So I'm 10 weeks pregnant and here's the history... My boys are ages 6 and 4, and I was totally happy with that, but I never envisioned myself with only 2 kids. So we decided to try again because ds#1 was starting 1st grade and we thought it would be good to give ds#2 someone to play with. Well, I got pregnant first try and the nausea hit 10 days after conception. Now I'm rolling around in misery all day and I just want to hate this baby. I keep wondering why I ever tried again... I wasn't 1/2 this sick with the other boys... I'm just moody and horrible to live with and I kinda just don't even want to ever see another baby. And yet I'm quite sure I'd be devastated if I miscarried... Am I even remotely normal??????

I have until tomorrow to start my period or I'm taking another pregnancy test. Since this will be my first, I obviously can't speak from experience but just wanted to say I can relate in that I am not AT ALL looking forward to these kinds of pregnancy "issues"! I'm probably one of few women who would rather never be pregnant, but there's no way around it if you want to have biological children. I'd be fine with adopting again, but DH really wants to try to have one. So... hoping and praying for a smooth pregnancy.

And labor and delivery... I won't even go there. [halo]

Thankfully, I do have one good friend who feels the same way, so we can't be completely alone in these feelings/thoughts! :???:

There have been times when I hated being sick, but never pregnant. After all it isn't the babies fault, it's the increase in hormones.
What have you tried to help with being so sick?

my 1st preg was really easy even though i couldn't eat or drink anything cos it was straight back up , but my 2nd i have to say i didn't enjoy it at all , don't get me wrong i loved the baby but really struggled with the pregnancy , but had a lot more medical probs so didn't enjoy at all and was in a lot of pain.i guess what am trying to say is that your not alone and it's true your hormones are every where , you feel like you cannot function normally and i used to feel guilty cos i wasn't giving my eldset the attention she was used to , but don't forget there's a lot going on in there espec in the first few months( hay-wire hormones). big ((hugs))

I was in a lot of pain with the twins, they were really "heavy" from about ten weeks on... the bigger I got, the more miserable I was... and I was REALLY sick the entire 35 weeks. I questioned myself about having PRAYED to actually GET pregnant with twins, but as far as having any real feeling of hatred or remorse for being pregnant. Nah, not really. When I did start to feel down about it, I would just go and read up on the stage the babies were in at that time, and try to think about how they were growing... and what was causing my aches, pain, nausea... That really *did* help. Prayer helped a lot too... The Holy Spirit really reminded me of *why* we had more children, WHAT children really were (a blessing from *GOD*), and what children mean to *me* (I didn't think I could have any when we got married). Going over those things... praying... thinking about the baby, it's growth, and the END result of holding a new precious baby... really helped any negative feelings I would have. I'll be praying for you, gal. My biggest hugs~

I was so happy with my first but with my second I had horrible nausea and my hormones were terribly out of whack. I really hated being pregnant. I wanted my baby I just hated being pregnant. After I got past the first half of being pregnant with her I got past being sick all the time and for the most part enjoyed it.

When I did start to feel down about it, I would just go and read up on the stage the babies were in at that time, and try to think about how they were growing... and what was causing my aches, pain, nausea... That really *did* help. Prayer helped a lot too... The Holy Spirit really reminded me of *why* we had more children, WHAT children really were (a blessing from *GOD*), and what children mean to *me* (I didn't think I could have any when we got married). Going over those things... praying... thinking about the baby, it's growth, and the END result of holding a new precious baby... really helped any negative feelings I would have.


I really like these ideas of ways to deal with this. That you for sharing.

I'm praying for you.

I had issues with feeling really sick, anxious and down during my pregnancies - just not myself at all. My hormones were all over the place. Hardly being able to eat for weeks on end took it's toll too. I really, really wanted my babies and loved them from the time I knew I was pregnant. However, there is such a thing as pre-natal depression which can really cloud our thoughts - which is much like post-natal depression but much less diagnosed. I believe that this is what I had - but sadly I did not get much help from my midwife at all dealing with this.

Don't be too hard on yourself at the moment. You know in your heart that you want and love this baby. Make sure that you continue to let people know that you are strugging and take any support that is offered. Having someone to talk to who understands can sometimes be the best help. Make sure you are allowing quiet times for God to speak encouragement and peace to you. I really like what Jen wrote here too:

Prayer helped a lot too... The Holy Spirit really reminded me of *why* we had more children, WHAT children really were (a blessing from *GOD*), and what children mean to *me* (I didn't think I could have any when we got married). Going over those things... praying... thinking about the baby, it's growth, and the END result of holding a new precious baby... really helped any negative feelings I would have. I'll be praying for you, gal. My biggest hugs~