View Full Version : Making the transition from working to becoming a SAHM....
03-14-2007, 08:45 AM
I have been working a full-time job since I graduated college. Right now, I currently work almost 60 hours a week. We are so blessed with the opportunity to have me stay at home with our children.
I am just wondering how those of you that made this transition adjusted to being at home full-time. I can't wait to be home with my baby, but am worried that I will get bored at home. Did anyone else have this concern? How was the transition for you?
03-14-2007, 09:28 AM
I sure did! I worked like you did and then stopping cold was a little scary...I took up scrapbooking which is time consuming and really enjoy doing that for the time to gaze at my little ones pics, see a tangible completed task at the end and continue to test my creativity! I also started a women's Bible study once a week that provided child-care, this was after my son was 6 months though. SLEEP when you can at first to build back up and you won't be bored getting a routine down at home! When my son was two, I started working about 1/3 time from home and continue to do so....as you get more used to your routine and your kid's schedules, you can add more! Just take it slowly and don't worry....those kiddies keep you on your toes and mentally and physically! LOL
Congrats on the blessing of being a SAHM! It's awesome!
03-14-2007, 10:11 AM
I am a very structured person and have found that having a daily routine helps both myself and ds. I also took up a hobby which gives me immediate tangible results for my efforts. (Even if I spent all day doing child care, cooking and cleaning, I felt like I hadn't done anything because it all needed to be done again the next day.) Just be easy on yourself, take it one step at a time, and you'll find what works for you. It's such a blessing to be able to stay home!
03-14-2007, 10:35 AM
(Even if I spent all day doing child care, cooking and cleaning, I felt like I hadn't done anything because it all needed to be done again the next day.)
I had a lot of trouble with this when I quit work 9 months ago. I was working as much as you are and loved my job, but my family was suffering. When the new baby came it was time and I knew I couldn't go back. I agree with Stacey that a routine was key. I even wrote it down for my 5yo and I. It is easier now that she is in school and the baby is a bit older, but it is still VERY important to me.
I have never once been bored or had to look for something to do to fill my time. I never thought being at home would be harder than working a 60 hr/week job, but I think it is. This is a 24/7 job and it never stops!
It is FAR more rewarding than working was. I feel so blessed to be able to stay home with my kids. I am sure you'll love it too!
03-14-2007, 12:38 PM
I totallly know how you feel. I work seasonally, full time in the summer and then I am a SAHM fall and winter full time. I also had a hard time adjusting too but it can be done. I tried my best to get involved in mom & tots groups, hook up with moms going to the library, and I also go to a great women's Bible study especially for Moms on Tuesdays. Be patient with yourself and also try to get out to enjoy the great outdoors! I found that helped a lot too! Take care of yourself also, make sure you take time for yourself every day and eventually you will get into a good routine that will come natural to you. I also teach part time on the side, so it gives me something else to think about and do other than baby! Another thing that helps break up the week too is taking an evening a week to go out by yourself if you can, e.g. shopping or out for coffee with a girlfriend. Dates are great with your dh too. Overall just be patient with yourself and know that you may have some frustrations with adjusting but you can do it.
03-15-2007, 03:10 AM
I was finally able to quit working when my Dd was 7 months old. I had such a hard time being away from her those precious months that the transition wasn't very hard. I think one more day working away from her would have killed me.
I have never not worked since I was 15, so it was weird, but very nice. I actually slept a lot more and kind of caught up on rest since Dd slept pretty late back then. I was so excited to be able to go to our weekly women's bible study, and to be able to hang out with my friends who didn't work. I was the "odd" one who worked, and my group of friends always did things while I was working, so being able to join them was awesome. I did have to learn how to be a housewife...ok, so the learning process is very slow, and am still not doing THAT well yet, but that will come in time. There are days, especially when someone gets sick and I cannot go out, where I crave a phone call or somewhere to go, but that's more of my being more social than being at home.
I agree that getting out is important. I am not one who thinks it's crucial to get time to myself, I enjoy being with my Dd 24/7 and have not yet felt the need to have alone time, I do get that at night when she goes to sleep. I always take her with me when we go out, go shopping, or stuff like that, but I would go insane if I didn't GO OUT.
Being a SAHM is probably the most awesome gift the Lord has given me, and even the really hard parts are priceless. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!!
03-18-2007, 08:07 AM
I also worked, went to school until my 9th month of pregnancy. I SLEPT as much as I wanted b/c once the baby comes sleep is minimal. I also took up Scrap booking. I made a lot of generic pages before the baby came. Pages about my shower, about the day she was born, pictures of my pregnancy, etc. Once the baby comes you will get into a routine, maybe not right away but eventually, then you will wonder what you did before the baby came. Congrats!!
03-18-2007, 08:23 AM
I LOVED it! Loved, loved, loved it! Of course by the time I quit I had had 4 boys in 6 years and we decided to home school. So I was busy right away. But I LOVED it! :D
I always felt work was important, cause one day, kids leave home, and where does that leave you...
Eventually the Lord started speaking to me, but it was too comfortable working, and the thought of the bills etc... we wanted to finish paying off the mortage...
Well, the big shocker came when I was pregnant again, had a m/c @ 8 weeks, a month later, preg with child no 2. all went fine till the end.
I picked up a fatal bug, which took her life, and almost mine.
I woke up in ICU and remember either i told hubby or him telling me that full time work for me is out!
I just realised that i had lost a child, but still had a child (who was 4 at the time) and I needed to appreaciate her while i still had her.
So we finerly took the step in obiendence / faith - and we have NEVER looked back or regretted it.
God has provided for us (where I was not bringing home any income)
and the change in dD is so amazing, within 1 month my dH said - if he had known the difference it would have made, he wouldn't have wanted me to work in the first place.
Home became a far more "less stressful" and more pleasant place.
I praise the Lord for what He did. I am just caution not to miss what He would like me to do again. i don't need a "3rd" warning!
All the best with the transition. It can be tough, but it is SO WORTH it. Our children are precious, and deserve the best of us, not the scaps at the end of a hard day @ work.
03-18-2007, 01:32 PM
I was a career mom with my first for quite a few years. We moved to Chicago and found out I was preggo so we decided to wait until after the baby was born before I would go back to work. Baby is 15 months old and I am still at home. :wink:
It was not a planned thing so I took the early months very hard. I was sooooo bored. I became depressed and felt unsatisfied/unaccomplished. It took me a while to realize God loved me no matter what my *job* is so I needed to face this like it is my job! That was when I got off my behind and did something about it and changed my attitude. I started thinking of projects. I started a moms meetup group to get us out of the house. I took up sewing and started making things to give away or decorate my house. I had a ton of beading supplies so DH & I started beading. I made plans on tutoring our 1st grader and am now beginning to teach the baby. My calendar is full but I still get my rest. I never realized how little time was spent with my family when I was working.