The Sunday after Christmas I had the flu and my dh wanted to take my 15yo dd and our 3 yo dd out sledding to get them out of the house and my hair so I could rest a while. My dd and dh got into an argument because she didn't want to go sledding. At least that's what the fight started out being. Then it went into her wanting to wear her new coat (not the old one because "it's worthless and doesn't keep me warm". Not true.) Then it was because she couldn't find her other glove. Then she said she wanted to shovel snow instead (that didn't make sence to me - work over play?) Anyway, the argument became a huge fight with arms and legs flying in all directions. My DH tried to bear hug her so she would stop and not hurt our 3yo. My DH ended up letting go of her because he didn't want to get hurt himself. She fell on the ground banging her arm on a milk crate. HUGE bruise. I heard the yelling and went to see what the heck was going on. Both started yelling thier side of the story at me. I sent the girl to her room and the hubby sledding with the 3yo. 2 days later my dd had an appointment with our family therapist (we've been seing her for 3 years due to behavior isues whith the oldest). Well, because there was a bruise on her arm as a result of the fight, CPS was called. This is the 3rd time CPS has been to our house in 3 years. The first 2 were unfounded accusations: One from my ex husband because I was in the proccess of getting child support from him and the other was because dd and I got into a scuffle and she told her school councelor that I said I would help her pack when she threatened to run away. Back on track. Well, it was brought up by the CPS rep to have my dd go live with her dad. I dont' want that to happen because at his house, it's a free for all. There are no ground rules, guidlines or ANY type of good role model for her. To give you and example her step-sister had 2 kids before she got married and is now divorced less than a year from the wedding day. Step-sis lives in the house, doesn't work for a variety of excuses and relies on Uncle Sam to give her welfare, WIC and Medicaid. My dd's father is a truck driver and almost never home and I have no idea what the step mom is like. I fear that if I let her live at her fathers house, she will end up a pregnant high school drop out by the end of the year. However, There is no peace in this house when she is here. She is on sucha roller coaster ride with emotions and behavior it's driving us all crazy. She had ADHD and is taking her meds regularly but I just don't see them helping much. She is involved with our churches youth group and has a good relationship with our Pastor, but she doesn't tell the whole truth on SO many things. I'm scared for her well being as well as the well being of my other 2 children (will they be influenced by her behavior?) and DH.
Does anyone have any words of wisedom for me? We won't get the report or recommendations from CPS for another 2-3 weeks. It's like living on a mine field. We never know what will set her off. Last night I asked her to move a table (with my help) away from a wall so an electrician can get in there and look at an outlet. She spent 20 minutes arguing with me about how she didn't want it moved, didn't want to move it, it's going to be in her way, how was she going to get to her alarm clock, etc. etc. etc. I moved the table myself, fixed her alarm clock said good night and left the room. It's crazy. Please pray for me. :???:

sorry i don't have any advice , but wanted to give you a ((hug)) and yeah i will defo pray.

I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. Females in the teenage years are just well...AWFUL!!! [whatwacko] I know my sister & I gave our folks so many headaches and restless nights....I regret it now! Sure wish I could go back and change things.

I don't have much advice, but I do understand to a degree what you are dealing with. I have a 15 year old stepdaughter who has always been a good kid, smart, never getting into trouble...no problems...until about a year ago - suddenly boys came into play...sex, lies, skipping school, drugs, lies, lies, anger, fighting, lies....you get the picture.

Our situations are different, but I sympathize from the mothers standpoint. It's hard to watch them live somewhere else where you have no control (such is our situation - her mom has no rules at all) and I hope you don't have to go that direction.

I will be praying for you, your husband, your daughter & her father/stepmother. Praying that God gives all of you the best solution to getting her back on the right track and fixing the problems she is having.