Toddler-infant jealousy

[ChamomileFriend]

Ok, so ds # 2 has not even been born yet, but ds # 1 is already showing signs of jealousy. We have tried keeping everything about the new baby coming very positive, but my toddler is obviously frustrated that I don't have as much of a lap for him, that he can't tumble play with me as much, etc..and he has been showing increasing hostility toward the idea of being a big brother/having a baby brother.
Like last night during story time (I read to him and then he "reads" to me from the pictures) I asked him if he would read to his baby brother, too, and he went from being happy/fine to shouting "No baby brother, NO BROTHER!"

I am kind of worried what he will be like after the baby is born if he feels this way now :?

Is there anything special moms of toddlers&infants have done to make the toddlers feel better about being a big sibling? Dh & I have talked to him about what a good helper he is to us and how nice it will be for him to have someone to play with other than his cousins (he loves playing with them), we have been practicing being extra gentle and showing him pictures of babies and that there is one in mommy's tummy and yesterday we watched the Veggie Tales where Miriam at first is unhappy about having Moses as a baby brother but then learns to love and protect him.
I know there are tons of story books about becoming a big brother - did anyone find those helpful or did another method work better?

[breezykc2]

you gap between your boys in age is exactly the same as my two boys and my newborn is 10 weeks old! My DS #! is pretty laid back and he was excited about a new brother, so we didn't go through what you are right now....however, we would shop for small items together and I'd let him pick them out...a pack of onseies, baby lotion, his first teddy bear...the little things, but he got really into it and felt part of the planning...we put the diapers in a basket under the changing table and he loaded them with me and they were at his level so he could be my helper and get them...he was so excited to bring me a diaper the first time! LOL...we just really tried to keep in the preparation of the baby to get him psyched for it.
Good luck!

[RhysMom]

Two things that a friend of mine did was first if your parents or your DHs parents are coming to see the baby have them tell your DS that they are coming to see HIM. There will be so much attention around the baby that your DS will want attention for him.

The second thing that they did is they went to the store and bought a toy that their DS would like (A Thomas the train for him). Once the baby was born they told their DS that this toy was from his Baby Brother as a Thank You for being such a good big brother. This made their DS feel happy and made him more accepting of the baby.

Sara