Sleeping with baby question

[emilyrosejewel]

Hi Ladies, I have been cosleeping with baby since being home at night, during the day he is mostly in the bassinet. I am wondering if he would sleep longer in the bassinet at night since I am nursing I wonder if he is smelling me and waking up more often to nurse. I enjoy sleeping next to him and it is easy to wake up and nurse, but at the same time if he would go a little longer it would be better. Any thoughts?

[SupermansLady]

Well, as the old saying goes, it never hurts to try. Right? When my son was still that little, he coslept with me. He woke every few hours to eat, but when I moved him over to the bassinet at about 3 weeks, he started sleeping between 6-8 hours straight at night. I too wonder if they can smell you/your milk and wake to nurse do to that.

Of course I bottle fed with him as I will with my next. (Didn't produce milk last time, and work environment won't work well for pumping at all this time). If I was you, I'd give it a try for a few nights and see. If it doesn't seem to change anything or makes him wake up more, go back to cosleeping if you are comfortable with that.

Good luck!

[~Tara~]

Are you talking about little baby Titus? Oh goodness gracious girl...co-sleep :D

Mine have all slept with me those early months. We all slept better that way. The earliest one has moved out was 6 months...he was a hoss of a baby and would turn sideways in the bed, kicking us BOTH out (dh and I) no one was sleeping well. We just so happened to move about that time and took the opportunity to try him in his own bed. It worked well. He started the night there then came in with us around 3ish and stayed til we got up. That was at 6 months of age. All the others have slept with us until 9 or 12 months.

Plus, I just couldn't fathom putting an infant in a separate bed (nor room) any time before that. Just as some folks have that fear of sleeping WITH their child, I have that fear of sleeping withOUT mine. :shudder: can't do it.

Keep that baby with you. At this age, with or without you at night, likely won't make much difference. Nor should it. Babies that age need to nurse often...24/7...they nurse frequently. It's ok. It's a good thing :)

[pioneerchristianmomof3]

I am with Tara! :D

[emilyrosejewel]

Yup, it is baby Titus Tara. It may be a case of getting his days and nights mixed up. He goes 2 1/2 to 3 hours between nursings during the day and 1 1/2 to 2 hours at night. I just wish he would do the opposite and nurse more during the day, but it is nearly impossible to get that goal since he just sacks out and won't wake up for anything. But, he is only a week old, so I really should just go with the flow and realize this is just a season of sleeplessness. I am enjoying every minute though of the newborn stage regardless of the sleep issues.

[kanaclark]

Well, hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I too agree with Tara.
I mean, you have to do what's best for you and Titus, and your dh and Justice, BUT, he's only what close to ten days now, he's gonna nurse frequently and it's not going to be on a schedule either. I'd just bear with him.

If it's hard on your dh, maybe one of you could use the spare bedroom for a while.

When Bri was nursing, we had a twin bed in his room for me and we co-slept there for about two months.

~Kana

[Jill]

My ds co slept with us until he was 2 mos and now he sleeps through the night. If he wakes up, i bring him in with us. I found that I got more sleep that way b/c he was so close. All I had to do was roll over and nurse him. My dh had a hard time sleeping with him b/c he is such a loud sleeper! DH moved into the guest bedroom for the first two months. That's just what worked for us. Good luck!

[Godzgirl]

Yup, it is baby Titus Tara. It may be a case of getting his days and nights mixed up. He goes 2 1/2 to 3 hours between nursings during the day and 1 1/2 to 2 hours at night. I just wish he would do the opposite and nurse more during the day, but it is nearly impossible to get that goal since he just sacks out and won't wake up for anything. But, he is only a week old, so I really should just go with the flow and realize this is just a season of sleeplessness. I am enjoying every minute though of the newborn stage regardless of the sleep issues.

Ethan did this to me too. He got his days and nights confused. Takes a few months but they will eventually get it. :lol:

[Timmys mom]

Umm, I would agree with everyone. You could try moving him to a bassinet right beside the bed or something, but for me, I was up all night because I refused to let him sleep in our bed. I would get up, sit on the couch, nurse him, then put him in his crib, and sometimes he'd wake up and I'd have to start all over. I was exhausted all the time, so much so that I felt like I could pass out while standing up, praise God I never did. But once I started cosleeping with him, we both slept better.

[mumsheart]

Don't know if this may help but with our bub I have taken a side of the cot off. The cot is against the wall and our bed is up hard against it. Took a bit of fiddling to level them (put some boards under the mattress). Works very well for us. When we used the bed only it was ok but now he is a little (well heaps) bigger, 8 mths, it makes more room and he can be on my side, not between dh and me. When he's in a deep sleep I can just shift him a bit but we're still sort of in the same space IYKWIM. Then when he wakes he can snuggle and/or feed easily. hth :D

[rowansmom]

just wanted to add, that our babe wanted to slee with us from day one and now he's 15 months old and still nursing through the night.

wven at this age I can't fathom having him int he next room.

what I did with him when he was young was have thecrib butted up against our bed and put him in it. when he wanted to nurse at night I reached over and nursed. sometimes I'd put him back in the crib other times not.

enjoy this time, soon they grow up and want their own space =)

[emilyrosejewel]

Just an update, we are still cosleeping and really I think he sleeps better this way. Especially now he is having some gassy issues and he wakes a little and I just pat him gently and he goes back to sleep, whereas in the bassinet he wakes up completely. So, we are happily cosleeping. I got to sleep in my own bed the entire night last night which was nice, I had been on the couch because it was easier to get in and out of to change him, but last night Titus would just nurse and go back to sleep so I didn't bother getting out of bed.

[~Tara~]

glad to hear you found your groove with baby titus :)

[GabrielsMommy]

How old is your son? My son liked to pacify and so for the first month I'd say he slept for an hour or two and then woke up and nursed for an hour. he did this 24/7 He always slept in the bassinett in the same room until about 5-6 months, then he wound up in bed with me because he sleeps better. It was strange I say around 2-3 months all of a sudden he started sleeping in his bassinett from 10pm-7 or 8 am then around 4 months it changed and he started getting up about 2 times each night. But anyways you might just try the bassinett and see if he sleeps better.... what do you have to lose?