preparing for one spreading her wings

[Kimmy D]

Just hoping to glean wisdom from other momma birds who have their first spreading their wings and flying from the nest.

Our daughter, Karen, will be graduating in May and moving to college in August. I'm okay with the graduating. Still dealing with the emotions of her moving out. With the finality of that, yk? Just knowing that she won't be officially living with us any more. God just continues to reveal his promises in her, and I know this is what we've raised her for...to spread her wings and fly.....it's just so stinkin' hard. :(

How weird is it to be so at peace and so torn at the same time?

We couldn't be more proud of her, and anyone would be blessed to have a child such as this, and we are, more than words can say. I'm just gonna miss her so doggone much, and the time is sneaking up on us. UGH!

[stephwhiz]

Oh I dread when that day comes [hug] ! I mean I have a while to wait (DD is 5 and DS is 9) but I dread when that day comes. Maybe I'll be more ready when they're older but now it makes me so sad to think about it.

I know you've raised your child right and she will be a wonderful adult but I know it has to be hard for you. God bless!

Stephanie :D

[ChamomileFriend]

My parents cried when they dropped me off at college; at the time I didn't understand, but now when I look at ds I do. It goes so fast [hug] Hopefully some more experienced moms will weigh in with some pearls of wisdom!

[Kimmy D]

Thanks so much for the hugs. I'll be needing them as time goes along.

Will definitely be tears here.....

The college she'll be going to has this ceremony around the campus pond/gazebo. All parents are with their kids, in their particular accountability groups, they have prayer together, sing a song, then have to say goodbye and leave them standing there as the parents turn and walk away! UGH!!!!!!!!! I'm SO glad she has a couple of friends who've gone there and I know what to expect. I will hold it together until I get to the car with dh....then we'll both be a mess!

[Madre]

Watching the first one leave the nest is probably the hardest. It's one thing to pray for your child and say good-bye, but the idea of a "good-bye ceremony"... [crysad] (I can't imagine.) I do know that God will give you grace. This is what we do as parents: work ourselves out of a job. It ain't easy when it happens, though. :(

[Kimmy D]

I know I'm going to sit here and cry through this post, but thankfully ya'll won't have to endure the tears, just read the words. ;)

I have to say, I'm trying to keep it all in perspective and just enjoy this journey with her. Praying for your child, raising them and letting them go is one of the most difficult things a parent can do, and I don't necessarily mean "letting them go" to college or wherever.........

Letting our children "go" can also mean releasing them into the hands of God and trusting that no matter what, HE will care for, provide for, and protect in any way he sees fit. It's a hard thing......surrender.......but it allows a parent to live a much more peaceful life when they realize that ultimately, I'm not the one in charge anyway......

I have learned this letting go thing in many different ways, and He just keeps teaching me and molding me....I just have to remember to stay "moldable"................

[mama4ever]

I let one go, only he keeps coming back!!!! :roll:
God will give you the peace and grace to get through this.
When he moved out the first time I would drive by his apartment every night!!!! I don't do that now. If only he knew :wink:


[angelpink]