So in last week I have noticed Rhiana saying "omg". kwim? I have no idea where she got that. Neither Henry or I say that and no one in our families says that. It has really started to concern me. To me that is the same as swearing and I don't want her to do that. I am sure she doesn't know what she is saying and I keep telling her that she should not say that and that it is not good. I told her if she needs to say something to say "wow". Has anyone else had to deal with this? Should I be doing something more? This is really starting to bother me.

Kids pick up stuff from everywhere. I know I found it shocking the first time my kids said something that they absolutely could not have learned from home or from family. We just teach them that there are things that people say that aren't appropriate or aren't kind. Just because others say it doesn't mean it is right. And then, like you, teach them with examples some of the things that they can say that would be a better choice. I wouldn't stress about it at this young age....just focus on teaching what is acceptable language the same as you would teach what is acceptable behaviour. With good modeling from you and dh and consistency in what you are showing/teaching her, she'll get it. It won't be long before she starts to correct other peoples choice of words. heehee.

So... I guess OMG is bad then??? I truly have so much to learn... I pick expressions that I hear everybody use and I use them too...

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I feel bad... I hope someone here can help me ... please if you see me write anything "inappropriate" PLEASE PLEASE let me know.... (I know this thread isn't about it) but I don't want to say things that aren't right and then Natalia will be saying them...

I honestly have said so many things that I didn't know were wrong.... because they DO NOT sound wrong to me (even swear words in English mean nothing to me because my main language is Spanish)

The other day I was PRAYING in church with someone else and I prayed (out loud) for my "freaking" headache... I had no clue... but the person I was praying with started laughing.... I asked why and she said... "well... I never heard anybody saying "freaking" in church and while praying!" I thought it was just like saying "bad headache" or "horrible headache" ... -sigh-

ok... sorry... Rhiana might have picked that from a Mexican like me :(

aw! Well, we had a time with Trevor where he said it too...we don't say it and none of our families say it either. We are uber-careful with what he watches on TV etc...you're not a bad mommy! We actually explained to him why omgod is wrong....it's disrespectful to God and all we do and say we want to honor him. We talked about the commandment that speaks to it and such.

We also don't want him saying omgosh every other word even though it's not BAD persay. We tell him to say, wow or cool or whatever else! :-) The Bible says, "Let your yes's be yes and your no's be no." Plain and simple.

(Paloma ~ you CRACK me up! even if it wasn't your intent...thanks for the laugh! I haven't seen you say anything inapropriate...don't worry. We do say "freaking" everyonce in a while since it's not a bad word. the *other* F word we don't ever say though. maybe your dh could tell you what it is so you don't say it by accident?!)

aw! Well, we had a time with Trevor where he said it too...we don't say it and none of our families say it either. We are uber-careful with what he watches on TV etc...you're not a bad mommy! We actually explained to him why omgod is wrong....it's disrespectful to God and all we do and say we want to honor him. We talked about the commandment that speaks to it and such.

We also don't want him saying omgosh every other word even though it's not BAD persay. We tell him to say, wow or cool or whatever else! :-) The Bible says, "Let your yes's be yes and your no's be no." Plain and simple.

(Paloma ~ you CRACK me up! even if it wasn't your intent...thanks for the laugh! I haven't seen you say anything inapropriate...don't worry. We do say "freaking" every once in a while since it's not a bad word. the *other* F word we don't ever say though. maybe your dh could tell you what it is so you don't say it by accident?!)

I learned Freaking from him and he says "crap" quite often... LOL! Natalia said "crap" the other day so he has improved too.... we don't want her saying things like that... everybody laughs so much when I share my "stories" about my "language problems" LOL! He never corrects me because he thinks it is really funny and even sexy [sadashamed]

The other day we were in a "family meeting" and Natalia was pointing at a light bulb... I started telling her what it is (In Spanish) so there I was saying "foco, foco" (which sounds pretty bad in English but to me... foco is foco... ! (It Has never had any other meaning) hubby didn't know light bulb is "foco" and he was red and just asked me "what are you doing???" I said "Why? I am just teaching Natalia to say foco! which is lightbulb!" he said: "Do you realize how that sounds and that nobody else here knows what you are saying?" ... That's when I realized it! I was so embarrassed... then he started laughing and he still laughs about it... Now I feel like I can't say "foco" and it even sounds weird when I hear anybody else say it... [sadashamed]

Paloma

We don't do OMG because of it being disrespect for God. I learned as a child that you don't say oh my gosh either because it is just another way to "change" God's name a little and use his name in vain but I am confused KWIM isn't that know what I mean?

Just use gentle reminders, no we say "oh goodness" (which is what we say)or what ever choice/saying you decide to teach her when she becomes excited, surprised or frustrated, kids need little sayings. My kids get many of their sayings from sponge bob much of the time, lol like "barnacles". Children try things out on parents to, sometimes not knowing what they mean or if they are bad or hurtful words. They use us their parents to be their guides. Don't worry where they hear these things if you are careful with what your child sees and hears, it happens, just be immediate on the correction and though it may take a few reminders they do come around.

Paloma sweetie you worry sooo much honey. You never have said anything inappropriate here. And trust me with your beautiful accent people around you must understand you are teaching Natalia. We have french relatives and mexican "family" and we love hearing the bilingual language. Your church story was funny though. And we laugh teaching our kids "foco" too. I feel like such a weirdo trying to do things properly in spanish. I'm a sad mexican I must say. Don't worry, keep teaching Natalia, trust me, trust me it will do nothing but improve her learning ability as she grows up!

Your church story gave me a good laugh, too, Paloma. :mrgreen: I completely agree with Renee, though, keep teaching Natalia Spanish along with her English.

Oh! that's for sure... I think Spanish is much richer than English (sorry LOL!!) I love Spanish and I am proud of my language... I think it will be great for her to learn both... It is very important for me that she knows about her Mexican side too! ;)

Thanks! LOL! I was just hoping to make people laugh with my stories... I am not really that worried! LOL!

Paloma.

Em went through a small phase like this around your DDs age....we gave her two options to say when she wanted to say OMG. (her grandma says OMG ALL THE TIME!) We told her she could say "oh my goodness" or " oh my stars!" She choose "oh my stars" and would actually giggle when she said it because she loved it so much. Now because we told her how saying OMG is offensive to the Lord, she tells people who say that in front of her "we don't say that!" And with such conviction! JUST LOVE HER!!!

blessings,
Amber