I had a miscarriage/DNC almost 4 weeks ago. Went for my post surgery appt. and found out that the baby was down syndrome. My husband and I are trying to decide if we should try again. We have a two year old that is fne, and I have looked up so much info.,,,but I am wondering if anyone has been there and can tell me what to do to make this decision---ease my mind---


Things are going much better. My meds. have helped stabilize me and I am functioning much better. Still going through LOTS of emotions and only like my husband some days...:) Keep praying for me when you think about it.

Thanks so much

Jaime

I've never been in your situation. but I believe God only puts on your plate what you can handle. I pray things get easier for you. Hugs.

So sorry Jaime! I know your so sad because I can hear it in your post. I don't have first hand experience with Downs but my best friend from high school has a little one with downs. I just did her portraits a couple of weeks or so ago. She is between 6 to 9 months old now and is a real sweet heart. Let me know if you would like me to ask her anything for you. Will keep you in my prayers.

When I miscarried, I didn't have a d&c so they had nothing to test. My doc. told me that when a baby is miscarried, frequently there is something seriously wrong with it. In a way that was a comfort to me, because I knew it wasn't anything I had done. I don't know if miscarrying a baby with Down's gives you any greater chance of another child with it, but you could ask your doctor. Since my miscarriage I've had two beautiful healthy daughters with no complications, but I understand the fear that something may be wrong and the fear of getting preg. again. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk. I'm not sure how old you are but I was 24 when I had mine and then I had dd when I was 25 and my last dd when I was 27, which I am now.:-D

I heard the same thing as Jen, that usually when you miscarry early on it is because there is something wrong and the baby isn't forming correctly. I would ask you dr. the chances of having another baby with Downs that is carried to full term. I know that once you are in your 30's you chance for a down baby increases.
It is something for you and dh to pray about. If you did end up having a baby with Downs it would be from God and He would have given you that little child because He knew you could handle it and would be the best parents for it. But I do understand how overwhelming even thinking about it could be.
Do we have a mama on here with a child that has Downs? I was thinking we did, but I can't think who it is...or even if they still come around.

Here's my two cents.....

Yes our bodies are broken or can be broken because of the fall, but the Lord put together that child exactly the way He did for a reason. There was/is a perfect plan for you and your family that the Lord has and for that short time, He gave you a little person who's DNA wasn't perfect. I know that the "broken pieces" are a hard thing to deal with...we had a son who had missing DNA, but we rejoiced in his composition because it was part of the Lord's perfect plan and perfect will.
I have gone on to have a healthy little girl since Noah. I have to say this.....Don't let fear of what "might" be stop you if you feel led to have more children. The Lord will only open your womb if it's His' will, and the child He blesses you with is exactly what your family needs. I encourage you to trust the Lord that He is in control and knows your heart's desires.
He also knows your heart's pain. Cry out to Him and know that He cares. He lost a child too....who better to share your pain with than the one who gave His son for us!!

I know the road can be hard after a loss...no matter when it occurs, but I hope you can find some peace in the Lord and know that life is going on, and living in fear will do no good.

So I encourage you and your Dh to pray...pray that the Lord's will be your heart's desire. He will give you peace if it's the way.....I really believe that! No matter what the statistics say....He is bigger than all of it!!

Blessings,
Amber

These ladies all posted great words...
I too lost in my second trimester and had a D&C, however they didn't test for 'what' was wrong after the D&C....my OB also told me to lose so suddenly like that usually indicated something was VERY wrong with the baby genetically or formation....
We went on to have a very healthy little boy after that and had a very healthy little boy before the miscarriage.

Such wise words from Amber!

We had two misscarrages between our first 2 kiddos, we now have 4 healthy kids. I have a couple of close family members with disabilities and worried about the health of our babies but you have to just trust in the Lord as Amber said. He knows what is best for you and your family. Praying for you!!!