At what age do you give your kids The Sex Talk? My kids arent asking me or anything but... My girls are 7 and I still think thats a bit too young to go into great detail. We've gone thru the science of the body and it came up a tiny bit so I think they have a tiny clue. Anyway. at what age did, or do you plan on doing, The Talk?

Well with ds it was when he was 8 years old...almost 9 at the time. He was VERY inquistive and we wanted him to hear the facts and not hearsay about it.

My dd is only 5 now but I'm thinking that around 8 I will also have the talk with her because lots of girls now are menustrating much earlier like around 9 or 10. I was 11 when I started my period but I started growing pubic hair I guess a year or so earlier than that. I don't want her to be scared and I also want her to know the facts and not rely on hearsay.

Best of luck!

Stephanie :D

Well my mom didn't give me the talk til AFTER I started puberty.

This made me really scared b/c my breasts were really hurting really bad... like horrible. well I thought I had breast cancer and that I was going to die but I was too embarrassed to tell, and i thought my chest was swelling up b/c of it. Eventually I did tell because it hurt sooooooo bad and she took me to the dr's, and the doc said it was normal for some girls chest's to hurt b/c the hormones and they can grow really quickly, and the glands can cause some pain (seriously my boobs appeared like overnight).

I was only 9 years old, but I didn't know anything about puberty etc. If my mom had told me earlier I probably wouldn't have thought my chest was swelling up and I was going to die LOL

I think you can talk about purity and puberty w/o getting into sex. But then again, sex is a normal, natural & healthy thing between married people that makes babies, but it will turn into something dirty and perverse if somebody who is not so pure about it tells your kids before you, such as playmates etc.

http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/product?item_no=9843&event=CF
That is the link for the wonderful series of God's Design for Sex Series. We used to have it posted on the old forums. Can't remember who first suggested the series, but it is wonderful.

Raegan and I had the first real detailed, intimate talk when my sister was about to give birth this past spring. She was 9. She knew quite a bit when we talked at 8, but really got into a year later. Now, we are studying a lot about modesty and what that means (like her responsibility towards God, and how that affects boys).

I am a firm believer on if you handle these conversations with honesty, openess and comfort (even fake comfort ;) ) that establishes an amazing relationship into the teen years.

Well, I let God direct each child. And it was different for each one. I let circumstances and their questions and my spirit within me decide. Once I had to say that he was not ready to bear the weight for the answer to his question. That was my oldest who has always been 3 going on 40.

But for the most part I took opportunity to NEVER hide any part of sex information as it is found in nature. Plugging in an outlet is sex information. The male end goes into the female end. I called body parts by their scientific name from the get go. They understood female cycles early on because of various opportunities that presented themselves. I am a nurse so whenever things would arise I would take the opportunity to teach them a few things. Giving them only the info they asked for in simple terms and never more.

But the big spelling it out of what actual intercourse is...and some of the details of their changing body was different for each. I did give them each a book( A Christian based age appropriate written book) around 9-11 yrs depending on their maturation and readiness that talks about changes in their body etc...so they would understand what is going on and not be afraid or embarrassed to talk to me about it.

The youngest had his sex talk infront of the entire family right in the van as we went somewhere. It seemed natural and I was very matter of fact. DH was with me and later said he told me he thought it was God led and perfect! It was also humorous in many ways...as the others listened in. I could tell they were somewhat embarrassed. But he asked a direct question...and I felt within my spirit it was time. He was 11 at the time, the baby of the family.

Anyway...that is how it has gone with us! God will lead you!

My goodness, Rhyanne is only two. My parents got a book from Focus on the Family that discussed it and gave it to me to read. I read it with my mother and we talked about any questions that I had. I think the name of the book is "You are Wonderfully Made." I would recommend it around 8 or 9.

Sara

I think my girls really started asking question around 11 so I would say we had it then. I also allowed them to take the short class at school which talked about it. BUT, I made sure I knew what was being talked about before I let them. I went to the school and spoke to the RN that was doing the class. Then I was ok with it!

Brett is the only child in our family and I realize he knows alot more than most kids his age (will be 10 in May). I don't flaunt myself but he has been known to walk in on me trying to get dressed and such. AND he is very much an animal person so I'm certain he realizes if it works that way with animals it probabl is the same with humans. KWIM.

I recently asked dh when he was going to have the talk with him. He said just as soon as my dad has the talk with me I will have it with Brett. I almost fell out of my chair!

Alicia

My daughter is 6 going on to 7, and is starting to ask question. well, I am pregnant right now, so i guess that could kind of "raise" the questions. I have answered them as truthful, but vaguly as possible - if that IS possible.
i mean, without going in to the "heavy" detail. She has an idea you NEED a dad and mom.
But we think wait for the questions - the child will let you know what they ready for with the questions...
Just last weekend we got the "big question" ... How does daddy's seed get to mommy. Oops.
well, we got a kid's book that my husband & i want read before reading to her. but i think we don't have much time.
I want her to hear from us, and not someone else. also, in a way that tomorrow if she has ANY question, she will come to us first.

All i can suggest... wait till you child asks questions. and answer them as truthfully as possible.
All the best

Well I am soo glad to have all your wisdom passed down for when it's my turn to have "the talk". My daughter turned 6 in November and she is VERY inquisitive but she also knows when it's enough. She asks about babies and things but I have only told her that you need a loving mom and dad and they have to be married, (setting her beliefs) and that they make a baby. So far, she is satisfied with that. But I will tell you a rather funny story, which Mikayla is famous for, that happened a few weeks ago.

She is in Kindergarten and she is advanced so she caught on pretty quickly on blending letters to make words and so on. So, she was practiciing her #s and was spelling S-I-X is 6. And I said that is right Pretty. So she got quite and said,"Well, if s-i-x is six then s-e-x is sex, right Mom?" Yes that is right, (giving my que that she didn't really know much about that or she would have asked me in more detial the next question) "Well, mom what is SEX?" " Well, what do you mean what is sex, MIkayla?" (I kept my composure not to lead on that it was anything more that what she thought, a word she just spelled.) You know MOM SEX. So I just smiled at her and said, "WEll, Mikayla sex in what you check on an application for work and you would need to check female." " Oh okay mom, but what does female mean?" "It means you are a girl."
And that was the end of it for now......

As for what I will say, I will wait for her que and only go as far as I think she is ready. She knows that girls and boys are made differently and what we all have, but she hasn't asked anything more. But I know the day is coming and when it does, I will gladlycome right back here read your examples. So thank you very much!!!!!!!!