Refusing to poop in the pot

[justmeNmine]

My son and I have been working on potty training for a while now, had made headway while I was pregnant, backslid when I had the baby and recently have been doing well with pee; he seems to not want to do the poop part- I know the approx. time he goes every day so I sit him on the pot and keep him company and such- I have a "big treat" (lollipop) waiting for when it makes it in there, but no luck- he will usually go afterwards sometime- I thought maybe without the security of a diaper he would be apt to go on the pot, but I have ended up with poop on my floor... any ideas?

[camdynsmom]

I recently read in a magazine one way to get them to poop in the potty. Have them sit on the potty and poop, with their diaper on. Then have them watch you as you empty the poop out from their diaper into the potty. I think when they see it actually go in there it makes them realize that it's supposed to go in the potty, not their diaper anymore. My son is only 20months so I'm not quite there yet. He has sat on the potty a few times but as never used it yet!

[soulmom]

my son will be 4 in july and he just the past 2 weeks has finally been going poop in the pot. we had the exact situation you had. we were potty training while i was pregnant and now the baby is 3 months old and he decided that he was ready to be a big boy.

one special thing I did was buy the flushable wipes (big boy wipes, I told him, not baby wipes) so that i could wipe him with something nice and he knows he gets to use them "only when he poops in the toilet". we also let him pick out his own underwear at wal-mart (scooby-doo and spongebob.) we started saying bedtime prayers with him too, as part of his bedtime routine and I always pray and thank God for what a big boy he was trying to be and asked God to help him remember to go potty and poop in the toilet the next day. this has all been going on for the past two months or so.

bottom line is don't stress it. he really will do it when he's ready. you could even keep letting him sit and try with no pressure at least once a day.

we have been letting our boy wear underwear in the day and pull-ups at night, but he's also been waking up dry so today we put on a vinyl matress cover and he got to wear underwear to bed tonight! what a great feeling that was.

best of luck to you. i'll be praying for you. :D

[love2mom]

this is such a tough call... each child is SO different. Potty training my oldest son was honestly the hardest thing I have ever had to go through (I was going to say "ever done", but it really had nothing to do with me.)

With Evan, he was peeing in the potty at 2. Going poop in the potty wasn't until over a year and half later!!! I tried everything with him, one method at a time ... I hate to say it, but everything. We tried stickers, charts, candy, chocolate, new underwear, big potty, little potty, disciplining, spanking, cold showers (don't try this), having him clean his own underwear... I know how it sounds... a mom gets so desperate... (God has forgiven me for bouts of insanity and insensitivity) I was even concerned that he might have that situation where constipation causes an enlarged colon and takes away the feeling of needing to go.

In the end, I guess it was just that some kids take longer than others. Others may have their own opinions, but now Evan is pt'd and I made him a cake, and we altered the birthday song and invited friends over.... he feels like a really big guy now, and I'm proud of him (and SO grateful to God)

Kyle is two now, and I am being more laid back. Kyle has watched Evan go through all the motions and already shows more control and interest. I will not be making predictions or holding my breath. All of our children are different and unique and God gives us the grace and strength to help each one.

All the best.

[justmeNmine]

Well, YAHOO! The last three days my son has managed to get the poop in the pot, on his own, no reminding him. Um, he stands up to do it which is kinda strange, but I am not making a big deal of it- at least it's landing where it is supposed to. I do sit him down on the toilet once he tells me he has gone, but only once was there any further result... I had told him that I wasn't going to bug him about it anymore, that he could just do it when he felt like it. I also bought about 5-6 dollar prizes and hung them in the bathroom for when he did it :lol: It has worked so far!

[mommyto3]

we still can't get my son to have a bm on the potty or the toilet. he pees in it all the time and can go all day with no wet accidents. we have to get him trained for pre k in the fall- i have to go back to work partime. we would rather him be in the Christian school rather then be in a daycare. he is not afraid to poop. we just can't get him to go where he issuppose to go. help.!!!!!!

[justmeNmine]

I think having the prizes hanging in plain view motivated my son a lot; I knew he could do it, as he would take down his undies and poop on my floor and stuff... The first couple days he would ask for a prize when he went pee and I told him they were only for getting his poop in there. I also had to get a seat for my toilet, and I have a couple books that i would read to him; I changed the words around a bit so that they were about pooping and not just going pee.

I also made him aware that he would have to learn to poop in the pot so he can start "school" in the fall.

I also told him the day before he began pooping that I was all done trying to tell him when to go, and worrying about it, that he knew what to do and when he wanted to go poop in the pot, just do it... He did it the next day, then for three days in a row and hasn't had a poop accident since. He tells me he has poop coming and he goes by himself.

I have learned in this whole potty training rigamarole that it really does depend on your child and to work with what I have observed working for him. He is very much the kind of kid where it has to be his idea...

[justmeNmine]

I meant to also say that I started doing what a pp had said, as far as praying with him and thanking God for him being such a big boy and asking God's help in his learning to use the potty for pee and poop, etc. He seemed to respond to that as well...