Unbelievable...

[harmony5]

My dd has quiet a few friends and, of course, them being (almost) teenage girls, talk about anything and anyone. [chat] So, these are the things I have recently heard:

1. DD's friend told me that she went to her friend's house one day after school and was supposed to go home. Her mother finally tracked her down and told her over the phone that she was coming to get her. The girl didn't think her mom was really coming but when her mom pulled in the driveway, she hid underneath her friend's bed. [whatnaughty] Her mom asked the friend where her daughter was and the friend said she didn't know. [whatliar] The mom forced it out of the girl and found her dd under the bed and dragged her pretty much all the way to the car. [whatfurious] The girl told me she would never lie to her mother again. Good thinking, huh? [idea]

2. DD has a friend that got in trouble because she wanted to join an afterschool group, her mother wouldn't let her so the girl refused to go to school (get on the bus). [whatconfused] The mother had to "force" the girl in the car and take her to school. Then, the girl missed 3 days in a row. [whateh] My dd called the girl to make sure she was okay. The mother spilled all the beans to my dd about how her dd had been hitting her, refusing to do things at home and was very hateful and mean. :evil: I mean, can you say TMI? [whateeeeeksign] My dd had no business hearing all that from the other girl's mother! Anyway, she admitted her dd to a mental facility for evaluation. That is why the girl hadn't been to school. [whateww]

3. DD WAS friends with a girl that had some serious issues that finally came out in the open. This girl's mother told me that her dd hit her, cursed at her, wouldn't listen to anything and threw things at her when she didn't get her way. [thumbsdown]

I'm appaulled. I mean, for real. Can you believe this mess? :cry: My dd made this comment to her friend but didn't know I heard her. She said, "I know better than to ever act like that because I probably wouldn't live to tell anyone about it. My parents don't play." :wink: First this made me giggle to myself. But then, I was like wooohoooo, she knows I don't play! [clap] I don't even spank my kids so it's not like I've put some fear into them or something. I just think they know what I'll put up with and what I won't. [rules] Don't get me wrong, they aren't perfect, [goodorbad] but I can't imagine them ever hitting me or cursing at me, etc.

Like I said, unbelievable! Where is the discipline? Where is the respect for your parents? Needless to say, I've made Courtney distance herself from these girls. Well, not the first one, really. She made it clear that she'd never lie to her mom again! I don't think her mom "plays" either. She just found that out the hard way. [whatrunningscared]

It's sad. Today's youth needs some serious prayer and intervention. [pray] I'm scared to see what these children are going to be like as adults. [whateww]

Lori

[gen]

Hey, Ive been wanting to post something like this for a few days now. but mine arent teens. I bet there's alot going on in some cases tho. My sister ran away at 15 for a few days and I knew my parents didnt play but she wasnt bothered. I think kids probably need more than what some parents are willing or capable to give sometimes. I dont want to criticize anothers parenting abilities.... but sometimes its hard!!

[ChamomileFriend]

It's sad. Today's youth needs some serious prayer and intervention. [pray] I'm scared to see what these children are going to be like as adults. [whateww]


ITA with this. Many of the teenagers you described behave like the teens and pre-teens that I work with. I would never have even tried anything like hitting or cursing at my parents :shock: The worst are the older boys who have records in their file indicating that they abuse their mothers :cry:

With some parents you can kind of tell why the kids ended up that way, but some of their parents seem so nice and normal, too. I always [prayer] that God helps me teach my kids that "I don't play" without my ever going overboard - it seems like such a delicate balance.

[tobikay]

My DS just turned 13 (I am trying to deal with this still...), I am amazed at how different boys and girls are at this age. When DS and his friends get together, they are talking about video games and such like that. I rarely hear them talk about other people, not to say never, but that is not their biggest concern. However, I am sure that it is comming.

What I hear about as a school board member however is 11 year old girls that are pg, 6th and 7th graders being caught with drugs, bags of pot being found on the emementry school playground (and claimed by a 5th grader), middle school students taking drugs at school and OD'ing...I am soo thankful that my DS knows what is right and wrong, and what is expected of him, and how to behave.

as I am typing this, my dog and cat are fighting on my lap, ever tried to hold a laptop, type and avoid a fighting cat and dog? (the cat is bigger than the dog by the way!!)

[Madre]

Even kids that know right from wrong sometimes make foolish choices. We, as adults (and Christians, at that). sometimes make unfortunate choices. So, it's good to remember that we may have to firmly confront some less-than-desireable behavior in our children, all the while showing mercy and refusing to be surprised. :)