Tell me what to do!

[Tam]

I need advice; my daughter is 12. She has had serious separation anxiety her whole life. She is far too attatched to me; to the point of not being normal.

Now she has attatched herself to one little girl at church; on the bus; at school. If this other girl doesn't go to school, dd freaks out! I've talked til I'm blue in the face. I know I need to "toughen up" but how do I start?

Mental illness runs in my family and so I'm always afraid that toughening up might be the wrong thing to do.

I know I'm rambling; I just have had a terrible morning; ended up taking her to school because her buddy wasn't going to be on the bus. I know I should have made her ride the bus but I gave in because she was so pitiful crying.

Please offer me some advice. I feel like I'm going crazy. Husband gets mad at me because I'm so "easy" on her, but he would've given in too if he'd seen her this morning.

Tam

[breezykc2]

speaking as a mental health professional....and if you do have a family history of similar challanges....I would see if you could get her in with a christian social worker/anxiety specialist....just for an assessment to ease your mind and they can also give you some great pointers and ideas to help ease the anxiety without using meds! Good luck! These situations can be fragile, you are correct, so a specialist's help would be highly recommended in my opinion.
Prayers!

[Geri]

Tam,
Very good advice from breezykc2!! I pm'd you!!!! [prayer]

[GabrielsMommy]

I would also suggest bringing her to the scriptures. There is power in Gods word. God told us to (Phil. 4:6-7) be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication and thanksgiving let your requests be known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understading, will gaurd your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (2Tim. 1:7) For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. (Habakkuk 3:19) The Lord God is my strengh: He will make my feet like deer's feet, And he will make me walk on my high places. (Phil. 4:13) I can do all things through Christ who strenghings me. ( note he didn't say I can do some things, not most things... ALL things) God bless