View Full Version : Battle of the Binky!
04-20-2006, 09:36 PM
We are breaking the binky from Wes. He will be 2 in June so we think it is time. At 1 years, we stopped giving it to him during the day, only at bedtime. He is having a harder time going to sleep without it. He dosen't have a animal or blanket, or any other type of security thing so this is really hard for him. I know we will get through it, but I need some encouraging words for some of you who have won the battle of the binky in the past.
04-20-2006, 10:07 PM
I think we had a few rough nights where ds had trouble settling down/going to sleep without it but then he was fine. I think he was around 18 months old when we did away with it at night time. I've heard some people will go around their house with a bag and have their child put all the binkies in the bag to give to the binkie fairy (or whatever) and they put the bag somewhere and in the morning the bag is gone but the "fairy" left them a surprise.
You may just have to get through a few rough nights and that could be the end of it. Do you have a bedtime routine? We have our boys put on pajamas and then they have to wash hands/brush teeth. Then it's read 1 book and go to bed.
04-20-2006, 10:17 PM
I never had a problem breaking the pacifier habit with my dd (ds would not take one). We just told her that once she lost her last one then there would be no more. She lost it and never mentioned it again.
My niece just broke my great nephew this week from it. She told him that he was a big boy now ( he's almost 2 1/2) and that his new baby cousin needed a pacifier so he needed to give his to her. He went right along with it and is just fine with it.
04-20-2006, 11:15 PM
I only had one pacifier baby and I honestly don't remember how he quit. I do remember him flinging it out the car window and I didn't have a replacement so that may have been the key. :roll:
04-20-2006, 11:50 PM
the same weekend I quit smoking, my son lost his last binkey and I had already told him that was the last one, so we cried a lot together for that first week, but he was fine after that.
04-21-2006, 07:51 AM
Oh man, my son was two in August, and I'm frightened to break him of the soothie! yeesh, you guys stop it, you're making me feel terrible!
I don't think he'll go to university with it, will he???
Just get him a stylish black one Jamie, and it'll be fine :wink:
Just kidding - he'll give it up when he's ready, and when you least expect it!
My mum made a deal with me when I was two that she'd buy me some pet fish if I gave up my bottle. The bottles went in the bin, and off we went to buy fish. You know those little, multicoloured ones? She got me some of them. Didn't last long. That night, after she put me to bed, I decided to use my comb to go fishing - scare 'em to death :shock:
Sorry, that was sooooo off topic :lol:
04-21-2006, 01:37 PM
Wish I could help Julie. Both kids spit them out so we never gave them to them and didn't have to "break" the habit.
It is a safety net, so to speak, for Wes. It's not easy giving up something you're attached to (ahh...chocolate how I miss you :( ...but I digress). Have you tried introducing a new stuffed animal or maybe reading ritual so perhaps his attention is redirected? Sometimes if they have a task THEY are in charge of (ie: choosing the night book or keeping his stuffed animals safe at night) they forget about what they are missing. Hmm...that's all I got. I hope Wes gets some sleep and you do too! ~Kerri
04-24-2006, 07:37 PM
Thanks for all your advice. It is actually going better than I thought. The first day or two it took him a little longer than normal to settle down to sleep and he cried, but only about 10 mintues longer than normal. I have tried to make sure his snowman he sleeps with is with him. The snowman never mattered much to him before, but I think now it does since he doesn't have his binky. I guess maybe I was more addicted to it than he was.
04-24-2006, 08:00 PM
I'm so glad things are going well. Sometimes it is hard to give up things we love--man I'm glad I don't have to give up chocolate! [crwy] Stephanie
04-25-2006, 12:32 AM
I remember getting stressed out about that too with Ethan as he loved his, but at the end he really only used it for bed time and nap time, anyway we kept saying how we needed to get rid of it and then one day he bit a hole in it and I decided that it was time, so I threw it away and found all the others and threw them away too and I was amazed that he didn't miss it or cry for it! I think he was about 20 months!
It is funny though as he will be 3 in May, after the baby was born we have found him a few times sitting sucking Micah's binky. I used to make a deal and then realized it wasn't worth it as his life had already been turned upside down with having a new sibling at home and it hasn't been a problem!
Anyway Julie don't get too discouraged, it will happen in time!
04-25-2006, 01:41 AM
With dd we cut the end off the binky ... DONT DO THIS if your child is overly concerned about things being "broken". ROFL!! However, it does "ruin" the sucking motion of it, but they can still hold it. Worked for us :D
Good Luck, I know this is a tough one!
04-26-2006, 09:44 AM
My daughter never took the nukie.
My first son gave his to santa clause right before he turned 2. He left it out with the cookies and milk and never asked for it again bc the next morning Santa had left him toys. It was an exchange.
The baby boy was a little harder and he was a little over two. We went to the beach for the 4th of July and he threw it in the ocean and we told him that was it and that was that. But you know what he sucks his tounge to go to sleep to this day. He just turned 7 in March.Last year we went to the beach again and he saw a nukie in the sand and you know that child said,"hey mom, look, theres my nukie". He says he sucks his tounge bc we took it from him to soon. KIDS!!!
04-26-2006, 11:49 AM
Before I turned 2 I gave mine to Santa so he could give it to another baby. I never asked for it again. I think the fairy idea is good. Or, if you want to be a little more realistic, maybe a friend can stop by to "pick up things" for less fortunate babies?
04-26-2006, 01:36 PM
None of mine took binkies, pacifiers, dummies, whatever you call them. I have one thumb sucker, one who still only occassionally sucks her two middle fingers on her right hand (or is it her left? [whatscratchinghead] ) and my son never used anything. Try getting a thumb sucker to stop sucking, you cant. I cant anyway. [whathelp]
04-27-2006, 04:27 PM
I don't think he'll go to university with it, will he???
haha, thats the way I feel about it too :lol: :wink:
04-27-2006, 08:44 PM
Glad things are working out Julie! WAY TO GO WESLIE!!!!! [cheer] [claploud] [claphigh] ~Kerri
04-28-2006, 10:37 AM
Maybe not university, but there is something disturbing about a kid holding his/her pacifier in his mouth, b/tw his teeth while he's talking! I hate that!
But isn't there also a time when youy SHOULDN'T try and break the habit?
DD is quite an adicted pacifier user. DS never was. BUt DD is a different story. She's 14 months, but with a new baby on the way, a big move (that we are actually in the middle of already!) a few big plane ride, a new culture to adjust too, grandparents to meet...I think I"m gonig to wait it out. Is that wise? Any suggestions?
04-28-2006, 10:40 AM
Oh yah, I would wait it out. She's going to be all weirded out by all the changes! And you guys have HUGE cultural changes to deal with! Something she's never had to deal with before, right???
In fact, I'd buy a few extras!
04-28-2006, 10:47 AM
Well good thing I Have plenty of extras then!
Yeah, she's never been to the states. Quite honestly she's not too fond of white people, so she's in for a shocker...all that family wanting to hold her??
Ok, I'll tackle the pacifier in like September!
04-28-2006, 11:00 AM
Quite honestly she's not too fond of white people, so she's in for a shocker...all that family wanting to hold her??
:lol: :lol: :lol:
05-04-2006, 06:35 PM
My three year old still has one at night- we took it away a few months ago and he cried for a while but got over it in a week or so, but he somehow found one and has been crying for it every waking minute, so we give it to him at night and nap time. We will take it away again when we have a chunck of time to deal with his relentless crying. You just have to be here to know what I mean, relentless. :roll:
I'm glad it is going smoother than you thought. It went smoother for us than I thought too. Sometimes we underestimate what our babies can handle!