticy air filled one.

How long has she been without the crib? Maybe it is just new to her still and she'll get better over time with you just taking her back?! So funny how two kids from the same parents can be so different huh? Another thought would be to reward her for staying in her bed. A special reward in the morning if she stays in her bed?

And welcome to C-moms! :-P

There are times where it takes 2 hours for Charlotte to stay in bed. She goes to bed at 7:30. Eli's bed time is 8, SOMETIMES 8:30.

She has gotten better. The first night was 4 hours of getting out of bed every 10 seconds!

There are nights where she gives us a hard time and other nights where she falls into bed and goes right to sleep.

I don't care if she sleeps right away, i just want her to stay in bed when we tell her it is bed time.

DH and I were talking last night that maybe her mattress isn't comfortable to her anymore, she just has a crib mattress. a cheap plasticy air filled one.

Thats a good thought. I honestly don't know what I'd do (other than what you've been doing!!) I'm pretty sure I'd be going crazy... Its the main reason I still rock Ashlyn. It works for her... its fast... and its easy. Good luck!

Hmm, that definitely is tricky. You might be right... getting her a 'big girl' bed could help.

A couple of other things to try.... my youngest is 19mths. She occasionally gets out of bed after being put down, and sometimes it works really well to go in and be absolutely SHOCKED that she isn't in bed. You know... suck in a huge breath of surprise and say something like "Oh my goodness!!! You are not in bed!!" She usually immediately turns tail and runs back to bed. lol

The other thing to try (only if you are comfortable... it may sound a little harsh, but we've had to resort to it before - with success, mind you) is to get angry. Around here it is more successful when dad does it than when I do, but sometimes it does come to that. "Supernanny" type techniques can have success (ie. silently put them back in bed) but there are some kids that just need the very firm boundary.

The last thing to consider.... is she tired enough at bedtime? Is she too tired? That can factor into it too. Does she nap still? If yes, have you considered shortening it or eliminating it to see if that makes a difference at bedtime? Also, maybe she needs to go to bed earlier if she is overtired? Crazy behaviour at bedtime can sometimes be because they are *too* tired.

Wishing you success in this area soon! I know that it can drive you around the bend knowing the battle you are up against as the end of the day approaches.

How long has she been without the crib? Maybe it is just new to her still and she'll get better over time with you just taking her back?! So funny how two kids from the same parents can be so different huh? Another thought would be to reward her for staying in her bed. A special reward in the morning if she stays in her bed?

And welcome to C-moms! :-P

She has been out of the crib for about 2 weeks. now. Most nights are fine, but there are some nights where she just tests the boundaries. I know it's an age thing and I need to remember that. It's actually quite entertaining (we don't let her see that it's cracking us up), but she'll walk towards us like a zombie trying to get a laugh. silly kid.

Thats a good thought. I honestly don't know what I'd do (other than what you've been doing!!) I'm pretty sure I'd be going crazy... Its the main reason I still rock Ashlyn. It works for her... its fast... and its easy. Good luck!

Charlie HATES to be rocked. She has always been the type that she just liked you to put her to bed.

Thanks for the advice ladies. We may see about getting her a new big girl bed. Her brother has a nice queen sized bed and she always wants to sleep in his bed. So, it may be the comfort thing for her.

We just switched our 2 yo DD to a toddler bed. :) She stays in it but getting her to fall asleep is the challenge. She had a hard time falling asleep in a crib, but then we could just leave her to do her thing. But now I stay with her for the most part so she can adjust to the new bed and she can fall asleep in her bed. It's been rough at time. But now I think we're getting it. Anyway.... all that to say.... I hope it's getting better! :)